Birthday Party for my daughter!

If it's her party, do what she wants...because it's for her anyway. It sounds like you guys are planning a party for yourselves and not considering what she wants too. Ask her and do just that.

Hi prikayjo......Convey my advance birthday wishes to your young daughter.... I will tell you one incident that took place in my relative's birthday party...We celebrated his first birthday in a very grand manner inviting nearly 200 to 300 people...That kid never cry but seeing such a huge crowd he continuously kept crying even after the birthday party got over....Everyone tried to convince him but no use at all....But now that small kid is playing with everyone in a casual manner...He is not at all shy any more...Rather he started to play with everyone...he never misses his mom too...So to get your daughter a better exposure, and to drive off her fear and to make her more jovial go on with the party.

I love the party, please invite me to your party . I think that is very good idea. You can introduce your friend to your daughter

Hi - this may sound weird, but I read this somewhere and it stuck with me.

A similar problem, parents want to celebrate child's b-day, lots of family/friends want to be included, child shy/scared of crowds.

What was suggested was that the parents STAGGER the arrival of guests. For immediate family, invite at 12, second closest family, invite at 1, next group, invite at 2, and so on. This way, the child is getting used to smaller groups of people and is not overwhelmed by everyone arriving at once. And of course, perhaps the group won't stay so large for such an extended period of time because people who arrive early, may leave early and so on... Strange? Kind of, but doable and a very ingenious way of handling large family/crowds. Best of luck and Happy Birthday to your little one!

Hey hi there,

I wish I could sing and wish herbecause probably this is the way I wish birthday to my friend and friends daughter as well:).

I think you should go ahead and make it a big memorable day for her. No matter if members are too many. Make her face the people in quite a large number. One day or the other she has to learn to face the crowd. Make her day special because its her day which comes once in a year. Make her so happy that she feels happier to see so much of people. Make her realise that they all are here because of her. Make the day count for her. Enjoy it to the fullest. Convey my love to her.

Thank you!!!

But she is just two years old! I am pretty sure she doesnt remember her first birthday and so she wouldnt know what to expect and what not to. And if she is shy I think its better to introduce her to more exposure of this kind. She might like it when she is the centre of attention and everyone around pampers her. Anyway just an idea, obviously you know your daughter better:)
Maybe on her birthday or one day before you can just celebrate the way she would like it and on her birthday you can continue with the party if you have already made all arrangements. She would get blessings and god wishes of so many people as well

I have the same problem with my autistic daughter. She doesnt do well with to much happening at the same time. I try to not let people crowd her and kept a distance and respect her social space and have a large enough area for people to spread out so it dont seem like so many people. Ask guests to only approach her a couple at a time. When children at a young age feel over stimulated by activities and socail contact they tend to cry or totally shut down. With gifts only open a few at a time now all at one time. Maybe avoid a huge corous of the happy birthday song... like maybe only mom and dad singing happy birthday to her during the cake event instead of 50 people all at once.

oh, to my opinion,it's not so good for you 2 year old kid to have such a big party, espcially a party only for her.

As you say, she's shy rihgt? So I think if you let her to face such a big party
and such a big crowd, a great possibility is that she's nervous and does not want to see so many people, it will make her the 1st but unhappy birthday party.

So I think the better way is to hold a smaller one for her, and invite some same age kids to come. Communication between same age kids are much more easier. Maybe, 3 hours later, they can player together and really enjoy her self.

Your daughter is so young, so it's reasonalble for her to be a little shy. But I think it's important for parents to take some measure to prevent their child from being closed since the young age. So I think it's better to take her to some playground and let her play with other kids. It's helpful for her personality development.

And last thing, If you really want to hold a great birthday party for her, why not wait until the next year. And during 1 year time, do the things mentioned above, So the results will be much more better,isn't it?

Hi, prikayjo

I think having your friends over is ok as long as you guys do not forget that it's a party for a two year old. What I mean is that, have a real kiddie party for her. There must be games, balloons, cakes, candies, loot bags, bubbles and other things that make kids happy and giddy. That gathering would be a good opportunity for your daughter to learn to socialize and interact with other kids. Of course, you have to take it easy. Be there for your baby to reassure in case she shies away.

I wouldn't force her into a big crowd all at once. I was like your daughter when I was younger and when my friends had really big parties with lots of people, my mom would make me go for about 30 minutes. She would aske when the cake and present opening would be so I wouldn't miss that, but I wouldn't stay long after that. As for a party for me, we would do one with my mom's family (if they even remembered), one with my dad's family (who always remembered), and one with my friends. It was never expensive because my parents would just host the one for my friends. My grandparents would host the others. And they wouldn't be all on the same day either, but they would be with in the week of my birthday.

Maybe you could do a family party one day with just you, your bf, your parents, and your bf's parents, and the next day have a party with your friends. Just remember this is a two year old's party. Remind the guests that it is her day and not just a social event. Or if everything is set already, stagger the guests. Maybe arriving every 30 minutes or every hour. It is your choice, since you are mom. These are just some suggestions.