Born first? D you think it can shape your personality?

I am the first child of my parents. I think you may be right because my brother was born second and he has a learning disability.

What is weired we are 4yrs apart and the learning disability set him back 4yrs.

He had a brain tumor the size of a half a dollar close to his brain.

hiya sreekala

I am not first born but wanted to air my opinion and discuss this with you all. IMO the eldest child is more mature and responsible, at least my eldest sister is anyway. Maybe because they are expected to help more if and when the siblings come into the world. Helping out a parent and looking out for the younger ones seems to come naturally don't you think?

Alice

Hi Sree!
OMG! How deep you think to find out such an interesting topic to start a new post. I am the eldest in my family, I have one younger brother only, who is 9 years younger to me. We used to live in a joint family, when I was born and I would receive lots of love and affection from the elders in the family. I was pampered. My brother, I feel, did less amount of care of attention, as much I got. As far as my own children are concerned, I do not find much difference in them, they both have good communication skills and they are more intelligent their parents (i.e. me and my better half)…………….LOL!

I think it's mostly the parent. My first son began talking when he was 10 months old. A day before his first birthday, I bore his brother. I was careful to give him almost as much attention as I used to, only his brother was there getting my attention at the same time. My first and my second both began crawling, walking and talking before babies usually do.

Of course, I was a stay at home mother that made plenty of time for the children and I think that had something to do with their developmental skills, mental and physical.

I also think people are born with a certain temperament that has nothing to do with birth order. My youngest has always been a daredevil, climbing and jumping off things as soon as he could stand and before he was really walking. My oldest is more thoughtful and cautious and would think before he did most things.

I'm the only child in my family. some times I feel I'm lucky because I can get all the love & no need to share anything. Some times I feel sad because I feel that I should have a sibling which would have been nice.
There are many studies conducted which proved that birth order can influence your personality.
Birth order theory outlines four types of personalities- first born, second born, only’s and youngest. If you were 3rd of six children then circumstances would have meant that you either functioned predominantly like one of the big four above.

First born – They are the leaders, the drivers and the responsible types. These people like to manage others but first they need to manage themselves. They love to feel in control and can feel uncomfortable with surprises or feeling out of their depth. They are conservative in their outlook & their ability to focus on a goal and their propensity to organize others means they can achieve whatever they put their minds to. Approval of authority is important for this group so don’t expect them to rock the boat too much. First born, above all else, want to forge ahead.
Second born – They are the ‘peoples’ people, the ones who compromises, and the flexible operators. They are likely to get motivated by a cause and will enjoy working alongside people. They will often choose tasks or even a job that will give them a feeling of belonging. Friendships are important to this group & they often need others to drive them but they are the glue that holds groups together. Relationships are important to this group so make sure they included in all activities. Seconds, above all else, put people first.
Youngest – They are the initiators, ideas people and the challengers. This group is the creative, live-for-the moment types who can put some fun and verve into activities. While the message for first born is to lighten up it seems that this group need to take things more seriously sometimes. Great initiators and very impatient doers, they always get something started but often are not the greatest of finishers. This group will often do anything to be noticed so make sure you pay heed to their efforts. Youngest, above all else, will blow your mind. Only’s – They are the quiet achievers, the finishers, they expect nothing less than the best. This group will raise the bar for everyone around them as nothing but the best will do. Their great strength is their ability to work for long periods of time on their own so they make great project finishers and strategic thinkers but they can be secretive and don’t deal well with conflict. Recognition is important to this group. Only’s, above all else, aim to please.
Hope you understood something from these
Happy Lotting

Hi Sreekal, I agree with your views that it does matter how you are place within your family. I am a first child and even when I was very young a certain amount of responsibility was put on me and I was expected to shoulder it whereas my youngest sister was never done that even when she was a teenager or grown up. In fact even today my mother expects me to shoulder all the burdens saying that being the eldest you have to do it ...I dont know whether to feel honored or angry because sometimes it can land you in a spot...

no,:( i am the second one, and i think that's true that if you are born first it really shapes your personality. and your attitude. i have an elder sister, she's really good in studies well, i am not so good in studies. but i think that's natural because i am the second child. lol

Hello Sree,

I am an eldest of 4 siblings,but,as far as i know there is no problem arised with my brothers and sisters.I guess they are even more talented than i do.My two brothers were both singers and has talents with musical instruments and even our youngest sister,she is a music teacher and she plays the piano well.

The only thing i like being an eldest is,they respected me and listens to my advices.

Have a great weekend my friend

nope i was born last. I think it made me more dependant and immature unfortunately. but i can't complain.

Interesting post ...i think depending on how much each family member contributes to the learning of the child usually determines how smart they will become.
Usually first child receives all the attention from the parents and so he is usually the smartest.A second child though,would retain knowledge passed on by his parents and his older sibling, and depending on how old the sibling was would determine how much knowledge the second child would recieve.If the first born was of an older age,the second born would be able to receive much more knowledge,but at the cost of the older sibling leaving the home at an earlier date.there by ending how much knowledge could be passed.After a long line of the children through the intelligence begins to rise again and even increase past the first.This is due tothe fact that the younger children have many old siblings to receive knowledge from. In other words, children who are born late in to very large families benefit from the intellectual contributions of their older siblings .BUT BUT BUT first born child does is abig deal,simply because its a first for his oe her family.Until a second child comes along,family and friends usually shower first born kids ends .upwith lot of natural confidence.
YEA YEA ...im the first child of my parents and all i explain above is my opinion.
i hope this responce work.