no no to nannies...

Actually nannies here in our country are mostly stay in since they're from far provinces. Anyway, there are lots of nanny terror stories here in our country, on some cases there are even physical abuse, or should I say most of the cases. Since they are stay-in nannies their patience tend to be a bit more shorter for the child. I can't imagine how it would totally break my heart if I found out that somebody else hurt my daughter or do something bad that I myself would never even do to my child.

There are even stories here where the nanny intentionally irons the child, causing 3rd degree burn on the skin. Anyway, I posted this story that I have seen years back cause it's something that I find really weird up to now. I mean I know some nannies just loose their patience that's why they get to hit the child. But I really don't get the satisfaction this particular nanny gets on spitting on the child and letting her swallow all of it.. really heart breaking to know something like that actually happens to someone.

By the way, you're very lucky cause you have your soon to be mother-in-law to babysit for you. I don't hire a nanny basically because of hearing lots of abuses on the news. I personally take care of my 4 month old daughter, and I believe there's a different positive effect if you personally attend to her needs. But I totally understand why some people really need to hire someone else.=)

Among the scenarios of bad nanny stories, the spitting incident is very odd. In the USA a nanny usually means live in as well... my fiance mom is a nanny but she does not live in with the two families she keeps children for...

I assume you take care of your child and hope you can continue to do so without the help of a nanny or babysitter. Like I said, when my fiance and I have children we will be happy to know that his mom will be taking care of the child, and she has very much patience and a good heart as well.

It seems we posted at close to the same time so I didn't get to see you comment until now. I am glad you are able to take care of your daughter by yourself. Yes I am very happy to have my soon to be mother in law so willing to care for her grandchildren. Of course we will settle down some before having children if we can, and if not we're mentally prepared. In any case, I hope to be able to work primarily from home so that I can care for our children anyway.

I guess that's the reason why a lot of moms really try to look for an online job or anything that is home based. It is to actually have the privilege on taking care of their children as well while earning them enough money. It's very rewarding when you get to be the first one to witness the little progress that your child makes. It inspires you more, no matter how tired you are, you just keep on going for your child. Plus, it's really different when you're the one who gets to teach her things. But there's really nothing much to worry about on your case since your mother-in-law has a lot of experience on handling kids. And by the years of experience she has, I have no doubt she'll be taking good care of your future children with much love. Since it's her grandchildren anyway. hehe

I have a sister that has two children that seems to work alot, and though I'm not sure how much she works, I wouldn't want to miss anything I didn't have to with our future kids growing up. I can believe that watching the little moments and being able to teach them what they need to know yourself is rewarding... I'm sure there's a lot of tired moments, but I can see smiling and being happy through those moments nonetheless. I am blessed to have a mother in law (so short a time, and I've lived with her for two years, she's like a mom to me) who is such a great person... I know I've said that before.

It's sad when parents have to work, but with the state of the economy... all over the world, people are having to find jobs instead of staying at home. My sister at one point wanted to find something she could from home, but never did.

Every little bit helps! I've enjoyed our chat. I hope your having a wonderful day, and let me know if you need any help figuring something out here! Okay?

Me too. Well, I always love know what other people has to say. Since I'm working at home, and barely go out nowadays, chatting is like an outlet to me. Especially with people that I haven't talked to, not that I don't love my friends hehe. But it's still different when you get to learn new things from new people. I'm just a newbie here on mylot just less than a week old, I guess that's why I instantly got addicted here because it releases some of my stress somehow. Besides, you're too nice and I always like nice people hehe=)

By the way I didn't know that there would be a lot of people taking interest on my post, maybe I should when I have time try to research about this. I just really can't remember when did I saw this one, all I know is that it really was a long time ago.

The good thing about mylot is there's plenty of people to talk to! It's really an outlet and a lot of people, if not mostly all are nice here. You can find a lot to discuss, and yes there's sometimes a flock of people that come to respond to others, especially on a discussion like yours, such a catchy title, and definitely something people want to discuss.

Well you research away, find something more to talk about! I'll be looking into other discussions you make as well. Oh and I like to chat too! Not so much anymore, but I can be a chatter! lol, as I've proven!

Yes you definitely have proven yourself to be a chatter.lol Don't worry I'll be looking forward on being active on your discussions as well, cause I'm pretty sure I'll be enjoying myself butting in with one of it. haha

That's the most fun, butting in! lol! There are some real characters here with some funny types of humor, but they're all in good fun. You'll find you'll be addicted before you know it, and will be amazed at how much you can learn AND earn!

I already am and I'm not really liking it. lol I was supposed to go back doing a project for a client a while ago. I only plan to log in and comment on some discussion and log out then go back to work. But, no I didn't. Instead here I am looking like crazy, laughing alone in front of my laptop and kept on chatting. lol
If this addiction continues, I wouldn't be surprise if one day my daughter and I would starve to death. Definitely not a good idea. hehe

Yes, I really should be studying to get my permit for driving. Something I didn't do years before but can do now... Instead I am just here chatting, though I'm not upset for it. While mylot is a good earner, it only earns so much as a cup of coffee and cake, unless you work very hard and even then... I'd definitely try to squeeze in some time to work with your clients! lol!

I'm starting to think that you actually are enjoying the idea of me not working at all and just keep on mylotting. lol I'm just almost a week old here on mylot and this is already the effect on me. I really can't help but think what I'll look like after a month. I probably would end up not eating or not taking anymore baths, just to maximize my time here. hahaha

Lol look at me! It's been four weeks since You've Responded and I am just now Responding Back! Nah, Of course I like talking to you, but I know we all have a life outside of mylot.. Keep on eating and bathing, lol! Just come back here so we can chat! I like to chat!

Well, it took me three weeks to respond to this..haha But at least I still manage to take a bath daily.lol

Well I am glad that you continue to respond to me, I do enjoy chatting. How have you been? I'm glad your still bathing, though mylot can definitely be addicting.

Hahahaha I didn't know you were online. Well my internet connection is still annoying.. hehe. And yes I'm glad as well that I still manage to take a bath. I'm still a bit tired and pretty much drained out...=(

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I have to agree with you that it becomes more and more important to leave your child in the hands of strangers. Being qualified should suggest that you live up to certain expectations, but like you said, some nannies might fake it or have an education but still don't engage in a relationship with your child in a way that can be considered healthy.

The thing is: where do we draw the line? Are we going to homeschool our children aswell? Because there are teachers out there that can't be trusted either. On the other hand; they are bigger than. It's a huge dilemma because we want to protect our children at our cost. My advice; never hire a nanny that doesn't have any (good) references from people. Even better if you know these people, and allways, allways ask away if something doesn't seem right.

But yes and yes again... it's horrible and I would think twice too.

Actually thinking about what you said made me realize a fact that I can't always protect my child to every bad things that might happen. Of course I could always try and as a mother, will definitely do everything I could to ensure her safety. But there's really no way to make sure that she won't get to experience some bad things in life, since after all bad experiences could sometimes be helpful one way or another.
And actually I don't think I'll be very happy to see her ignorant on a lot of things, cause if I get too over protective, that's definitely what she's gonna be.

There is nothing wrong with being protective of your child, you are being a good mother doing so . Being overly protective can be an issue though, but I don't think watching out for your child like you are discussing here is being overly protective. I do think it's a part of life and we have to experience bad things to appreciate and to know what is good in life. However, we try to prevent our children from having experiences that are traumatic or result in injury of any kind.

Well, even if I try to stop myself from being over protective to my daughter, I still can't. lol I guess that goes natural from being mom. And like what you said, I'm just doing what I am suppose to do, to be a good mom. I sure hope that she grows up without experiencing anything traumatic that she might not forget and much worse to cause a life time effect on her. As a mom, it's a bit hard to make sure of her safety outside especially now where chaos is on the loose.

Hi polka, yes I totally agree with you. I mean I can't imagine how am I gonna forgive myself if that same thing happens to my daughter. The guilt feeling would definitely kill me.

But you shouldn't restrain yourself of wanting to provide a better future for your daughter as well. There are still a lot of people out there who aren't like that. The only thing the you have to do is somehow make sure that you're getting the right person for the job. Nannies you have been tested by your other friends could be a good candidate. Or by just even running a background check on her past will really help a lot on deciding if she's worth trusting.

Hi ithink, yah it's totally disgusting. That's the reason why I haven't forgotten about this even after so many years, I think I was still a teenager when I saw this one. Anyway, it's really heart breaking for a parent to learn that someone had done something as unacceptable as that to their daughter and would definitely feel guilty about it for a long time. Since what happened is really more traumatic for the parents than the child cause their daughter was still very young.

And it's good to hear that you personally take care of your children, I always believe that it is still the best option to be sure of our child's safety and as well as building up your relationship with your child is concern. I personally take care of my daughter and I really don't consider on getting a nanny.

Hi inbaty. Was that true? I mean your story about the 6 month old baby who got ghonorrea? I believe that has something to do with some sexual disease, but I just can't imagine that it could be possible so I had to check on the net for a while. But I was correct, it is a sexually transmitted disease, and I thought I've heard the worst. But your story is just way too alarming. My God I feel like crying just trying to imagine how the baby got that disease. And just thinking if that happens to my daughter, I don't think I would be having any second thoughts on killing the nanny (seriously).

Well anyway, I was literally laughing here when you were talking about you keeping an eye on your hired nanny. It was so funny that you have to sneak in to her like that, you probably have been waiting for a proof she wasn't right ever since she got into your house. lol But it was so irritating to hear that she was bathing your son with her feet, the nerve!!

That was exactly my point, there's nothing wrong with both parents working since obviously they wanted something better for their child. And I agree that there are still more good nannies than the bad ones. But what I'm pointing out is, would take the risk of getting the wrong nanny even if there is only a small percentage of getting one.

Yes, unfortunately it is true. She gave the baby a sexually transmitted disease. My mother was a pediatric nurse and she said has horrible as it sounds, cases like that were not uncommon before in my country. She's still in prison for what she did.
Quite right, I dont trust strangers that much, trust is something that is earned. And I noticed that with the nanny my husband got at the time, you could tell that she wasnt interested nor enthusiastic about the job, THATS why I sneaked on her... we cant afford security cameras nor anything like that so I rather be safe than sorry.
My aunt is a nanny and I use to be a former nanny myself. Parents would watch me keep a camera and I understood, Im a stranger and not a family member we have parents have a right to do so and to keep our children safe, I guess in searching we just have to be more careful... for now, Im not risking looking for a nanny.

That was just horrible, I mean when I posted this story, it's because I thought that this one is the weirdest and most disgusting thing that a nanny can do.
If you noticed, I even tell everyone here to check your post hehe, since it's by far more eye opening. At least more and more people will be aware that this kind of inflicted people do exist.
And about you sneaking in on your nanny like that, well I totally agree with it's much better that way than be sorry in the end when a damage is done.

Yes, it really is. Although I'm not saying that we should never hire any nannies cause to be honest there are still a lot of good people out there. But parents should really think about it as hard as they could before hiring one. They should be ready on the consequences of it. Just read the other user's comment above you, it was by indybaty. It's really alarming.

I can't even imagine what is going on to their heads while they did those things. You could read a comment by another user name indybaty, it's very alarming. And just for that I really think, me personally taking care of my daughter was the best right decision I've ever made my entire life.

Well, if you do watch a lot of the Jerry Springer show, you'll definitely find my story about the nanny quite common, since they always feature something disgusting there or shocking. lol But yah, I guess you're right about people doing stupid things. Have you read about indybaty's comment? That was even disturbing.

By the way, it's a good idea to get a close relative to babysit for you. But even so, you may never be sure. Since taking care of a child could really be a challenge to your patience. I still prefer taking care of my daughter myself.

Hi doryvien, well first of all, I just wanna say I'm really glad bumping in with other pinoy users here. Anyway, it's not that I don't want you to have nannies or get you all paranoid or something. Still, I just want to share this one. A close friend of my dad, hired a nanny and has been with them for more than 3 to 4 years. They often times give her bonuses (really big one) so that she won't leave since they find themselves lucky to have her, considering that she already has a pay rate that is above the minimum (I mean she's really lucky). The couple has 3 children all in all, and all them was handled by the said nanny. Until one day they were surprise to see a bruise on one of their daughters. Of course they immediately asked what happened and investigates. And they were just shocked to learn that the nanny has been hitting all 3 children ever since she first came into their house. And that they never got to tell their parents because the nanny threatens them of doing something really really bad on them if they spill out the truth. The children thought that their parents would never believe them. Their youngest daughter until now is traumatize by the experience by the way.

And I suggest that you read another comment here posted by indybaty. That was way more alarming.

I guess you're right about that. I mean the couple should have taken immediate action to know what is happening to their daughter. But I think they weren't very fast on taking actions simply because they never expected that anything like that was even possible. Still, that is no excuse. As a parent it is your responsibility to make sure of your child's safety. It's just depressing to hear stories like these (you should read on the comment of indybaty here, much worse), we just all need to be more careful and watchful, if we don't want anything like that to happen to us, right.