Budding her nose where it does not belong.

@cream97 (29085)
United States
November 3, 2009 4:37pm CST
I had to do a favor for my father-in-law's cousin. She wanted me to stay to her house for a whole week while she was in The Bahamas. So. I decided to do so. Well some complications happened while I was there. It concerned her daughter. She is like mentally handicapped. She did not want anyone staying there with her. So she panicked. Well, I ended up leaving to go back to my in-law's place, where I was staying for the time being. I came back in 2 days. I know my mother-in-law was surprised to see me back so early. But, at that time she did not question my abrupt arrival. But she did, a few weeks after my return. She asked me why I came back so soon. And of course to keep her out of my business. I told her a BOLD FACED LIE! I did not want her to know the real truth. I even consulted with the woman who wanted me to stay at her house. I told her to not ever tell my mother-in-law why I came back so suddenly. She told me that she never would. I also gave her a statement to tell her if she ever asked her why I came back... Which of course was a lie. As I told my mother-in-law the lie. she said oh, I thought that the reason why you came back so soon is because they did not want you there. Now why on earth would she think that negative thought??? I wondered if that is how she actually feels about me staying in her home? Which her husband offered us to stay in the first place. Why do you think my mother-in-law thought so negatively of me. How does she know the real reason why I came back??? It could have been totally different that what she was assuming. It could have been something that was positive. The white lie that I told her was this: I told her that I just decided to stay for a couple of days, and that I just let her daughter stay for the remaining days..
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
4 Nov 09
You white lie is just a variation of the truth. You mother-in-law may have heard some town gossip or a rumor and she was fishing to find out what was going on. I agree that it is you choice of what information you decide to share with her. Maybe your mother-in-law has a MyLot account and she has been following your postings.
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@cream97 (29085)
• United States
4 Nov 09
Hi, royal, I doubt that seriously. My mil does not know a thing about how to even get on a computer. Nor does she have one of her own. She is illiterate when it comes to a computer. She does not know about myLot.. Trust me on this one. Yes she was fishing for gossip, I could tell. She figured that I was going to tell her the truth, but little does she know, I tell her many lies. And she never knows, My mil is the type of person that likes to perceive bad things about me. She wants to see others hate on me like she does sometimes, And when she sees that then she thinks she is right about me.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Nov 09
hi cream97 I see, then you left because the mentally handicapped daughter got scared and did not want you there?So you went back to your mother-in-law's place. but I don't understand why you had to lie to her, it was not your fault the mentally disturbed daughter got into a snit. I mean unless your mother in law and you do not get along well,why not just tell the truth, as in the long run she wou ld probably find out anyway? honey I think you are way too sensitive to let your mother in law push your buttons that way. The truth was the mentally sick person is to blame not you, would not your mom-in-law understand that and not hurt your feelings? Of course I do not know your situation so I can only guess but I would tell my mom in law that you did nothing wrong and you do not want her to hound you in any way. give her back as good as she gives you if that is the problem. sure she may be your husband's mom but she sure is not yours. but why dont you and hubby try to get some place, anyplace to live so you won't be harrassed by the in-law?
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
4 Nov 09
Hi, Hatley, I had to lie. Yes, it was not my fault why I came back to my in-law's place. It was the lady's daughter. If it was someone else less critical I would have told them the truth. But with my mil, I had to deceive her. She is just looking for gossip on me, which she is never going to get. As far as us living there, we have moved out last week, We are now in our new apartment. Thank you, Jesus!!!
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