What's your first thought when someone tells you they prefer spending time alone

Hi Jhaszy,

I think if a person just hinted but didn't force I wouldn't mind doing things with them, it is when they almost order you to come out because they think you will die of misery, that it gets annoying lol. You sound like a fantastic friend to have though because of that level of respect, and your friends sound great too if they don't force you to always socialise and instead just leave you be, I hope they do anyway.

Many thanks for sharing

Dranz

Hi Masterwit,

Goodness I would go mad with 24 hours a day of company , way too much lol.

I wouldn't like to be isolated either. Knowing someone is there is you need them, or they need you is fine, but if they start to pressure a person that it is a bit much. That is why I like online so much, they can't pressure you as you can just turn off the computer and leave lol!

Glad to hear you feel a similar way, and have you ever been a volunteer for social services? I have never tried that, I would probably just bring the poor people down with all my strange questions lol

All the best and many thanks for sharing,
Dranz

Hello my friend

I see you are doing really great with your post I miss you as well, figured you will reach out sooner or later I left a response for you keep up the good work, I am here, never to be gone for too long.

Smoochesssss

Hi Kitty,

Ahh how intriguing. I like to be alone because that is where I can laugh and act crazy, online as well, so when I need to do that I have to escape. Sometimes I have done it in reality with my brother, but not all that much, I find it hard to let go when people are around for fear of judgement I think that is pretty key to why people get so confused, the idea a person can have such joy alone is strange (even for me at times lol), so they think we have to be social. Ahh well!

I am glad to know that mylot helps you with the need to talk at times too, that is another reason I love being online. I can share ideas and grow on here, the things I like to talk about aren't what people normally talk about in reality (the deep psychological stuff), so I get bored and uninspired around people. Can you have those deeper chats in reality, or is it easier for you on here? What sort of things do you like to chat about in the real world?

Many thanks for sharing this side about you, it is awesome know more

I hope you are having a lovely weekend,
Dranz

Hello my friend

I thought we had this conversation before,

I love to be serious but people I know don't know how to handle it, they either change the subject or look at me like I am crazy lol, its really sad I would rather speak to someone face to face seriously than online, watching peoples facial expressions tells me alot as well, reading words is nice but not the same, mylot has helped me alot as far as letting go and sharing with others.

I actually have fun with others laughing and acting silly I love this, but daily will drive me nuts, there is a time and a place for everything, "that is so true" when people try to talk me into doing something I don't want to do, this makes me really upset, I don't like to be told what is best for me, I am grown, your interest is not best for me you selfish so and so, I have a couple people that like to do this to me, they are selfish its never something that will benefit me always something that is good for them, if you don't get away from me, grrrrrrrr I hate this with a passion, no to some people means talk me into it I will change my mind,idiots

I really need new friends, people that can actually carry conversations without lying or stretching the truth annoying, I do have a few people in my life that are deep but they are so busy its hard to catch up to them,one I chat with online, barely see her since she is always traveling, but its o,k I talk to myself lol I love it.

Thank you, smoochesss

Hi Kitty,

After I started to read the first paragraph I realised that we had had that conversation before. My mind has been a touch scrambled by having to get used to being back here again. I was almost grieving for the loss of living in my grandparents house, it was so strange. Oh well, I apologise if that keeps happening. Normally I am good at keeping track of conversations, but when stressed that is one of the first things to go

Wow so people have tried to tell you what to do as well, and to such an extent as well. I hope they don't try and do that with you now lol. Bugger memory also goes when stressed~ Groans~ I can't remember the last paragraph.

Oh well, I hope you are doing well anyway and ahh yes it was something that ended with you mentioning you talk to yourself and need more serious friends. I find that one or two seems to be good for that. I have one person I can talk to about anything and she pretty much sorts that for me, though the poor girl ends up with monster e-mails full of rants and confusion half the time LOL. I hope you can find that person in the future, does some of that need get filled on mylot at time, or is it too different chatting about that sort of stuff here?

All the best

Dranz

Hello my friend

Out of all the many talks can't remember when but I know we talked about it lol, I will always enjoy my me time and anyone that can't deal with it, thats their problem, I have always been this way don't see myself changing anytime soon.

Thank you my friend, shall return I am sure.

Hello kitty
I saw you here and wanted to say hello to you my friend. Did I tell you that hubby is getting to work now. He got a long term job with the his local union. I just hope that it last for awhile. Im now looking for a place to rent. I have had enough of this camper..LOL.. You have a great day dear and I will chat with you soon. Oh yeah don't forget to keep smiling...

hello kitty

I missed you.....I am very busy these days....when I feel more relaxed than I will drop by to say hi and to have coffee....

Hi Mikeysmom,

It is hard not to worry about what others think though I wish I could turn it off but if someone says something I tend to dwell so it ruins the alone time, at least for a few hours until I recover lol!

I would worry about people who are depressed and alone since those thoughts aren't nice to be around. Come to that maybe that is why people worry about me because they think I am like that. I never figured that before, I just thought they were being pushy! Is that what you would initially think if someone wanted to be alone, that they were feeling too depressed to socialise?

Many thanks for sharing, you actually helped me think of another angle with this which is what I was after .

All the best,
Dranz

Hi Islander,

I agree with you, did you learn this from person experience? I think that if you did then you are quite a deep and mature individual for doing so, and this understanding should also make you a great friend .

All the best and many thanks for sharing,
Dranz

Hi. Thanks for your kind comments. This is from personal experience although my philosophical studies also outlined the value of this.

Hello my wonderful friend

I love it, that sounds long term to me, congratulations I do love the idea of staying in a camper guess because I never did that, one of these days I will experience that, wish you luck in finding a wonderful place for you and hubby, I wish you the best in any and everything you touch my friend.

Smoochessss, I will keep smiling thank you.

Hi RosePetal,

Congratulations to your hubby for getting that job, I hope he thrives in it, and you too now you will have that extra space. I definitely wish you luck finding a place to rent too, what sort of house are you looking for?

It is neat to know that you enjoy your time alone as well. I definitely savour it more after being around people so much, but it has that sadness too because it is never for long, here at least anyway! Do you have long periods of time with your husband gone, like with this new job will it be months that he is away at a time, or just a few days?

Many thanks for sharing and good luck with the future, and all the changes occurring

All the best,
Dranz

PS:~ Takes dagger out of heart~ Ouch, calling me normal, how very evil of you LOL

Its me again DC..LOL...Im trying to find something like a house or mobile home. I started looking last week when I found out that he was going to be working for awhile. Im going to hit hard tomorrow and see what I can find this week. You have a great evening and week too...Sending you cyber hug...

...I need to proofread, before, not after I post. ....perusing....not pursuing:o). Sorry.

Hi Artistry,

You don't ever have to worry about your spelling, mine isn't all that great so I don't tend to notice when other people write things wrong LOL

As for the diary, I have been keeping one for several years now so I always know what I was doing when. I have a keen interest in myself - in a none egotistical way and rather lab experiment sort of way way - so I have one from my time in that house as well. Failing that I have the amazing memories of my time there too so I don't think I will ever be able to forget it Did you start a diary because you wanted to record experiences like this?

You sound to be a very deep and mature person as well from what I have read here. At what age did you become happy with your own company?

It is nice to know that an appreciation of your own company is something to be celebrated and not shunned, I feel much better after reading that, especially because it seems to be a sign of maturity , fantastic lol.

Many thanks for the reply, and all the best,
Dranz

....Hi there, First of all, thank you for your recognition,I appreciate your consideration. I was born an old soul, and the oldest child in the family. As so early on, I was a deep thinker and wanted to know more about everything. I have been writing and recording things since I entered high school. I can remember writing a story, that took you all the way up to the belief, that it was real in its portrayal, until the person woke up from a dream. I love writing, it enlarges your space and the dimensions of your life. Take care and thanks again.

Hi Artistry,

I once toyed with the idea of writing a story that would examine the other ways I could have lived my life had I made different choices, for some reason your story reminded me of that since mine was based in a dream worlds, or death, not sure which .

But yea, I have really enjoyed reading your responses so you definitely deserved the BR here. It is nice to meet another old soul lol

I look forward to seeing you around when the damn site is working again

Dranz

Hi Ucue,

That is something I hate about socialising too, talking about other people. I prefer conversations to be one on one with someone where we can just talk about our own experiences and learn from then, since talking about other people always makes me feel terrible .

I am glad you can distance yourself from that and stand up for your own beliefs.

All the best and many thanks for sharing,
Dranz

Hi Hazelrose,

Wow I think you are the first person to respond that prefers to be around people. What are you like when you are alone, does it make you depressed? I am just curious, most of the people I know seem to prefer to be alone (I meet them online) so I have never really got to see the other side of things.

Many thanks for sharing, and for respecting the way I do things too

Dranz

Hi Udayshanker,

Wow so you have had the same experience as me then, people trying to change how you live? I hate it as well, it just seems to add so much pressure to what could otherwise be an enjoyable experience . I hope that you will be able to make people see that you are happy as you are so that they will respect you and leave you alone when you want to be alone.

Many thanks for sharing, and welcome to mylot

All the best,
Dranz