Living with parents after marriage,is it shameful?

it's not shameful friend, but unwise. a married couple should live together and make own living. they become one, not two people anymore. however, a married couple may live with parents, just in case that the parents are not in a stable physical condition, thus they need help.

I do not think there is any problem living under the same roof with parents and others after one gets marriage. Earlier when there was joint family system people would live all in a single house but room would be different for different members.

I do not understand what is there to be ashamed of living with parents. This is the mentality of the nuclear family where sons get separated after they are married and there is a legit cause too. If the son is a job holder and is in a distant place he surely has to take his wife along.

Personally, if I've a choice, I'd rather stay with my parents after getting married so that I'm able to take care of them instead of living far away. The problem of being shameful is not a problem at all. People perceive it to be shameful because of stereotype - get married, get out of the house and be independent. Everyone does that. It shouldn't be that way. In your cousin's case, it shows clearly that they have to live with their parents because of financial problems, so they can't afford a house. I do not see a big problem here. Parents give birth to you, and now you want to be ashamed to live with them? It just doesn't make sense. Privacy - maybe that's a more acceptable reason.

Cheers!

I think it is considered shameful in a western country. But, in India usually people stay with parents after marriage. I would like to have a mother in law who cooks food and packs my lunch to take to office by the time I get up. At the same time I would like it if the inlwas will leave us to be in our own space.

Now a days rent is very high and it is good if your parents house is nearby your work and you get a chance to stay there. Staying at parents house has its own advantages and disadvantages.

It is not so in our country mainly when the guy lives with his parents. It si actually very common in most families here when after marriage the Girl stays with teh Guy and his family. It is not just for money but it is like custom here.

As far as I know, the traditional Chinese ideology encourage people to live with his/her parents. It is considered as a pride if "four generations live under one roof", which is an emblem of happinese.
Time goes by and things are changing.
Nowadays in big cities, even the countryside, in China, young couples prefer to live apart from parents. But there is no denying that there are still many "big families". of course the old way of living method is not criticized.
I also must mention that the "only one child" birth control performed in the past decades and the far from perfect social security make many old parents can not help but rely on their one and only one child. Moreover, the house price is too expensive, as much as an astronomical figures for most of the yough couple. So, living together with your parens is indeed a practical approach.

Of course, it is not a shameful thing, but definitely it's a hard thing to do. A young couple wants some privacy ( you know...) and living with parents often can be very frustrating. I witnessed many situations when couples thought to be very strong were desintegrating when you would least expected to do so. And the invoked motif was: " I couldn't stand anymore to live with my in-laws, it was awful".
Yet, when there aren't money for buying a house you don't have other choice but to continue to live with your or his/her parents. You either try to get over all those nasty situations and mind your own bussiness or...you begin to upset and when this does happen it's a great sign that your situation it's not too good.

There used to be a show on tv called dallas. They were a rich family, super rich. Well, the family all lived together in their mansion, parents, sons, their wives, and children....

Seems to me, it's a good way to build up a little wealth, as long as those who can work, work.

Also, when the mexicans come into the US, well, they seem to all move into one house. It cuts down on expenses so they can send more money home to their families.

Me, I have two grown sons at home that are welcomed to stay here as long as they are working, looking for work, or going to school. The cost of living is so high, and quite frankly, I would rather they stay here with us than shack up with a girl and end up being fodder for the child support system for the next 18 or more years!!!


I also think that we would have less problems if the extended family was stronger. It's much easier to have a few aunts, grandmas, ect. around if you need a babysitter on short notice! Not to mention the advice and support that can be given.

It's not shameful, I think it's just stupidity to that says it is!

Marriage surely means commitment,when the two married people are said to be married then this commitment should be on the part of both the individuals.Staying with parents,with the fear of loosing money is shameful indeed.Situations are there when,this stay cannot be refused,in case of a ailing father or mother it's the commitment on the part of the new couples to look after their father.A house may be a reason,a responsibility,and also the bond that's too strong before one gets married.Shamefulness can only be felt if the couple lives for a long time under their parents money and with all the couple's expenditure met.

I do not think that it is shameful but sure is distasteful unless you are living with the parents to care for them or something like that. I think most married couples should live away from their parents home though and have their own family life.