Does your gandma do this

Hi, Swadey. No my grandmother does not do something like this to me. But, when I offer to help her clean up around the house, she never wants me to do anything. So, I unhappily don't. I would like to help her out but she does not want me to. She has never given me any money. I think that you should just take the money since she insisted. That was very nice of her to give you money for cleaning up, most people would not do that. If you don't want to take the money from her, just nicely buy her a gift with the money that she gave to you. That way she has a gift and you won't feel so odd about taking her money. You therefore, spent her money on her.

Some old people are like that. We can't change them at this age. They think that you have spent some of yoru tme for her. So, she should pay you something for that. You can tell her that you go there to help her out because you love her and she doesn't have to give you money. You can tell this when she is in good mood. If you grandma compells you to take the money, you can recieve it and get something for the same when you visit her next time so that the money goes to her ultimately. If you are working, you can tell her that you make money and she doesn't have to give her money and all what you do is out of love to her.

Some people are very independent and don't like to take what feels to them like 'charity'. In fact, it makes them feel very uncomfortable and unhappy if they cannot feel that they have paid for a service. You should respect this in your grandma, even if you don't think she can afford it. You won't be able to change her attitude so there's little use in trying. You should accept the money but try to say that it's too much or something like that, if you can. Don't make a fuss over it, though! There are certain little unwritten 'political' niceties that have to be followed. You can always accept the money but put it by for when she needs something major like house repairs or a new piece of furniture or TV or washing machine or something that she can't afford to replace.

hey even ma grandma does same thing..even she gives me money wen i come back to ma home..and i took money from her coz i don want to hurt her..I tink u should take the money wenever she gives u coz she loves u so much so she s doin that...she s givin that coz she tinks dat u can buy anythin u wish to buy,insted of askin ur dad suppose if u r a student..!!!! So keep ur grandma allways happy,do watever she says...