What will you do if your boyfriend/ girlfriend takes you for granted?

the both parts have to be care of this problem, the two of them should respond it,They should make sure why the boyfriend treat the girl in this way now? That is very important. Is she out? Can she take care of him really? Or do they still really love each other any longer? If one of them doesn't love the opposite part, it is better to close the romantic relationship, and get a new friend who does really care about each other. Life is very precious,especially for a young pretty girl, it is unworthy to spending life with a guy who doesn't cherish you.

You know the situation sound familiar to me. in my case Im the one who got neglected and sadly, the relationship broke. The way I said neglecting your partner builds resentments and other negative feelings and these things slowly eats up the very foundation of the relationship. So I would suggest that you start talking to your boyfriend and tell him about your feelings. Start talking about what kind of relationship that you really wanted for both of you. I do hope he responds positively because if not i think you better start rethinking about everything so as not to waste time to a love that is not real.

Taking for granted have many meanings. maybe perhaps the other party has too much problems or things in mind.

but if you are taking for granted that should not be the cause for break ups.


just talk and sit down for the issue be settled.

communication is very important in a relationship. constant communication and constant talking makes it better.

As what you said, your friend has been in this situation for how about a year. I guess you should try different way to advice her, normal advice doesn't make any significant impact. Maybe you can suggest her to travel around, thru this she can direct her mind and open up her mind, and wait herself to discover what's wrong with this relationship.

Sugggest that she should tell him that straight first, -that she is unhappy with the situation and that he is taking her for granted and that she may contemplate splitting up.[if his reasons are legitimate that he has had his work appointments etc or she is already aware that he has good cause, then she would have to tell him that they can meet infrequently when the time is suitable for both. If he does not agree to a via media then she can contemplate breaking up. Let her do an objective analysis of tyhe situation and if otherwise eh is a good person and she likes hi m a lot then there is no point in hurrying a split, because the next one may be even worse.The overall picture must be had in mind with a lot of maturity and same maturity should eb shown by both. One cannot behave like a spoilt brat. RELATIONSHIP IS A TWO WAY STREET AND SHE MUST HAVE AN OPEN TALK WITH HIM ON EQUAL TERMS.

Sometimes love is spelled T-I-M-E. Although I don't suggest jumping to conclusions but I think his actions mean "I don't have time for you." If I may restate that, it could me mean "You're not worth my time." or "You're not my priority, sweetie. Sorry." I don't mean to belittle what you're friend is going through, but this is a painful wake up call for her. I'm sure your friend knows she's not worth some guy who just puts her 10 notches below on his priority lost. Having courage, I think, starts when you know how much your value is worth fighting for. Hopes she overcomes this really fast. God bless.

I think you can ask her to consult a psychologist. I think her timidness is from her past life experience,for example maybe she didn't have a happy childhood,maybe she didn't feel safe or protected, and maybe her father once always took her mother for granted... there are many possibilities. I was once very timid and unconfident,so I turned to a psychologist for help.After the treatment, I feel much better. Once I'm also very sacred of my boyfriend especially when he is angry, and unfortunately he is often angry at me for he knows that he is safe to pour his anger on me because I was to timid to rebel, so I once was almost a emotional trash bin for him. But now, I'm much stronger and will not let others tramble on and psychology helps me to understand myself much better so it provide me opportunities to repair my past hurt. So ask you friend to find a psychologist for help though it may be helpful. Good luck with your friend.