Would you ever hit a.... CHILD???

Yes thats it. Hitting a child is an abuse. One should never do it.

I had gone to the teacher's place and told her not to do it again. She was a but abusive and told if she was my child. Things are a bit different out here. I guess the child won't be going to that school from this year onwards.

Yes hitting a child do leave permanent damages like emotional disturbances and so on. It amuses me how some people try to justify their acts of violence on child by saying they are just discipling them. Pathetic.

A child could always be taught to be humane by love.

That is no excuse to ever harm a child. Children learn to be violent that way. They learn how to take their anger out that way. It is good that you took that child out of that school. Hitting a child is hitting a child, no matter where it is. It is not the right thing to do. Children are more likely to learn through moral lessons I feel.

HI, Yes a child is like a fine clay, they will mould into human beings the way they are brought up. You have said it right if they are taught to take out their frustrations and anger in the form of voilence then that is what they are learning. And it is a wrong thing to learn.

Thanks for your concern.

I am so happy that the child is influenced by you and turned out to be a good kid. Yes even if you are a bit stern in your actions in order to develop a child to be a good human being love is the essence. As you said even if you have had slapped on her hands there was love in it. Thats the thing, thats what makes a child to be a great human being.

Yup hitting a child is an ABUSE. But most teachers here don't get this simple thing. They kind of get satisfaction by slapping or hurting a child. in my view it is a criminal offense. Thanks for sharing your view.

You need to see this kid by yourself. She is such a cutie. When i say that she is an angel I mean every single word of it. No two kids are similar, this child of whom I am talking is neither stubborn nor a nuisance creator. maybe she didn't recite the poem which she was asked to do in her home.

I hate this teacher who could dare to hit a love like her.

Thanks for your insight, it is appreciated. You have a great day too.

When a child misbehaves or is being that extra naughty that is because he/ she carves for your undivided attention. We as adults have many ongoing thought processes going on at the same time. Then there are a lots of issues which we deal with in our everyday life. Then it so happens that we sort of ignore the child's needs. We simply don't have the time to listen up to them. Thats when we tend to hit a child, I believe and I strongly do that a child can be won over by unselfish love. Hope your son turns out to be a great individual.

Have a great time.

Yup nobody has the right to hurt or spank a kid. At times a parent has to use that resource as last alternative, but I am yet to experience that kind of a situation. Thanks for responding.:-))

Look friend I am not prying but it seems that you are under stress and that resulted in the kind of situations you just mentioned. May I ask how old your daughter is? Sometimes SOME kids have problems while growing up. Like maybe they have noticed that you are depressed or there maybe some other tough issues you are dealing with. A child understands that his/ her loved one is in a kind of trouble. But since they can't do a thing about it they sort of resent. They notice that they aren't getting your full attention, so they would come up with nouvel ways to catch your attention.

I think being a bit diplomatic would help your child.

by the way I want to tell this thing to you and it comes from the bottom of my heart that you seem to be sorry to, for being bit harsh on your kid. To \love your child is important, but you need to understand them too.

As adults we face may a situations in our every day life causing to lose our temper, but we cannot let it to be a hindrance to bring up our child.

Hope I was not getting too personal, forgive me if I was. Thanks

You did mention that you are not a parent. You will not fully understand until you have a child of your own.

As my father have said to me when I was growing up, you are not truely born until you have a child of your own. He also said to me that I will never understand what it means to be a parent. With me going through it twice now, I fully understand what he means.

Ok, I want to ask you, how do handle the situation when you want a child to take a shower, but she refuses to. She want her big brother to take a shower first. But the big brother wants little sister to have a shower first. It is a stale mate between the 2 of them. What would you do? How would you get your youngest one to take a shower when she is fighting and arguing with you?

You truly said it that i am not a parent yet, so I don't probably know what it takes to be one. The situation you mentioned is not that uncommon. My younger brother was very naughty in his young days and this particular incident you mentioned makes me remeber those days.

As I was elder I was the one to act responsibly and had to do it upon the insistence of my younger sibling. Then my mom would keep on saying that look at your brother he has already done it now its your turn and would compel him to do. He would whine but eventually he has to, otherwise mom would threaten that you won't have your lunch if you aren't bathed.

I think any issue with a child is not a stalemate. Things can be worked out. But still I guess it is easier said than done.

You have got it in one. It is certainly not easy.

I try my best to bring the best out of my children. I do reward my children when they have done good. I spoil them rotten with lots of love. Especially when they have done good.

There are alot of good times and then there are alot of bad times. It is a real roller coaster ride. I cherish the good times and praise my children.

If I do compare my children to others I have seen around, one thing I can say, I am proud of my children. They are very well behaved regardless of the bad times. I hope that I can only raise them the best possible way and hope that they will do well in their future.

You will certainly understand what I am saying when you have children of your own. It won't be easy but I am sure that you will do your best. There will be alot of good times, and bad times. But it will be the good times that will wipe away the bad times.

Thats more like you I guess. You sound a bit more relaxed now. Surely I don't have any whatsoever experience of how to handle children, and I completely agree that it must be some task. Could I suggest you one thing.

Don't be too judgmental about yourself, since you are a good person your kids would be great too. You have already said it that your kids makes you proud then thats it. Have a great time parenting.

Cheers.
Bodhi

Thank you. That really means alot to me.

Cheers, dear friend.

Yup violence in any form is detrimental, and on a child is criminal. Thank you for responding.

It is true and amazingly correct, to beat a kid is beating yourself.

Although I have something to say of what you posted here. I agree that a kid does the things which he looks and observes around him, but then there are exceptions too. A kid can be remarkably good in a very unhealthy environment and could be notoriously bad in a very good family, but as iI said these are exceptional cases.

Thanks a lot for your view, I loved your perception on the subject.

well to add to your comment -
there are exceptional cases; yes there may be. to me if there is a good kid amidst a bad environment then the kid is trying to reflct something good about that bad environment. Good and bad complement each other and where there is goo there is bad too and vice versa!
So if a kid is notorious (well i'm not talking about adults here at all) that means someone or some element in that environment is triggering the act in the kid. The challenge is to find the element and to erase it.

Well if you have read "The Kite Runner" you would have found this bullying kid called Assef have been torturing other kids all the way long and has grown up into a saddist adult. Well, i just have a question to ask were the parents not awareof thier kids behavior - or probably one of the parent (or other family member) had a similar habit that was prominently exhibitted by this kid!

Hmmm I had a similar incident, infact a story of a kid in my mind while I was responding to the post. There was this kid you know who from a very young age starts to kill the neighbor's pets, and eventually he kills every body in his family, It is startling how thin gs can turn out to be. Maybe his father was a bit harsh on the kid, as far as I could comprehend the plot.

Thanks again.