Do you feel you are living your life for yourself?

@celticeagle (189838)
Boise, Idaho
September 30, 2009 5:20pm CST
Are responsible, or feel you are, for your husband, a grandparent, or just you and the kids. Or just yourself? You see i have been taking care of kids for so many years it is hard to break free. My daughter has had issues. I had gaurdianship of my granddaughter for over a dozen years, I had a mother with cancer who i took care of to some degree for the last part of her life? So, for close to 15 years of my life I have been taking care of other people. Not to mention the years prior to that that i raised my daughter as a single parent. So, now in March 2010 i am leaving here to go to parts unknown and 'live my life to the fullest'. If you were in my situation would you wonder if you could do it? Just leave the scene of most of the crimes of your lest than perfect life and branch out into 'fullest life living guadrant'? Do you feel confidant you can do this without a)having a nervous breakdown, b)being disowned, c)feeling atleast alittle guilty, d)doing that hee hee creepy little laugh all the way to the airport and planting yourself in the lap of the first stewardress that you see on the plane? Which would/was/could/should it be for you/me? And ya, don't forget the YAHOOEY yell and LARGE deep breath! How's it go for you? What is your thinking on this? And you youngsters out there reading this and wondering what you would do--ya, you can answer this one but, mostly it is for the older folks who know exactly what I am talking about. HAVE AT IT!
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
1 Oct 09
When my Mom kept getting cancer over and over again, 5 times in 20 years, I felt like I was living life for her. Then my brother with a 60 IQ always seemed to need help. Luckily, I married a former military male who is self-sufficient and I can do what I want. Just leave him a note so he doesn't worry. Go for it. There is nothing sadder than the life never lived. People wait all their lives to retire and die first or they wait until they have money to go on a dream vacation and end up in a nursing home. JUST GO FOR IT!
@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Oct 09
I shall! I am excited about it too. I so agree with what you said. I just want some for me.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
31 Oct 09
Thank you for best response, much appreciated.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
2 Oct 09
I just got married. I am not a traveller, I am a worrier, and I do get angry fromt ime to time... sometimes more often then I'd like to admit. Do I need a little vacation? Yes I Do.. but my husband and I are afraid of staying alone in a strange place... SO... I think to answer this question I needed to tell you those things. In a couple of decades I may change my mind, but now I think I would have to say I couldn't do it... I wouldn't leave my husband, our future children, or anyone who needed me. Sure I'd get stressed, and sure even if I had a chance to go out and do my own thing, whether it be during the stress, after the stress, or whatever... I WOULDN'T DO IT! lol! That's just me.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Oct 09
Well, if you're happy and that seems to work for you-Full speed ahead!
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
30 Sep 09
I think no matter how far away, you will still be taking care of them in some sense. I live 475 miles away from my mom, and I still feel like I am taking care of her from time to time. The biggest thing that I have done for her, physically, through the years is have a new roof put on her house (yep, did that long distance), but mostly just take her on trips. I have even sent her a plane ticket to meet me in Florida. But, lately, it seems like if I tell her no to something that she wants me to do, not needs mind you. Then she gets upset. She starts complaining about how she can barely walk up the hill to her house. How her arthritis is bothering her...etc. So, you will be given a guilt trip, along with your other trip. But, that doesn't mean that you have to take it.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Oct 09
Yes, we are in some sense. But by degrees. Guilt is not good. You don't have to feel that way. One can only do so much!
• Philippines
1 Nov 09
I am living my life for myself and for the people I truly care about.these people are the ones I can't live without.these are the people who love and care about me.also,I believe nobody can love you the way you love yourself.you have no one to rely to but yourself.I will take care of my family because they're a big part of me.I'll take care of them the way I care for myself.
@jugsjugs (12967)
1 Oct 09
I do know what you are saying as i feel some days as i am here for everyone else and that is all i am doing is everything for everyone else.Some days i feel like the only thing i am here for is to make the numbers up as well as to smile at everyone and make out as if i love life as i do not want anyone else to know how i really feel.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Oct 09
But is that really how you want to go through all the rest of your days. I did that a long time and I want some time for me now. And somebody to spend it with as well. You need to talk to someone.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
20 Jul 10
Life is sweet gift of life to have more fun and joy, rather to be worried.