Love and Friendship .... what if you want both and the other wants only one?

Unfortunately this happens now and then, and it's part of life. I think most of us have been here before. Most times it's better to have the friendship than nothing at all, but I am the jealous type and sometimes cannot take it. I have had a big crush on a married man but never said anything about it to anyone, and I have also had a crush on a homosexual man, but what's the point? I am still friends with them, and that means more than anything to me.

This could be tragic. Though it's a lot better to fall in love with a friend at the same time, it's also a lot difficult. Spending more time together and getting to know each other really quite well are two of the requisites for a successful and healthy relationship but sometimes, people just get stuck and used to in the friend zone that even when one starts to fall, the other one is either scared or simply doesn't feel and see the relationship, friendship is all he/she sees with the other one. This is quite hard to deal because in some ways, it can really affect the friendship. The other one might feel bitter because his/her love wasn't reciprocated and the other one might feel some guilt for hurting his/her friend. There's no forcing the issue and if one doesn't feel to have a relationship, it should not move on. Instead, the best way to deal with it is to accept the fact that such relationship isn't meant to be (maybe just for the moment) and continue to be good friends (though it would be a lot difficult either for one or both). Who knows, out of such friendship a very good relationship will bloom in the future. It's a risk but I think it's worth taking.

i think this is the most difficult situation one has to ever come across in case of relationships.The best possible way is to be frank to one another leaving all the misunderstandings behind.In saying so I can assure that it requires a lot of guts to do this.remember,fortune favors the brave

To me, unrequited love is always the most painful. To be near someone, yet we can't treat them as our lover except as friends. In situations like these, my heart always goes out to the person that has the one-sided love. I've experienced it once or twice before as well, and it really is painful. To really like someone but for them to never think of you no more as a friend really hurts. The worse is that I want to be near the one I really like but at the same time, I don't want to be near them at all because they serve as a symbol of my unrequited love. I feel for your friend and this is one of those heartbreaks in life that everyone has to go through in life at one time or another. But I think it is necessary for this to happen sometimes in life because otherwise, how are we going to eventually find that one special person. Not everyone we like is going to be our special person. I believe that if two people are meant to fall in love and be together, it will happen regardless of how long or how hard it takes. Fate will always bring them together. Having one-sided loves let us see that maybe the person we like isn't meant to be together with us. There will be heartbreak, but we mend our hearts and continue to search for that special someone that I truly believe would be there for you to find when the time is right.

my guy friend ask for my opinion about the changes he sees on his girl bestfriend and he feels like his bestfriend is sending him signals that she wants more than friendship and he told me that i want her as a friend only, i dont feel anything for her at all except pure friendship, and i told him then u should keep your distance to her coz maybe she misinterpreted your actions,lately both of you are going out together constantly, lessen the going out together.
i even told him, why dont you court her and see if you're relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend will work out coz both of you are already comfortable with each other and have been friends for a long time, but he said that no matter how he deeply he's groping if there is something he feels in his heart for her, he really cant feel anything except friendship.