Is marriage the answer?

Every situation is different and I don't think pregnancy alone should be the driving force to marriage. I was 17 when I became pregnant in highschool and my parents were disappointed but supportive and I did not marry the man. I would have been very miserable had I done so. Shortly after having my child I met a terrific person and married him a few years later and made a family, including the child I had prior to meeting him. We are all happy and I have never asked for any help.

Two people should not get married just because the woman is pregnant! You'll be getting married for the wrong reasons and its unfair to bring a baby into an unhealthy marriage. I suggest they should use the time they have left in the pregnancy to try being a couple. Be in a relationship with each other first, then let them decide if they should get married or not. It would be far easier to not be together than to marry and divorce.

if they truly loved each other, i guess its time to get married. if they are not sure if they can survive the marriage there are two things to consider one is what is best for the parents of the unborn child and two is what's best for the unborn child. see, i have a friend who is 33yrs old right now, her father died just resently but they are the so-called 2nd family just because her father did not marry her mother but in reality they are the first family. When her father died all the properties of her father is on the name of the legal wife, at hospital during her fathers last days they were not known to be thier fathers daughter for the sake of the legal family and i saw her mourn for that.

Yes, you're right earth2 jacq. But parents still has this value on their reputation. They would not let their name be tarnished and they would fear what other people will say.Thats it. Let youre sister be the one to tell the oldies. She might change their minds.

In my opinion, earth2jacq, both of them are over the age of twenty-one, and should be capable of making such a decision for themselves. It is the parent's job to give advice when it is asked for, but not to issue ultimatums.

I think all situations are different but I do not believe that you should marry just because you are pregnant. Sometimes this can make the situation worse. I think if they are in love and want to get married then they should but it should not be seen as an automatic solution.

I definitely think they are old enough to decide by themselves, however people, especially relatives, always want to have a say on these matters.
Personally I don't think marriage is the answer, honestly, what does it change? It was different several years ago when if a couple wasn't married the kids would not get their father's surname and as well have no family rights but now? Now that laws have changed, legally it doesn't change a thing if they are married. Emotionally, the kids won't see the difference, dad is always dad and mom is always mom.
If marriage is just to bind him with her to not have to go through pregnancy and parenting alone...I think she'd be better off without him! Try and be with someone hat doesn't want to be with you, for the*rest of your life*...sounds heavy.
Definitely, I don't think pregnancy should be the driving force, not nowadays.

If you were to ask me...i think marriage is not the answer.
They are not young at all,she's 27 and the guy is 22,thu your sister is a 5 years older than the guy,they are not minors anymore.

If they really wanted to get married,they will not wait till she gets impregnated before doing so.It just happen that,she get's pregnant before they planned of getting married,so,i guess,they are not yet prepared to get married.

Let's wait till the baby comes out,then,let them decide.

Regardless of the situation marriage is not the answer. This is why divorce rates are so high. No one should get married, just because they got pregnant or had a child of wedlock. Marriage is very important and should be oridained by God. This is an oath between two people in front of God, until death due them apart. Marriage should be taken seriously and not used so loosely because of family values and traditions. You could really ruin someone's life or cause them to take their own life because they are unhappy. It is not up to the mother or father to say who a person should marry and why. This is between the two lovers or persons in love to decide and they are responsible of knowing that they are meant for one another or not. What if someone gets pregnant on a one night stand? Do you think they should get married, just because they are young and you don't want them to make the family look bad. That is not right. Everyone makes mistakes and have consequences behind their mistakes. Although, fornication was the sin the child is truly a blessing (a gif) from God. Live and learn and move on in life. Do not let a child have to go through the misery that the mother and father feel because they were rushed into marriage. The child did not ask to be here and do not deserve to go through life not knowing what true love is, because children learn by what they see.

Yes it was this way for me to.... You are right but it seems at young and tender ages,we tend to still let mom and dad rule our lives. Will they also live with one of the 2 parties mentioned? Can he afford to support her and child? Do they even have the foggiest idea what they are getting into. When you are mature enough to know all this on your own without mom and dad. Supporting or helping is the day you are ready to commit to another fully.And we wonder why the divorce rate and child abuse is so high.Not that this means them,My husband and I had just graduated high school when my daughter was born.We did it on our own! 25 years and counting.But lots of trying times that's for sure.