Male infertility - do you resent your husband for having to go through IVF?
By taraelocin
@taraelocin (1138)
October 4, 2009 8:23am CST
My husband and I are suffering from male infertility. All the tests showed that there is nothing whatsoever wrong with me.
Of course it is painful that I have to go through treatment to be able to fulfill my wish of being a mother when there is nothing wrong with my body.
My husband always feels guilty about it - especially as having a baby means so much more to me than to him. But I don't resent him. It's not his fault. It's our problem after all, even though his health might be the cause.
I am curious how other people feel about this.
2 responses
@djoyce71 (2511)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
It was not the fault of both of you that you could not have a child. Resenting would not help the situation, so might as well face the problem positively. You're lucky that you could afford IVF. Try it while you're still young and there are still chances for you have children of your own. If procedures still fail, there's another option of adopting a child to become your own.
@taraelocin (1138)
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16 Dec 09
Thanks for the comment. We both believe that we are in this together. I never resented him, but I know he felt bad many times and said it's his fault I have to go through this. Here in the UK we get up to 2 cycles of IVF on public health insurance, so we are busy saving for when this runs out.
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
18 Jul 10
If I was fertile and I was married to a man that was found to be infertile I would adopt a sibling group. I wouldn't choose to go through IVF. It wouldn't be the man's fault. Sometimes life can be unfair. I think that if a lady has IVF because her husband is infertile she is doing something admirable.
