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myLot reputation of 97/100. Bethany1202 (2160)   ranked 72 out of 19,447 in questions & answers4 months ago

Do you hate it when the subject of age comes up and someone wants you to guess their age? I think it's often an uncomfortable situation.

Let's say your boss and you were talking and the subject of age came up. (Yes, I know certain things are not to be disclosed at work, but just play along hypothetically...) She wants you to guess her age. She looks like she might be in her late 40s to early 50s, but you don't want to offend her, so you say she looks early 40s, just to be nice but not ridiculous... Then she tells you she is 39 and gets offended.

Or let's say someone says they always get told they look young for their age and they want you to guess.... And they look like they are 70, so you say to them you think they are in their mid-60s, and they say, "Yes, I am 66; I guess I look my age..."

Many scenarios can play out this way. Sometimes people are upset, others are unaffected, and others are happy at the result of this question. Regardless, I personally don't like being asked this question. How about you?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 95/100. dawnald (10105)   ranked 119 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

Me either. If you want me to know your age, just tell me. If you want a compliment, just ask me if you look nice. No games...


myLot reputation of 97/100. Bethany1202 (2160)   ranked 72 out of 19,447 in questions & answers  4 months ago

Lol right on!! happy

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2. myLot reputation of 85/100. UmiNoor (409)   ranked 1,848 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

I refuse to answer such questions for fear of offending the asker. I don't know why they want people to guess their age; to prove they look young for their age? And if they get the truth, they'll be offended. This is so irritating. I only play this game with celebrity's age like guess who's older, Keanu Reeves or Nicolas Cage?


myLot reputation of 97/100. Bethany1202 (2160)   ranked 72 out of 19,447 in questions & answers  4 months ago

Yes that's a good point.


myLot reputation of 89/100. CynergyDiva (138)   ranked 1,651 out of 19,447 in questions & answers  4 months ago

I used to be afraid of offending, so I would sum up in my head how old I thought they were, then take off 5 or 10 years because it was usually someone who looked their age or older fishing for a compliment.

One time I did that though and the person was actually a lot younger than what I said even after taking 10 years off. At that point, I decided to just be honest and if they didn't like it, tough. Now I tell people to be careful about asking questions they might not like the answer to.

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3. myLot reputation of 80/100. Bionicman (1545)   ranked 5,077 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

Sometimes can guessing make conversation more interesting. But it's annoying when someone tells you "guess" and you have no idea what to say.
But if you don't like to guess and someone that's like 40 years old asks you to guess, just say 70 and she'll never ask you "guess" again:D

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4. myLot reputation of 86/100. Hatley (21396)   ranked 1,104 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

hi bethany yep Ihate it to as its so hard to do and'so easy
to misjudge and make them angry at you. I also hate it when'friends
or relatives ask you if a certain dress or pants look good
or not on them. if you say what you think you usually get in'trouble.I hate it when someone asks me if a skirt or slacks makes them looks fat? if it does what are you supposed to say?

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5. myLot reputation of 96/100. gitfiddleplayer (5411)   ranked 490 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

The only time I try to guess a person's age is when I'm at the fair and they might win a prize if I'm wrong. I guess people want to seem younger than they are, I like being 41, I suppose men get more distinguished as they get older and women are always trying to compare themselves to a magazine cover. What a shame, the next time someone asks you to guess their age go ten higher than you think, they will get offended and not ask anymore. BTW, how old are you.:)


myLot reputation of 97/100. Bethany1202 (2160)   ranked 72 out of 19,447 in questions & answers  4 months ago

LMAO great idea!! I am 29. Soon to be 30.: (


myLot reputation of 89/100. CynergyDiva (138)   ranked 1,651 out of 19,447 in questions & answers  4 months ago

LOL Bethany you should have said, "how old do I look?" LOL

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6. myLot reputation of 75/100. elenyae (383)   ranked 2,919 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

I never guess, I just kinda laugh it off. Anyway, I try never to discuss the topic of age in public...there's really no point. People either get offended or...no, that's it really. People just get offended. The thing that irks me the most though is the people who ask you to guess who end up getting offended. If you don't want to risk being told you look heaps older than you do, DON'T ASK!! You're just asking to be offended.


myLot reputation of 78/100. opalina143 (677)   ranked 3,145 out of 19,447 in questions & answers  4 months ago

That's a good point. You are just asking to be offended by asking that. Or rather, you are fishing for a compliment but setting yourself up to get an insult. It's a pretty stupid thing to do. You are right just to laugh it off and not guess, because that may be the best thing to do. Of course, some people might get offended at your refusal, but that is just when they are difficult and there is nothing you can do to please them.


myLot reputation of 97/100. Bethany1202 (2160)   ranked 72 out of 19,447 in questions & answers  4 months ago

I never try to bring up age to anyone. And I hate when people try to make a game out of it. Thanks for the comments!

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7. myLot reputation of 78/100. opalina143 (677)   ranked 3,145 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

I hate being asked that question too. I never know what to say,and its not like you can answer it honestly anyway. Everyone says about five or six years less than the person really looks. And then its awful if you get it wrong by too many years in the wrong direction.

I try to avoid asking that question as well, no matter how tempting, because I won't get an honest answer anyway and it will just hurt my feelings, in all likelihood. But I would really hate to have a boss ask me that question especially. I think people who ask it are seeking compliments, which really isn't all that nice.

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8. myLot reputation of 96/100. AmbiePam (15386)   ranked 2,757 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

Oh, I hate that too. I don't care if anyone guesses my age. When I was 12 people guessed 20 (I was 5'11 by that time). Now I'm 28 and people guess early twenties. So I don't care. But when people ask me to guess their own age, I do anything I can to get the focus off of that question. Even if I knock five years off my best guess, I'll likely still guess too old! rolleyes

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9. myLot reputation of 94/100. cloudwatcher (3491)   ranked 2,659 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

On the few occasions I've been asked to guess someone's age, I've guessed much younger than I actually thought, preceded by a comment that I'm absolutely no good whatever at guessing ages, but whatever the age, she is looking pretty good.

My mother was one who delighted in surprising people with her age. At 60 she only looked 30 and at 100 she looked about 60. Maybe she had good reason to be pleased to surprise people.

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10. myLot reputation of 98/100. onedaysoon (413)   ranked 586 out of 19,447 in questions & answers   4 months ago

Yes, I hate when people ask that. It is so uncomfortable with a chance of them saying they are older than they look. Or maybe even younger if it is a kid since they usually want to look older happy.

I usually try to just get around it by joking and making an insane assumption like 100 or 15 years old. It usually gets a laugh, but it doesn't always avoid the question for the few who really, really want an answer.

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