I know you have problems, but is that all you can talk about?

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I have a few acquantances who always whine and complain ALWAYS. All they do is complain, not because they want something from you, but apparantly they think their lives suck so bad that they can't ever stop whining or complaining. So recently a few of these people have told us they are mad b/c their friends aren't coming around as much. Their friends are cancelling plans and telling them they are busy, or not answering the phone at all. So we straight up told them that all the whining and complaining is why. Friends don't want to get togeher with you just to hear you whine! Friends want to see you and have a good chat, not a whine-fest. We asked them what they talk about with their friends, and as we expected all they do is whine and complain. So it only seems natural that the friends might not want to be around. The friends might not want to see "debbie downer" when they have free time. Instead, the friends are going to go see someone who can just relax and have a good time. What do you think about this? Even if your life is currently bad, or even horrible, do you think you should spend 24 hours a day whining about it to everyone you know? It's not that the friends don't care, it's that they just don't want to be brought down every time they see you. Do you think it's just impossible for some people to let go of their own problems for a few hours? Would you stop calling a friend if all they did was whine every time you saw them? This may be a confusing post :-D So ask me if you don't get what I'm talking about.