My marriage is Over! Have mixed feelings but am surviving!

i'm sad to hear this. hope everything tunrs out well and you'd be able to survive through this ordeal! :)

I'm sorry you and your kids have to go through such a terrible thing. I can't speak to divorce, since I've never been through one, but I can help you with moving forward. You said the words yourself.. "The divorce was finalized" So many people say those words, but never really finalize anything. For all sorts of reasons, they continue to make demands on the "ex"... which says nothing was "final" in their heart, even if it is on paper. This might seem strange to tell you with all that's going on, but aside from the legal obligations (alimony, child support) let the ex go. If he's the lying user you say he is, then your kids are better off without him in their lives. My ex won't do this... my ex won't do that... well, how "ex" is he if you are still basing your life around his decisions? You two had children together, so of course, there will always be that connection. You each have the rights and responsibilities stated in the divorce decree. That means you and he will always have as much to do with each other as your compliance with the decree allows. If he just disappeared from the lives of yourself and your kids, then don't keep acting like he's still part of the decision making. Don't force him to be something you don't want him to be in the first place.

Wow. I'm so sorry. Is the court going to pursue alimony and child support?

Hi, I know it's hard. I've been there. Just take it one day at a time. You might not like hearing that but that is all I can tell you. Also PRAY! Concentrate on your children, they need you, that goes without saying. I wish you all the best!