Do you hate it when others are happy? Does misery loves company?

i have done a lot of waiting in life. and i feel like "When it is my turn to be what i want to be". anyways, i like your avatar, are you a christian too. cause your profile says your from india

One thing I have to tell you that I have no friends. I am computer teacher & unemployed too. I have few students. Their tuition fees is my only source of earning. After all these negative things I have deep faith in life and offcourse on Almighty. I have faced some strange problems much worser than yours. But life has taught me to overcome them. I often share my emotions, joy & sorrow to some of my faithful ex students and listen their suggestions. they feel happy supporting me mentally and so am I. I missed one point, I am a Hindu.

hi think_twice, you are a strong person and god-fearing. amidst all the hardships that you're going through you did not give up and continued to trust in the Almighty power for inner strength and wisdom to battle life's journey. nothing is permanent in this world except change...soon you will be rewarded for being so responsible and hardworking.

yeah i avoid others to feel bad or sad just because i am sad or not fortunate enough as them. but usually i do just try to improve myself and try to be more hardworking and just hope that my hard work will be rewarded in some way or another in the future. it is like learn now and hope i will be able to apply what i have learned for some ways to earn money. or like i can apply for a job according to what i have learned.

i think i am not left with any other choice but to make something good out of my situation. i need to face my problem head on and not just pretend that they don't exist and that it is hurting me. cause the truth his it is bothering me a lot and hurting me a lot in so many different ways. and so i think i will be better off as soon as i face my problem and help myself to get over my situation.

i like the attitude. very positive. continue being passionate with what you do and you're right you will be recognized and rewarded for being so!

Hi again hotsummer, I did not mean to minimize your problems as I know that we must be in another persons situation to understand. I hope that things will improve for you and remember that is always possible, although you may not be able to see it now. Keep hope alive. Blessings.

i am happy of course for other people. i am not happy though the way some people become happy. if they are happy because if they are successful or have good love life and etc. i am totally happy for them. but for those who are happy because of other's misery or those who make fun of others , and though they are not living good lives but they seem to be more happy in life and to be more rewarded in life. it just don't make sense to me. and also i find it hard to be happy also for the reason i could not explain sometimes, maybe because i have so many problems in life that i can't find a solution to them. and also some family problem like i can't just go for a while and travel to some place without being so much scrutinized with whom i am going though i am so old now to be asked. and also things like that add to my misery, no friends that seem to remember me. some do text but none that i can hang with regularly. i just can't understand why my gossiping neighbors do all those weird things in neigborhood but have so many friends around and etc. those kind of things make me unhappy. thanks for the response.

yeah. thankfully i can vent out my feelings on this site and get some how a relief on my sadness and problem. anyways, i had those days where i had the opportunity to be with friend/s i want to hang out around with but didn't just give them opportunity to be my friend. but i was so sorry over my decision on not taking a chance on them. i do always give chance to other people to prove that they are nice friends. but they end up not as good as thought they would be. this particular i didn't give much chance at all prove to be the best one i could have. but opportunity knocks but once. the time i ignored the person was the last i saw the person. those bad eggs around me no matter i ignore them i often see them and just bump into them no matter how hard i avoid them and so that was why i end up making friend with them or given them a try if they will be good company. i didn't like it cause i am person that don't drink and smoke and they do. for that reason we didn't have something in common. they always invite me for drinking session which i often declined. i thought they were not into drinking and smoking like me. but stilli can bear with their habits, only that they don't have other activities that i can join them beside that drinking. so it was the end of our friendship and hanging out with them. and i don't like cause i need to chip in money every time i go to their drinking session even if i don't drink. i feel weird with that kind of atmosphere. drinking and smoking.

i don't have hobby to keep me busy. we don't have a garden except for few pot of plants. and there is no river or any water to have this fishing as hobby. i don't have friends around here i can hang with. i am just hoping crossing my finger to have someone to hang around , someone just near my place or inside my house. basically, i am at home caring for my elderly father who needs a lot of caring. and only my sister who just stays home too who gets bored most of the time also and just go out when bored at home.

Hi hotsummer! Just keep yourself busy about anything. Try to do something else, not all routine so that you wont feel bored. There are so many things you can do at home, try to be more productive and creative. Just make the best of what you're doing. Think of the things that might interest you. I am sure you'll find so many things you that can do even if your at home.

yeah that is what i am basically doing at home. i am trying to keep myself busy and to find ways to entertain myself. but sometimes i ask myself is this what my life about. it seems so senseless and pointless and without direction. like i am just letting days pass without any purpose. there must be something else to like than what i am living now.

yeah that is really what i mean. you have described it better. i sometimes wish things will turn around for our favor and they will end with nothing . ha ha. and so we can boast instead or gloat over them. but i try not to indulge in this thought that much cause i know it is not right but i just help it sometimes though.

Hello my friend I know exactly what you mean, I have been there done that, we are entitled its only right to think bad every now and then, as long as we don't dwell on it, and then think many many happy thoughts to of set the bad ones we should be fine, Thank you so much.

yes there is nothing that i can do about it. i have to more positive. but it is hrad to fight this feeling many times no matter how i wanted. it seems i hve to be more positive and strong like other people who can be happy in what ever situation i they are in life.

i think there is no secret. some things just happen. and so the unlucky ones have bad luck. anyways, i am not that bitter if others are happy just i feel that i can't understand why i am not able to be a bit happy. but given the circumstance i am in , i admit i am in a difficult situation but i guess other people will still be able to have fun despite this situation but i just wonder i have difficulty when others don't have that problem to enjoy life.

Don't make it hard for yourself. Time will come that you'll be happy as well. Its like if you think negatively it attracts negative vibrations. So better think positive. Learn to look on the other side. Be thankful and greatful for all your blessings. Sometime we tend to forget the small good things that happened and are happening to our lives. Yes life is very difficult but am sure you'll find something that you'll be proud of and others dont have. Its more on setting your mind. Dont mind much about your problem if you can't handle it let HIM handle it for you. He is the GREAT GOOD GOD.

it is nice that you can be happy with other being happy. maybe the reason you are always happy. but if others are happy in areas you are not happy. can you still be happy for them. but the right thing to feel is to feel happy for our friends.

yeah exactly. that is how i described my life. i usually go out with a friend , i hardly get noticed. not because my friend looks better. what ever situation i am in, in party, social gathering, church, school and etc. it seems the people seem don't like to associate with me. they may be civil and all but they don't invite me when they go out and sometimes they will avoid me or like they feel i am bad person. and so my social life since i was young was nill. and so i feel of envious of almost every body who can have normal life. anyways, life's like that.

yeah sometimes it does make us feel bad when others seem unhappy when we are happy in life. like they do want to be in our place and does not us to be happy. i think that people should try to be happy and not be jealous. i am trying to be happy but it feels bad when people around you just does not seem to be happy when things are going my way. and even though i think that they are still some what happy in their personal life sometimes they will still not you to be happy life they are the ones who have the right to be happy in life.

yeah sometimes when it hurts us seeing people around having happy life that we want just to be alone.

yes i do that. but i am doing that lately a lot. but i am happy still for others when they are happy specially people related to me of course. but i just hope during the times i had the chance to be happy that i was not in the midst of those envious people cause they were able to take away my happiness.

yeah i would like to go out too and be happy and not stay inside my shelf. but it is just seem impossible with my situation. anyways, thanks for the reply. be happy always.