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myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion7 months ago

Of course I'm being smart with the subject question but seriously...I'm pissed.

I have a 5 year old son that is going with his father this weekend. Today, actually like 10 minutes ago, I get a call from his father informing me that my son will be attending a Baptism with him on Sunday. (4 day notice) and that I need to send him with dress clothes.

Ummm....grrrrr...

I told him what I have and "that's not good enough" he says....

I do not regularly buy my son all kinds of dress clothes unless I know FOR SURE that we are going somewhere to wear them. I mean, with the way he grows out of clothes, dress clothes are something I would normally buy on an "as needed" basis...and he is leaving with his father Friday and I don't get paid until Saturday and the idiot won't fork over any cash to take his own son shopping...

We don't go to church. Let me just clear that up...so no, I don't have a stock pile of dress clothes for my children. I teach my kids our beliefs on God, etc and teach moral values. I also teach them a little bit of what different religions believe (@ proper age level).

My ex has taken him to church hit or miss and I don't mind. He goes in tan or blue pants and a collared shirt....which is apparently find for that church..

Now..all of the sudden - that's not good enough....not for this church

Now...all of the sudden - it's not appropiate enough for God....not in this church

Apparently God cares about the clothes you wear.

I'm so pissed!!!!

I don't even believe in Baptism....so this is just extra irritating for me. Not trying to slander those who do believe - like I said, I don't mind that he goes and learns about it all as I am about allowing my children to grow - love - learn and make their own decisions based on intelligence and what they feel in their hearts - - -not try to force feed them something and tell them they will burn in hell if they don't believe it.

What is your opinion?

Should someone be turned from a church function because of a "Dress Code"??????? Maybe I should let him go in what he has and if they treat him badly (which apparently I am told will happen - mind you my son is 5! - 5!!!) then he can start to learn about nasty people and their materialistic mindsets. Jerks.

 
 
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tags:  dress code, church, religion, mature content, baptism
 
1. myLot reputation of 82/100. Boofybutt (208)   ranked 5,100 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

I always tell people "If God intended us to wear clothes we would have been born with some on"
My kids are 8 and 6 so I know all about them growing out of clothes faster than you can buy them. I always figure if someone doesn't like what I put them in, or they want them to wear something else they can go buy it themselves.


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

I know! It seems like everytime I turn around I have to buy new clothes!! Thanks for the response...

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2. xcrizzx (55)   ranked 7,765 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

Jenny, If God had a "DRESS CODE" then none of us would have been born naked.
We would have been extracted from our mother's womb wearing the best Sunday clothes with ties and shiny black shoes and thick dresses that would have required doctors to have tailors as nurses to expertly rip and sew back the dresses just to cut our umbilical cords...

These so called "society" that governs our government and churches have gone too far with their hypocritical ideas that they use "GOD" as an excuse...

Go figure...


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

I agree...people do many terrible things - all claiming that it is on behalf of their God

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3. myLot reputation of 64/100. ulalume (515)   ranked 259 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

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Natasiamog (56)   ranked 3,818 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

I think ulalume's first line here says it all
YOUR EX IS OBVIOUSLY AN ARSE
I had a little chortle when I saw your post Ulal cos its so apt and to the point
Nat


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

I have decided to let him go with what he has. After all, why should I buy additional clothes when I don't really feel it's needed. I don't want my children thinking that they have to dress or act certain ways to gain the approval of certain people....Thanks for the response!

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4. myLot reputation of 95/100. dreamr802 (781)   ranked 7,755 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

Wow. Well I can understand about having your son dressed nicely for a baptism. Churches are very different. My cousins are Italian Catholic and their church is very formal so you are expected to dress nicely in slacks and a button down shirt for men and nice slacks/skirts/dress for women. Now on the other than I grew up Lutheran (we took my mom's religion) and since our church is so small and has no air conditioning it was accepted to wear shorts and tank tops during the summer months.

For a little kid especially 5 years old, what does your ex expect him to wear? A suit? I mean com'on. For a baptism, even Catholic baptism, tan slacks and a cute little shirt or a polo would definitely be acceptable. If your ex doesn't think that the clothes that you have for your son are acceptable, I would send them with your son this weekend and if he wants him to wear something "nicer" according to him, let your ex be forced to buy new clothes for your son.

Good luck.


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

I think that someone should be allowed to go into a church in ratty clothes if that's all they had...after all, church is supposed to be about more important things than clothes...but...I decided to pack a pair of nice kaki pants and a striped polo shirt.

I just think it's funny that he's all the sudden concerned about what clothes my son wears to this event because it's the "right" thing...when he has noooooooo room to talk about what other people do with their lives. He's the LAST person that should be judging others...

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5. myLot reputation of 70/100. createmoney (135)   ranked 7,769 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

the dress code that god's want, simply to say being modess.


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

Thanks for the response!!

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6. myLot reputation of 77/100. sumanadep (278)   ranked 7,757 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

Well God does not have any dress code...but visiting church or any holy place will have a dress code...dress code only mean that you need to be dressed in decent clothes because in there, there are people whom we respect...there are people who come there only for peace and to feel the presence of God...your dress may distract them...they come there with some belief and you need to consider them...and if you are not ready to dress well to go there...you can simply make you wishes at you home because God is everywhere....


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

I agree - Higher Power is everywhere and I don't believe that people have to be in a church to worship or pray to what they want. The thing is though, many churches claim to teach about loving everyone and sharing "the word" but then they don't want people in their church that do not follow their dress code because of a "distraction"? It seems odd and out of place.

If I was in church and was there for the purpose of worship or prayer - someone else and their clothing would not be a distraction because I wouldn't be there for other people - I'd be there for me...

It just seems that church has become more of a place of socialization than anyhting (most churches at least...not all)


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7. myLot reputation of 96/100. tjades (1414)   ranked 468 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

As far as I know modesty is all God requires. Introducing soeone to the hypocrasy of any group is the best thing you could maybe do for them If they chose to become a part of that group or to not to be a part of it then they will be making a most inforned decision.

If I was in your shoes Id simply tell the guy he child as no such clothes so he should be prepared to do some emergency shopping when he picked up the child, if it is so imprtant to him. I would also still pack the best of what I have.

Church is a fantastic place. If only we were able to get past all the human barriers which some figure we must mount to get to God.


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

I too believe that church could be a nice place if it wasn't for all of the people out there trying to control others - get rich - and slander those who don't follow. If more people started practicing what they preach, churches could be a nice place...

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8. myLot reputation of 15/100. islander7 (3886)   ranked 7,637 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

This is another example of the stipid ritualistic dogma of religion. What clothes was your child born wearing?


myLot reputation of 60/100. darkjedi1 (752)   ranked 1,924 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

Damn right.


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

Exactly. It's stuff like this that has turned me away from churches.

Thanks for the response!!

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9. myLot reputation of 80/100. deewinc (3085)   ranked 3,771 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

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myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

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10. myLot reputation of 95/100. sid556 (10899)   ranked 1,393 out of 9,727 in religion   7 months ago

I really doubt the church cares about what your son is going to be wearing. I imagine they'll be focused on the child getting baptised...or they should be anyway. It sounds to me like your ex is just giving you a difficult time. Pants and a collared shirt should be just fine. If not, I would tell the ex to buy what he feels is suitable.


myLot reputation of 91/100. jennysp8 (579)   ranked 46 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

I hope so. Part of me wanted to buy the stupid clothes just because I want to "protect" my son from the nasty people. But, I decided against it. Hopefully nothing will happen but if it does, it will be a good lesson for him to hear.

I did tell my ex to take him shopping but that won't happen. Beyond child support (which is not always there as he's been to court 2 times in past 4 years) he has never bought him a single piece of clothing. He won't do anything that's not court ordered.

Thanks for the response!!


myLot reputation of 95/100. sid556 (10899)   ranked 1,393 out of 9,727 in religion  7 months ago

ya ...my ex is like that...He doesn't pay child support at all (long story) and doesn't help out at all. She was recently in a wedding on his side of the family and initially, it was set up for me to take her in to get her gown and fitted & all. I didn't mind that part but paying for the gown....I put my foot down. It actually worked...he paid.

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