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myLot reputation of 82/100. lenapoo (389)   ranked 410 out of 11,685 in love5 months ago

I know that this may sound weird, but I and some of my friends were having a discussion the other day and one of them had asked the question could we ever date outside of our race. I said that I hadn't, but at the same time I wouldn't deny feelings for someone based on their skin color. An then one of the other girls had made a comment that was a bit disturbing to me. She had said well, I am sorry, but that is just plain disgusting I would never consider being with anyone that wasn't my own species. I couldn't do it. We all looked at her and frowned and made commments in reaction to what she had said. I thought it was a horrible thing to say. I mean no one should be judged by the color of their skin because no one can change who they were born to or how they were born. What is your take on this? How do you feel about interracial couples and dating?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 98/100. amybrezik (1053)   ranked 3,525 out of 11,685 in love   5 months ago

It sounds to me like your friend is ignorant since we are all of the same species. I myself have not dated outside my race unless you count my preschool boyfriends. But, I am like you, if I had feelings for someone, I wouldn't supress them simply because they were of a different race. There is a saying, you can't help who you love, and there is truth to it. We are in the new milinuim and I don't understand how people, now can have views like that. I don't blame you at all for being disturbed by the comment.

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2. myLot reputation of 88/100. KOREILLY23 (249)   ranked 4,347 out of 11,685 in love   5 months ago

I dated an african american when I was in HS and I am white . We only went out for about 6 months . He lived pretty far away so it just didn't work out . Both of our parents were cool with us dating each other . It never was a big deal to us

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3. myLot reputation of 89/100. nicholejade (1607)   ranked 2,629 out of 11,685 in love   5 months ago

Your friend sounds like she is quite cruel. And honestly there is no place for that. If that is her opinion she should really of kepted that to her self. I really don't mind dating of another race I have done it in the past however I am engaged to the same race as me as I fell in love with him. But if I fell in love with someone else I would be with them. I wouldn't deny my feelings for that person.

Oh I just had to say if she doesn't date outside her species what does she date then. They are species of the same kind as well. Had a little chuckle on that one.

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4. myLot reputation of 52/100. ds6413 (1896)   ranked 1,815 out of 11,685 in love   5 months ago

Hello lenapoo, yes I would. As a matter of fact I married outside my race. We ended up getting divorced but it was that we were not compatible that led to the divorce.My b/f now is similar to my race.Only problem is with his aunt who thought I was too old for him. I told him I'm not dating her I am dating you! make up your mind if you wish to contine seing me.He was orphaned as a child and one of his aunts took him in but never made him feel like he was part of her family. When he met me,my family made him feel like he was already family. But before my b/f I would consider dating any race.

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5. myLot reputation of 82/100. sk66rc (2212)   ranked 3,428 out of 11,685 in love   5 months ago

Just like with everything else, everyone has their own preferences in dating. I wouldn't put it as "disgusting" as your friend did. At the risk of sounding a bit racy, I don't see anything wrong with not wanting to date outside of their own race. Am I a racist because I don't like Italian food or Indian food? Am I racist because I don't like watermelons & fried chickens? Am I racist because I only like Hondas & not Ford or Chevy? Am I a racist because I like rock & roll & I don't like raps or punks or head banging heavy metals? I don't have anything against Italians or Indians or blacks or whites. But at the same time, I don't think all those things I mentioned are "disgusting". Don't get me wrong. I myself am involved in an inter-racial relationship. I live with a girl who's outside of my race. My girl friend is part Irish & part German. I have a mixed daughter from my previous relationship. My daughter is, obviously, part Korean & part Scottish & German. Now, my point is, it's one thing to have a preference, but it's another thing to think it's "disgusting". I don't think it's right to think another human being is "disgusting" based on their race or color of their skin. We all belong to human race, or human species. I admit & do understand some cultural differences do exist. Some people might have hard time adjusting to that. That might be enough for some people not to date out-side of their own race. I don't think the way your friend thinks is right. Just my opinion.

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6. myLot reputation of 63/100. kspezza09 (100)   5 months ago

To be honest i don't base people by there skin color i base them by there ability to be a friend a nice person to me. Although i do find my race more attractive i think that is personal oppinion not racism.

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7. myLot reputation of 94/100. sid556 (10250)   ranked 1,264 out of 11,685 in love   5 months ago

sorry but your friend is ignorant. we are all the same species. I went on a couple of dates with a black man but we were really really good friends for so long that it was just too awkward so we just left it at friendship level. If I were attracted to a person of another race, by all means, I'd have no problem in dating that person. I have been attracted to men in other races but we just have never dated...wasn't mutual or they were taken.

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8. myLot reputation of 65/100. nitu1952 (164)   ranked 6,562 out of 11,685 in love   5 months ago

yes,quite a few times i had dated outside our race.i had dated ever one white british person.i have barely given myself t6ime to be completely single since i started dating. as it was a ver great moment for me to dated white british women outside the race.

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9. myLot reputation of 87/100. hairypits (212)   ranked 8,123 out of 11,685 in love   5 months ago

I think your friend sounds very outspoken!!!

I think too it is a terrible thing to say but unfortunately that is her opinion (but nothing more). I would definitely date outside my race. I am white and from England and my best friend is half iranian. I have many clients through my work who are in interracial relationships and I see it as normal. My dad is quite old fashioned and would have an opinion on that sort of thing but would keep it to himself ultimately.

What I do have a problem with is a woman having multiple partners of different races and having children with different fathers. I know a girl of only 24 who has a greek child, a white child and black child - she is white. The reason I have a problem with it is knowing the psychological damage it can have on these kids knowing they all have different fathers and not looking anything like your siblings could give them confidence and self esteem issues and make them vulnerable to bullying. I equally have problems with any woman having children with many men of one race but this makes it less obvious because of them all looking similar.

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10. myLot reputation of 93/100. overwings (3602)   5 months ago

I didn't really do it but it is surely because I never had much contact with people of other races. Now that there a lot more immigrants around here the chances would be a lot bigger than before but I am already out of the market. Anyway there were a couple of cases inside my family and even a marriage with children and everybody was happy with it.

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