Would you tell them you disapprove knowing they might turn their backs on you?

i would speak to another close relative and tell them what is going on and see if the two of us can help the person that is going do the wrong road. if what the two of us tell the person going down the wrong road helps that person and he/she does no speak to me then it is worth talking to him/her. someday that person will know that i was only trying to help them.

I have actually done this. The person was/is my grandaughter. She was stealing from me. I told her mother and stepfather. She told them it wasnt true and they sided with her. She doent talk to me anymore. I know beyond all doubt that she was guilty. Otherwise i never would have said anything. Im hoping that with age she will see the error of her ways and speak to me once again.

Depends on how close you are to the people in question, and how much you personally really care about them.

Simply being a "friend" or "relative" does not mean you are really close. Being close means someone they trust, and they know you would only say what you need to say, because you actually want the best for them.

Further, if you really care for them. Even if you are somewhat close, if in the back of your mind, your thoughts revolve around "well they deserve what they get" or "not my problem" or anything to that effect, then be aware that it may come out in the way you approach them, even if you don't mean to.

Finely if you can safely say your are close enough, and you care enough, then the bottom line is, you should talk to them. Why? Because if you see they are on a road to destruction, and you do nothing, you really don't care much for them do you? You are showing through action, that you are more of an enabler, than a helper.

And might they reject you? Absolutely. If your child is running towards the highway, are you going to not try and stop him on the grounds that he might reject you? Of course not.

If your friend is driving his life over a cliff... what's the difference? If you are sure of what you know, and you care that much, you'll be willing to stake your friendship on what is best for your friend.

i think it is definely worth trying and if it doesnt work atleast you know you tryed and then in the future they might come back and thank you wishing they'd listened

I think my answer is yes even if they turn their backs on me. I had once told a friend that her getting marry with a certain man was a bad idea and that she would have to think twice before really jumped into marriage. She was angry at first at my saying so but then she began to understand that it was out of good will. She married that guy anyway, but we are still friends. I always believe in doing what I think is right because those who care for me wouldn't mind and those who mind I don't care.

I will tell them the disapprove...
i can't ignore the facts after i've noted, and i can't conceal the feeling due to their behavior and words,so i should tell them about all....

I am not their mother so I wouldn't say "What you are doing is Wrong." but if they are doing something I think will harm them, I would just tell them that Iam worried for them and I hope they will stop.If they take this as yelling or mothering and turn their back on me, it is on them. I spoke from the heart and I would be sadden that they didn't herar me but I would be pleased that I said something.