I've become THAT person

I think that personalities are built within you but you also learn from other people. During the last year I have taken a psychology course and it seems to me that you are like her as you have been conditioned to be ike her. You have seen her rewarded for her behaviour and have subconciously copied it. You can unlearn this behaviour by changing little things and keep changing them until you have a personaility transplant!

I think our personalities change as we grow in life. I know that for a fact in myself. I have become a different person just from things i have been through in my life. I do not like being the way I am sometimes but life has pushed me to it.

I'm not sure but I think people adopt certain aspects of people around them as they grow older unacknowledgably whether you want to or not. For example, I do love my mum but she can be an absolute pain and everyone around her I know seems to agree (especially in the family). She has a habbit of moaning about silly things and saying phrases like "Hurry up!" without her needing to. Despite me often telling her off for doing that, I have started to do the same thing without thinking and I really don't want to do the same as I for one know how annoying it can be!

Well I believe we are born with certain traits and we change some due to experiences in life. I think you need to make peace with your aunt. and then make a list of what it was that you did not like and see if it is something that you do without knowing. It is a start and if the things bother very much you will change, it takes sometimes time but it can happen. Good luck. (and do not feel lonely we all been there, if is only a few of us who are aware)

i think it is practiced but there are some characteristics that we inherit from our parents and we can change it if we want to. change, you can do it because you wanted to change. if you think that people are thinking you are self centered then stay out of the 'lime-light', dont attract any attention, share... but sometimes people misjudge us even if we are not really what they think we are. if you think you are not like that, then just tell them they are wrong, and give them the chance to know you more.

Our personalities can be influenced by many things from enviroment to genes my parents were pretty much monsters and I have always made every attempt not to be them repeat the same events in my kids life in order to break the cycle and although I have made progress I have to admit more than once I have looked in the mirror and not like what I saw but it becomes easier as one can admit to themselves they have qualities or traits they do not like you know this about yourself and for the fact you know it and are willing to change it then you are not like your aunt and already on your own path sometimes things that have happened when we are young are so engrained we do not even realize it till way later on in life dont be too hard on yourself but be honest also and work on your shortcomings but i have to agree stay away from the negative source of the cause which seems as if you are doing already Also if you are feeling like you are self centered find ways even if one or two little ways to feel giving volunteer to help somewhere even an hour a week it will help you but also others but in the end i can say you will get more out of it something money can not buy just a thought

I definitely don't think you are born a certain what and I will try to explain why I think that way. My sister and I are both adopted. We were both adopted when we were very young (3 weeks old). My parents (my adopted parents) and I are alot alike. Actually if you had a bunch of parents in a line and me on the other side of the room, you would definitely match me up with my parents even if you never met us. We are that much alike! So obviously I was born a certain way, but I do believe you adapt to your environment. On the flip side, there are certain things that my parents do (or ways that they act) that I am completely the exact opposite. I think when we get a certain age we realize there are some traits that we don't like about ourselves that we try to change. For example, I am terrible at interrupting people...my mom does it and I picked up that terrible habit. I know that I interrupt people and I usually always apologize for doing it, but atleast I am aware of my bad habit and I try to change it (usually with little success...but I keep trying). Anyways, I don't know you so I can judge, but I might ask the advise of a good friend and tell them to be utterly honest with you. I sure if they are a good friend they will tell you if they think you are self-centered.