Things I Have Learned Over the Past 30 Years  

I am not really in contact with anyone from school. I was neither popular or unpopular. I was kind of in the middle and to that extent practically invisible. As my school was all boys I can hand on my heart say that I never dated any of them - but no doubt a few did! I muddled through school with no particular aim except to leave! I would not wish to go back. I have been focused and unfocused in my life. Right now I am probably unfocused in terms of "career". I am happy playing with my friends on here. That probably explains a lot!

Hey Bo,

This is a great post. It takes us back to where our lives really began. In elementary school we were too young to care. I got along with everyone. Then you begin to change physically, if you know what I mean! Your whole life starts to change. You and I would have been good friends. I was intimidated by the phony populars. Somehow my loud twin became a girlfriend of one of the populars. He was really a sweet guy and his sister was always very sweet as well. There were a few populars who were nice to us, because they weren't phonies, just popular because they had money. But the money didn't change them.
But I always hung out with the "Geek Girls". They were real. My twin wasn't happy to hang out with us Geeks, she wanted to be special among the populars.
I just recently have been in contact online with some of my classmates. A lot of the populars over the years have become real and a lot still haven't. If I was physically able to, I would go to my re-union this year but that aint gonna happen.
I could actually feel the changing process within me. It's nice to grow up!! Hugssss

leenie

I was painfully shy back then and now I'm not so painfully shy. I haven't actually gone to any of my reunions and I'm not sure I would now that I've moved away. It would really surprise me to find out if anybody was jealous of me though! Then again I didn't date no jock either...

I have never been to one of those reunions. Never even been invited actually.

Hmmm, high school. Do I really want to dredge up memories of that period in my life? Let me just say that one time one of the popular upperclassmen saw fit to speak to me one day in the hall. He made a deliberate effort to get my attention and say high. My imagination soared for days although my common sense told me that he was probably just making a point or trying to shake up his regular girl friend.

There were several times I was convinced that I knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life. I have never followed through on any of those certainties though.

Even now I am not to sure about my place in this world. I do have a few friends and I have accomplished a few things but I have definitely not lived up to my potential.

I don’t have many contacts with my past.
Also I think I’m little different from previous one.
I did see some old friends who were in same school before last year. But when we talked I felt difficult to find common language. The topics were all about children, husband, flats and stocks. I felt boring with these topics. Also I felt old friends were just polite as well as jealous of what I have now.
I don’t think I changed too much inside, but my friends thought I changed a lot, especially after I moved to the UK. It’s a little shame. but what I can do it’s life.

I was very shy and quiet when I was in school, and I had few friends. My classmates didn't really know me, it was my impression that they actually liked me, and they often invited to their parties and other things, but I was very shy and I often chose to stay at home instead.

I have met a few of my classmates after we left school, and it was fun to talk to them and hear about the life that they had now. It could me interesting to meet some of my other classmates, but I have never been to any class reunions. I think that I have changed quite a lot since I left school. I am still shy in some situations, but not like I used to be, and I have become much more talkative. Some people would say that I talk too much now

Believe it or noooo..I was entirely different. I was in there, but I hid. Introverted, shy, insecure, bookish(ok..I'm still bookish). I didn't come out of my shell until I went to work and HAD to. I didn't really start liking myself or feeling good about myself until I was in my mid 30's. I had NO idea what I wanted to do with my life.

I'm not in contact with anyone I went to school with, but when I've bumped into ex-classmates in the past, most have been quite surprised at how I am and at what I'm doing with myself these days. I was very disruptive, argumentative and forthright in High School and it was pretty much expected by most people that I'd end up an underachiever or in a world of trouble! The fact of the matter is that I was no different to most kids and I built up my own wall to protect myself from many aspects of my life as best I can. I just so happened to choose a more aggressive form of barrier. This cheerleader you mention was protecting herself too, but chose a different type of barrier; so I agree wholeheartedly with what you're sharing here about us all being the same. You didn't know how to fake things to the same level that she did, so she probably resented that you could be YOU and she couldn't. (Even though she didn't realise you were just as insecure as she was, but handled things differently)

I still have some of the traits I had back then, sure; but overall I'm a different person. I'm far more confident for one, but I still have my barriers and I still use various forms of misdirection to hide certain emotions and feelings. I'm nowhere near as aggressive anymore and thankfully time has taught me to think before I act. I'm certainly not as angry anymore either. A little jaded at times maybe, but not so angry! Great discussion topic here Diddly!

like you, except I never even dated any one - but its been nearly 40 years for me

man, do i have a story to tell. i came into college. i am a very shy person. i know exactly what i wanted to do in life. i made a junior friend. turns out he was a bully. it was hard for me to get out off the situation. i didnt get out until finally, near the end of my sophomore year a friend told me to do want i wanted to do. so my friend, who is also a friend of this bully, i told him that i was leaving. i made sure i couldnt be found by the bully.

this bully was a mental bully, he wanted me to get laid, build a outstanding resume and be important in the world. only everyday i would hear how i am a piece of sh** and do everything he wanted me to do. i couldn't even go to sleep when i wanted.

so my friends now are basically what i called "the ku klux klan of (bully name) because they were once friends of his until they realized who he really was. only they weren't bullied.

i have a 2.295 gpa, in a major that the bully picked for me(which i hate) and have hardly any friends(because i used to follow the bully around all the time). i still hope to accomplish my goals and what i want to do but know it will take a much longer time to get there. What i wanted to do is build my own internet company, i currently own a few internet business and do investing. i wanted to be a computer science and business major. (well, today i am taking one step at a time to reach my goals and will not allow another bully to entire my life ever again.