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myLot reputation of 96/100. feodda (394)   ranked 576 out of 23,366 in relationships3 months ago

There are many other woman trapped in a situation where it is difficult to get out. I have a friend that in love in a married guy who is 20 yrs older. She know that the guy is married and told her frankly that he could not offer marriage.

She was aware that this will not lead to anything but trouble; that it will ruin her future. But they are very much in love with other.

Did you meet this kind of situation? How did you handle it?

 
 
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tags:  love, marriage, mistress, married, cheating
 
1. myLot reputation of 74/100. sunilparthan (1051)   3 months ago

hi dear friend i dont know what to say at this stage but tell her to come out of it thats all have a nice day thank you


myLot reputation of 96/100. feodda (394)   ranked 576 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

yahhh right. She should be out of that situation.


myLot reputation of 99/100. moneymakingtoday (1813)   ranked 3,570 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

i agree with u, sunilparthan. she should get out of that relationship now. no matter how one sees it, she is always on the losing end. she will only end up in trouble once the wife of her boyfriend knows about it. she should respect herself and give herself a chance to find someone she deserves.


myLot reputation of 96/100. janebeth (916)   ranked 977 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

yes she should get out from it, because for sure in the future she will never be happy and yet she can more ruin her life, and not only her life but also the life of the kids and the whole family.. she should not think only for herself but think also others, specially on this situation.. this is kinda hard and really a big one to fix out.. thumbupwhistle

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2. myLot reputation of 85/100. prashanthalva (1087)   ranked 2,590 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

The Guy Must Be Thanking His Stars As The Girl Is Offering Herself With Absolutely No Commitment Whatsoever .. I Have Never Had A Physical Or An Emotional Relationship With A Married Lady(AM A Man) .. It IS Wrong Morally and Ethically To be Attached To A Married Person According To Me .. Thank You For Reading My Views ..


Ethically And Morally Wrong ..

myLot reputation of 96/100. feodda (394)   ranked 576 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

It is really morally and ethically wrong to be attached to a married man. Its kinda hard for her to be out, but she have to.

Thanks for the views and opinion.

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3. myLot reputation of 82/100. shellback (219)   ranked 15,585 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

Ive seen a lot of those women being inloved with a married men and i think its rediculous, hey, no offense for a woman, surely getting inloved to married man is completely worthless, women gain nothing, for me as a married man i think its much better not to show affection. We can say that its my chance but the truth is that chance leads you to trouble.. Family ties broke up, thats the true results, thanks for this topic, have a good day.

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4. myLot reputation of 84/100. GADHISUNU (1154)   ranked 4,913 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

The position of a mistress in any society is not anything respectable. May be in recent times I have heard of effort being made to eact laws giving them[those linked to married men/women) some rights to property. I am not yet sure of how much of this has borne fruit.

Love is an emotion that can be managed. It is very painful but not difficult to come out. Was it a well laid trap or her failing(falling in love on her side attraction). We have only karma to blame for such things happening and leading to painful separations.

Then there are some career woman who would not want to be tied down by marriage. For them neither the promise of marriage is necessary, and having chosen at late age they may want to have mature lovers so they are in such relationships. These women(men) have not much to lose.

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5. myLot reputation of 94/100. ybong007 (1064)   ranked 1,997 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

smells trouble...

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6. myLot reputation of 94/100. Misterwit (1105)   ranked 4,576 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

Hello feodda...

Here I cannot tell you the very truth as I consider this as public...

The situation here is bad because these two guys are madly in love,they must make it stable and moderate then they can keep it as long as possible
Because normally this kind of relation ships consists of two things.....taking care physically(making love and to spend time together..etc)...taking care emotionally(keeping heart happy...etc)

I really like to get into this type of situations.....Ummmmm pleasure and pleasure and pleasurew00trasp


myLot reputation of 80/100. Rite17 (141)   ranked 10,424 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

but the relationship is based on pure S.E.X..... he has a relationship and wouldn't be looking for another... If he was to leave his wife, which he won't!, he wouldn't jump into another!! he would want to want to use his newly found freedom! at the end of the day, he wants just s.e.x. and excitement that he gets from cheating and she sees something more that doesn't exsist. And if he was to go with her whats to say he wouldn't cheat on her!? he's done it once, can do it again as he LOVES the thrill!!GET OUT!!! he's no good for relationship....


mystery_girl (3)   ranked 21,293 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

I just don't know if I could relate myself to this. Sad but true, what if you really love the guy,?what will you do? the thing is that we can give our comments & suggestions but what if they are already in that situation, can you still do something about it? just think of it? guys my simple advice is just play safe.


myLot reputation of 94/100. Misterwit (1105)   ranked 4,576 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

I am talking about a reality.....

If you find a man or a women married or unmarried, that you cannot resist....in bed,in life...you are gone for good there is nothing anybody can do....
you will cry to have him/her...you will cry to leave him/hercry alas that is the way of the worldsad


myLot reputation of 94/100. Lucky09 (767)   ranked 3,644 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

i know one who is madly blindly inlove with someone even though she knew that the guy is already married and has a child. since the woman already accepted everything then it's her fault if everything goes wrong. and i know that many married guys cannot resist when a woman openly show interest for themsad
i think its difficult to escape and realize once one fell from it..tsk tsk!


myLot reputation of 94/100. Misterwit (1105)   ranked 4,576 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

Very very true.....

lucky you are lucky


myLot reputation of 99/100. kitty42 (1165)   ranked 3,112 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

Hello friends happy

From where I sit that is just called being "typical" and its sad, alot of men want their cake and eat it too, if they really have respect for their wife/family they will ignore another womans advances, this is why rushing into marriage means nothing to me, that paper will not stop a typical man, may make a real man think twice but your typical man that thinks with the wrong head shocked its really sad, it is not o.k to cheat ever, woman need to stop putting up with this crap, oh I will forgive him this time, or he had to do it,bull crap, I didn't do this or that, making excuses for the cheater how sad is this, I feel bad for weak woman that don't see through this nonsense, their is no justification for this man to cheat on his wife, he should not put hisself in a position where he finds himself alone with this woman, there is no he loves her so much they are in love, NOT, he loves whatever it is she does that his wife may not do, thats it, as soon as she decides she wants more and puts pressure on him,he will drop her like a hot potato,cheaters stink, weak woman smell worse. thumbdown

Smoochessss

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7. myLot reputation of 58/100. Maggiepie (1629)   ranked 5,430 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

The married man made vows. He should keep them. How could anyone ever trust a person who was willing to lie to God? The woman should realize that if he thinks that's okay, how much more likely is he to lie to her? He's also lying to his spouse.

If they cheat on their spouses, they'll cheat on you.

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myLot reputation of 94/100. Misterwit (1105)   ranked 4,576 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

Hello maggiepie

You are the rare type, may your life be prosperousthumbup


myLot reputation of 58/100. Maggiepie (1629)   ranked 5,430 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

Thank you. Did you see my comment to you, I believe in that thread about old couples holding hands? You're pretty rare yourself. wink

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"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"


myLot reputation of 94/100. Misterwit (1105)   ranked 4,576 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

I saw that comment....very confidential one..

you are my type.....Here! hold my hand we will run in slow motion as they do in the movies wub

I say"Where is the birth certificate"confused


myLot reputation of 58/100. Maggiepie (1629)   ranked 5,430 out of 23,366 in relationships  3 months ago

Don't forget the sea of swooning violins' music. lol

As to where the birth certificate is, well, it is a fact that the Kenyan government has files on the Big O that they keep under lock & key, & guarded.

One poster said he thought it was probably deep in a dirt hole somewhere, with big, heavy rocks piled on top. "We'll never get to see it," he said.

Could be...could be...! whistle

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8. witty06 (21)   ranked 18,539 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

I have meet this kind of situation. I have lots of friends like that, being in love with someone who already have family. Mostly they don't live happily, when they get quarrel they always talk to their past, which make them hurting each other. Some ended with hurting each other. And the thing is they have kids, so who suffer most is their kids.....Sometimes, they can't realize their mistakes because they are so in love at the beginning, but when time will come, one will realized and yet, they have to decide if they have to stay or will leave because of the kids and maybe the reason is that it wasn't easy to fall in love with someone who already owned with someone else:-(

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9. myLot reputation of 71/100. irefed (193)   ranked 8,986 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

I say so that I'd already meet this kind of situation with a friend experience also which I really get mad to her. It isn't a right thing to do to continue the relationship if you had discovered something wrong or you must be in trouble. This situation broke a marriage and might at risk to those children involve.

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10. gohigh00 (61)   ranked 18,614 out of 23,366 in relationships   3 months ago

I have never met this kind of situation, but really I want to say something.

I think it is up to your defininiton of love. To my opinion, responsibility is a great part of love. Of course, I really don,t like the guy who on the one side say "I love you so much dearin, I can not live without you", on the other side, he can not evern offer the girl an marriage. \\

So this guy is so selfish, he enjoy the love given by the girl but refuse to paid responsiblity to this enjoyment.

Also the girl, you made some mistake,you fall in love with the wrong person. Now you have realized that that will ruin her future, why you keep your relationship continue to ruin your future. There must be some much more better guy who derserve your love. I know it is hard for you to put an end to you. But what about your future, your future is more valuable than this kind of pain.

Of course, if the girl think her future not worth so much, really, i can say nothing to her!

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