Philosophies and perspectives to live by

I agree wholeheartedly with your response, Knowing, except for the part in the middle. Yes every life has its ups and downs and that is natural, either that or the person is living in a static controlled environment. As for disasters I have a number of friends for whom every unexpected event in their life is, to them, a complete and utter disaster. Detailed study of a situation can often be our downfall as many people, expecially OCD people, will analyze something to death, or will over analyze a question or comment until the interraction grows so huge in their little brains that they can see nothing else.Detailed study may also be to briefly or lightly touched upon and thus the decision maker has not taken the time to analyze the situation and evaluate as many possible connotations and possible outcomes, thus leaving numerous options still on the table.

Lastly the world would not only be a beautiful world but would either be a very boring and jajune place or one in which small and petty hurts are dished out countinually leaving ones self worth and self confidence bruised, battered, and below par. People have lives as complicated and complex as they are, thus it is a matter of keeping an idealistically ethical, spiritual, and mentally open mind that determines our levels of sadness, happiness, and overall well being.

As for love of self that is a dying skill that should be taught by parents. However until one can love oneself how can one ask another to love love you for who you are. There are also a number of egocentric individuals who think that the sun rises and sets on them.

I find this pose useful! You echo my basic belief system almost perfectly. The fact that you have given them some considerable thought (as your explanation for each philosophy is almost identical to my own, and ordered I believe in exactly the same way. Your response also leads me to believe that you are a dynamic, complex, and complicated human being much like myself. Also like myself you have obviously taken the time to ponder the mysteries of the Universe and analyze the purpose of such things, rather than accepting someone elses philosophies as valid.

We forgot to include any one of the other major 3
Know thyself, yourself as a person, who you are and what you're capable of, and know who you are to those you love, value and surround yourself with.

Love your family and let them know it often.

Believe in something, and believe in yourself to make your dreams all that you want them to be in reality.

Short, sweet, and smart! I like that in you!

Hey blkcat1 long time no hear from. For a rare first time I believe, I disagree with you Cat. If you've ever been in the program or hung out with anybody in any 12 step 'anonymous' program, the Anonymous view "bottoming out" and becoming willing to admit and accept your helplessness in the face of your addiction, as a process. Picture it as falling into a sink hole in the ground, with an unknown amount of room to fall before the true bottom rises to meet your descent. Now think of each line of defensive thinking that is finally so untenable that you must either adopt a new view on things or continue to fall by walking right off of your current ledge and falling to the next.
Sometimes you can see the next ledge down, and because we believe that the fall will not hurt us and that we are perceiving the drop correctly, we will either blindly or with eyes wide open cleave to our erroneous belief system because we are unable to let them go. They can be an ancor that keeps sliding off of the edge of ledge after ledge, and if you can't cut the rope before it pulls taught again and pulls you over the edge of the abyss and down to the next "bottom"
There is always somewhere further to fall until we fall into the unavoidable and patiently waiting arms of death and subsequently (I believe) the arms of our Maker.

I could be wrong, I will accept that, but I don't think that me and 40 million addicts and drunks worldwide are all wrong, nor that this perspective does not apply to non addictive persons or personalities. All you can do is each time you fall, seek (figuratively of course) for the blade or sharp stone that will seperate you and the ancor that is dragging you down, and then down again.

Kisses!

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