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sunscreen (22)   ranked 21,225 out of 23,397 in relationships7 months ago

If your boyfriend tells you he's got a better job offer and has to move to another city, how would you react? Especially if you can't move together with him, what will you do? Will you agree to a long distance relationship? Will you separate? What is the right thing to do?

 
 
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tags:  relationship, boyfriend, love, long distance, work
 
1. myLot reputation of 79/100. angelsmummy (1037)   ranked 2,335 out of 23,397 in relationships   7 months ago

I would tell him that he has kids to think about and not just himself. Long distnace relationships barely work

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2. myLot reputation of 99/100. Wizzywig (2887)   ranked 3,794 out of 23,397 in relationships   7 months ago

I certainly wouldn't stand in his way or try to stop him. A strong relationship will withstand a bit of distance and he needs to do what's right for him and his life. He shouldn't be put in a position where he has to choose between the job and me. That said, there is no 'right' way - if you are in a serious, committed relationship, you need to talk through your feelings and decide what's the best mutual solution. Good luck.

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3. myLot reputation of 90/100. aerous (2341)   ranked 1,663 out of 23,397 in relationships   7 months ago

I think you need to be an understanding about that case. If he tells you that he moves into other cities to work. Just support him in that aspect. He has the good intentions to do that. It is for your future, that is why he work hard.

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4. myLot reputation of 88/100. khayshenz (1093)   ranked 1,489 out of 23,397 in relationships   7 months ago

I don't know if he'll make a decision to move without consulting with me first. That's just how we are. However, if he has to move (and doesn't have a choice) then we'll probably TRY the long distance thing (granted we're semi-long distance anyway)for a while, knowing that we'll be together in a month or so. If he has to stay there for good - I'll do my best to look for a job there and move with him (i'm not very good with the long distance thing for a long time, I know. Been there done that, never again).

As for what's the right thing to do - that differs from one relationship to the other. For us, we've already talked about the possibility of moving. Or if one person will move, will the other follow. And the answer is yes.=D

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5. ireefairee (24)   7 months ago

I did the long relationship for over a year. We only saw each other at weekends, sometimes only for one night! I have to say it was the making if us beacause we concenntrated on the important things when we met each other and we had all week to sort our own stuff out. We are back living together again and have a year old baby. I also have two other children.
I don't believe in stopping people from doing things but, with a lot of disussions and effort from both of ye. Im sure ye'll come to an arrangement that will suit ye both.

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6. myLot reputation of 87/100. workinggurl (309)   ranked 1,885 out of 23,397 in relationships   7 months ago

I was in this kind of situation before with my boyfriend then now my husband, we were in our 5yrs relationship when he got a better offer from a very good company....at first he turned down the job because I was hesitant and afraid what if it won't worked out for us, but then it was offered to him again months later so I decided that if he really wants the job I won't stop him because I don't want him to have regrets and I'll be the cause of it, so he accepted it and for 4 months it was miserable for both of us, on the 5th month he quit his job coz he said it was not worth it being so far from me and his family happy

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