Will guy treasure gal that he courted effortless?

..we have different views in life.. some gals would treasure some would not.. sometimes, life is so unpredictable that when you think you love the guy so you've answered yes immediately, you will just find out immediately that he is just playing.. however, other guys have some games on courting ladies for a long time and dropping them by the time the lady answered yes.. so I guess, it still depends on the views of the guy.. I've some friends who got married immediately just after knowing each other for a very short period of time.. however, I would still say that letting a guy court you for sometime will help you know more about the person and that's the time you decide whether to accept or reject them..

Traditionally, it's the guys who really do most of the effort; courting, pleasing the girl's family etc. but these days, as you mentioned, it's the other way around. As to valuing the relationship or treasuring the girl, I think it's different these days as well. I couldn't really say it's worst or better, but somehow people have adjusted to the thought too.

I see couples with very a very good relationship even though it was the girl who initiated the relationship first. There are those too wherein it was the guy's initiative to start the relationship but soon failed.

I guess it varies on the perspective of a person.

For me, I sworn I'd never initiate a relationship - it was clear in my mind that I didn't want to be the one running after a guy. But, I really put my shoes in my mouth when I met this guy. I had to make an effort, I had to see if he would like me for me. Eventually, he did return the effort but not as much as I would like it to be. Soon, I realized that it was a dead-end investment (emotional investment) and just let go of the whole charade. He eventually met someone whom he did all the initiating and they got married.

Another experience of the same magnitude was when I met my partner. He wasn't really looking for a relationship and I wasn't either (well I thought I didn't) then we started talking a lot, I sometimes initiated but not most (I certainly learned my lesson with the first guy), but there were times when his loyalty to me faltered. Instead of packing my bags and heading home, I tightly gripped my hands and didn't let go. Eventually, he saw I was for real (he told me so) and thought that if I could love him amidst all his imperfections, I deserved to be loved more than he is giving. Now, he is doing the efforts, more than I do. Am I happy I did initiate sometimes? Yes, but there's still that insecurity that you can never be sure if you're truly treasured or not. But that's another chapter.

So there you go. I think it has something to do with how people perceive things to be and how they act based on love and emotions. Eventually, regardless if he courted her effortlessly or not, the truth will show. If they're meant to be, they will be together. Else, regardless the romantic and passionate love, the relationship will dwindle and soon will die.

Good luck!

I think guys really love the thrill of the chase.they want to work hard to get a girl's attention.it ups the ante more when there is competition (other guys vying for the girl's attention).but,there are some guys who love girls who make the first move.it take out the pressure of rejection from them.