Why do ex's ask for second chance?

We never realize how valuable a person is or a thing is until the time we lose it.

This is the main reason why people always ask for second chances. Though most really just do it because they miss the person without ever really seeing the point of the relationship - but the fact that he is comfortable with the setup when she was with him.

Second chances only work when the person is truly determined to change. Though change isn't an easy thing to do, for someone who has truly realized his/her loss it's something they're ready to work-on.

But due to neglect, second chances do dwindle and die and eventually the person asking for it and the person giving it would just grow tired with the cycle and decide that they're not meant for each other after-all.

As for giving second chances, I am not a tough person to plea on. I always give second chances but it'll take a great deal for me to adjust and would probably difficult to please the second time around.

If they are sincere, and know they have made a mistake, I would be more than likely willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they screw that up, I may not be so kind.

I've got to agree on the previous post, you'll never miss someone and realize that they are important not until you lose them. Every person who goes through a break up experiences that, the time spent together, the memories, and the wasted plans creeps up. Letting go of someone you're emotionally attached to is not an easy thing to do. But aside from missing someone who's already gone, most of the time, the feeling of guilt can catch up with someone too. Normally, people who have made mistakes in the relationship and have caused the break up are normally the people who wants to have a second chance. What they're really after is not a second chance (unknowingly) but some time to make up for their mistakes. It is a very common thing in relationships, one person gets to relaxed and gets too complacent because he/she knows that his/her partner will always be there for him/her. Relationships don't go that way, relationships are like plants. They need to be tended to daily for it to grow, mature, and deepen. Deeply rooted and successful relationships just don't happen in an instant, they grow gradually in time through effort. Getting too complacent and thinking that their partners will just understand them and will always be there for them is a very common pitfall one or if not a couple make in a relationship. And once the relationship gets sour and eventually lead to a break up, one of the couples realizes his/her mistake, feel guilty, and long for a chance to make it up. The feeling of guilt and regret makes a break up a lot worse.

we need to see,whether the people is worth of the second chance.we take a look at everyday life in what kind of person he is.whether he do things all need a second chance,and then failing to cherish,and do thing as same before.i think we can see his way of doing things.if he does not repent,then we determined not to give him a second chance.

Lol. That is a very good question. I have an ex at this very moment trying to get me back. Biggest problem with that is that he dumped me 11 years ago and I have been married the last 8. He seems to think he has a chance, but he is very mistaken. Keeps sending me messages saying he was sorry. Makes me laugh. I find it way too late to try to attempt to even consider trying to fix that mess. Maybe I need to introduce him to my husband now.

For a woman to give his former boyfriend a second chance is a really tough decision. You love the guy if you give him a chance. But you really need to think of what will be the consequences. It's a matter of taking risk. Because that second chance may be good, or even worse. If you really love him and you want to let the relationship last, I think it is really a big part for the woman to take care of your love. And take care of yourself too. Don't let him abuse your feelings. Have a great day!

Hi Mielshare...

Relationships are the most difficult part to deal with.....What has happened to your friend is bad....but still i would like to give one chance of making things right.....only if my heart ask me too...but will be littel carefull and rest will leave up to god....

Take Care

In my experience a second chance should be given only some time (read no less than a year) after breaking up. But without blindly saying yes, one should think about what happened, how the relationship worked, the reasons behind breaking up, etc; if you don't have a clear idea of the whats and whys then you are not ready to even think about giving a second chance. It is important that the two have grown up a bit more, as that might change everything.

And I don't think it's even needed to say that thinking about giving a second chance while being depressed is not a good idea, but in case somebody considered doing that... do NOT.

Sometimes separation will help us breathe and see things clearly what we really want in our life, either we want it or not. We only realize something if it is no longer in our hands. It's human nature. Men always forget/waste the chance that is given to them. Sometimes they are too confident of the feelings of heir girl. A feeling that her partner love him that much and too weak to let him go.

Sometimes they ask for second chance because they have "changed". but this happens very seldom you see. I believe that once they have done it to you, they can still do it again. Just think twice, and ask yourself this, "Will he change the way he treats me if I give him another chance?".. If you decided to give him another chance, then maybe you can lay ground rules and tell him how you feel.