is this still cheating or is it okay?

Technically speaking, yes it is cheating. I did the same thing. I do not feel that it was right and if I had a chance to do it over again, I would not have done it that way. Fortunately things worked out alright with the new guy and the ex and I divorced. It is really better to do things in a proper order though. What is stopping your gf from getting a divorce? For me, 7 years went by. I did not want to pay for the divorce since I believed it was his fault (infidelity). I stupidly was holding on for a long time thinking we would get back together. That rarely works. It would be best for your gf to go through a divorce and then she will be free to start a new life.

technically, it is still considered cheating in the eyes on the law because they are still married, the marriage contract that they signed is still binding. however, i think the question is very subjective...i dont think that the act is right but i am also not that against what your friend did.

According to the law in the state of Maryland...which was where I was living when my husband and I separated...when one party moves out and establishes a residence someplace else, each party is free to live as a single person. Since single people are free to sleep with whoever they want, it is not cheating. The divorce is the legal end of the marriage but separating is the physical end. Why would anyone expect someone to be faithful to a partner they are no longer living with when the relationship has ended?

It can not be called cheating because the are living separately for sometime. Maybe her husband had already found somebody else. The best thing to do is have their separation a legal one. So that both of them can have freedom to do what they want with their lives.

In legal terms. If you are separated and contact anyone that is not your husband your committing adultery. If contacted anyone that is not you wife. You are committing concubinage. Therefor, your husband committed concubinage and violating the law. You can file charges against him, if you wish. I don't know about you if that is ok for you?

yes i do believe it still is because you still have a bond with that person something that ties you together and no i dont mean kids. kids is a whole other thing. what she should do is get a divorce already. tell her though to not feel guilty whats done is done and you cant reverse or change the past. move on next!!! i hope she doesn't get back with that guy cuz in the long run it will be on her mind and she at some point or other the truth comes out or she will tell on herself because of the guilt that she feels inside. but other than that tell her to move on. she will be fine. if she knows deep inside that it will not move on to getting back together than tell her to not worry no more. either way my mothers always told me what is meant to be will be you or no one but the power of god can change that. good luck with that if you need anything just add me i will be more than happy to help you out with anything else. i love to help and give my opinion if you need it. so just add me if you would like. laters maria