I have a question for other mothers out there.  

It is absolutely same with my children too, every now and then they keep saying I talk in a loud voice and even the normal speech I make they say sounds like an order, in a loud voice. I think we in our idea to correct their mistakes or make them do something may sound a little excited and stern and this they term as yelling. I think we should ask them how they will react if the situation was the same.

Oh man, I feel your pain, stephwrites. I get accused all the time of "yelling" when I am simply speaking in a louder tone of voice than my normal level. I'm also informed routinely that I don't get told things or I'm not kept apprised of a situation "because you'll yell."

I openly admit that I once had anger management issues. I went through a serious depression years and years ago and part of that saw me flying into a rage over the most insignificant things. I got help for it and I did everything I needed to do to correct the behavior and get past it. I work REALLY hard at NOT yelling, and at controlling my temper, so it hurts me to no end when I'm accused of yelling and I know I'm not.

I really think it's about perceptions. It's pretty hard to tell someone else how to think or "hear." I think children hear tone first, content later. I don't know that there is an actual "solution" but here's what I do. First, I reiterate that I am not yelling. I acknowledge that, yes, I am upset or frustrated by something and then I calmly and very clearly explain what the "something" is. If it's any consolation at all, it does seem that they develop a "thicker skin" about this as they mature and acquire a greater understanding about their interactions with other people.

children do not like when their parents reprimand with a high voice. according to the experts, reprimand children with high tone of voice is not very good for children. we must be patient in facing the child.

She probably doesn't mean 'yelling' as in shouting, she probably means it as in scolding. Like, "yelling at" someone sort of refers more to the way you're talking to someone, and not necessarily only the volume. If someone were to come lecture me because I had done something wrong I would describe it "yelling at me" even if they weren't loud- but just to describe how they were talking to me- like in a kind of angry, nagging, or scolding way perhaps.

Even in my case I think I am having a loud voice and my daughter too complain for the same. I think in the whole area my voice is the top most when I am scolding at them. I have two wonderful kids and sometime they test my patience. Fighting is like daily habbit the best way to stop that I do not interfer in their matter and if the matter goes out of hand I exoplain them that they are both responsible for the situation. Earlier all the family member use to complain that I beat them very much so I change the tatic I stop interfering in their matter and they solve themselves or other family members solve it. So the matter is just watch from the close distance without a word and then after sometime they them selve realise that that's not correct and stop fighting or I just say one word if the matter reaches me and i.e. tit for tat which is already done and the justice have been made. So now less yelling and more of constructive realtionship building going on.Try this. Stop caring for each and every action but keep a close watch.

I'm sure you have done this already, but being a girl and being sensative,
you just have to sit down with her and let her know that your not meaning to yell, you do love her. it's just sometimes when she does things she shouldn't it makes mommy a little upset. but no matter how upset, you still love her.
sometimes kids deal better when you just kind of talk to them.
you make sure your serious about it and that their getting the point and your not messing around. but just lovingly and stern.

sometimes when a mom sits with her daughter and just has those loving talks and spending that quality time together, that does so much for children.