I had loved her like anything............

Obviously I do not know the people involve, so take what you like and ignore the rest.

But it sounds like this girl uses you when it suits her, and you don't need to be second best to this guy who she keeps going back to. As long as she keeps messing you
around, I think it would be better for you to say you will not be involved at all until this guy is out of the picture, and unless she can make her mind up about you. She doesn't sound ready for any sort of relationship to me, and you are wasting your own opportunities waiting for her.

I hope it all works out for you.

wow .. talking about love is fun but sometimes can also be painful ... you must happy, friend, because the levels of love it can be decreased but it was which became interesting from a love

hello there! dont waste your time and money to a going-nowhere-relationship. it's a pity on your part and you dont deserve to be treated the way she's treating you. you can still find a better woman than her and i know she's just nearby. i wish you all the luck!

From this we can understand that you are madly in love with her. What I feel is she is not as much as you are concerned....How her boyfriend is making use of her she is making use of you in the same way when ever she is in need. When ever wants a help to meet him, or when he leaves her and when he is back after few days again going back to him. Really she is not truly in love with u i feel. Just you only think of once if it's true why did she go back again to him and not agreeing for marriage with you..think off...don't spoil your life by thinking so much of her who doesn't care for u...I think you are a student you have a bright future....many girls are there better than her who might love you...go ahead concentrate on your studies and build a bright future it's in your hands....Good luck...sunny.........

Hi DRsunny! How lucky is your loved one. But i would ask you something. Are you sure she loves you too? Dont you think she is just using you and taking advantage of your love and kindness? I dont mean anything with what i am saying but, if a am on her shoes, i will break up with my first boyfriend and divert my love to you. Because you are always there for her. You care for her more than her boyfriend do. So please think it over Drsunny, do you really feel that she loves you too?

my friend has the same problem....he was in ur situation... what he did is he scolded her like anything ...then they broke up and that gal went with another guy...
this is really a problematic situation ...one idea is that if that guy avoid this girl then surely she will fall back to u ... how that guy will avoid this gal is in ur hand do some tricks ... if u really think he is bad u can manage this girl do any thing for ur love....all the best

Hi Drsunny..hey are you doctor or dr is your initial...?

So, sweet man...but remember one thing...she has you, when she gets emotionally week..but you will not have anyone to support you when your hurt..
man firstly you have to take care of yourself...and secondly go and getit sort it out..clear the things with your loved ones...ask her directly why she is behaving like that, is there something which has been hidding with you,tell her that you get hurt with this type behaviour...open yourself man or else you are the one going to be hurt very badly....remember situations like this, a girls can recover very fastly but a man cant...

Take Care

Wow sounds like you got a rough road ahead of you my friend, better be strong and pour your heart out, but it would be best if you look for comfort in some other woman's embrace, i once love this woman and one time she ask for some time to wrap things up with her academic thing, and the next few weeks later i came to her and she was married with somebody else.

oh... he said her 'your smile isn't good'!..!! and she still used to talk to him, i dunno drsunny, this seems a pretty weird case to me, i think she doesn't deserve you at all, i am just being honest here my friend, she just needs some companionship most of the time i think, and you are giving your everything for her, and then she says she can't marry you... well i have to say if a girl likes someone for real she will always want to marry that person despite some controversial things between her parents(atleast she will try to persuade her parents and make them understand), you need to be careful here, she has you, and i know for the sweet person you are she can always call you when she needs you, but have you ever thought how she reacts when you are feeling sad?... if she really cares for you she will be there for you.. so my friend take care, coz to me it looks like she is being selfish and yeah please don't look forward to having a relationship with her, you are an innocent guy and sometimes we are too good with others, share your feelings when you are having a bad time and see how she reacts to it.. i guess you need some more time to actually understand her, some girls are pretty cunning acting like she is innocent and all, mind you i am not telling your friend is like that, am just saying some girls are like that coz they know guys like you will always be there to attend to her when she is having a bad time... they are the sort where they are not really serious about you and they just tend to have your companionship and sort of use you until she feels she has found the right one... this is a very serious case sunny, you have to understand that such girls can only be around you when she just needs you... i hope you understand me, i am not blaming your friend all the way, i am just saying you better be careful with her, it can really hurt at times you know... there are plenty more girls out there who will die to have someone like you and not lie behind your back like that, so please don't look forward to having any sort of relation with her and try not to let her take all your attention, you will have a special one someday i am sure... hope you get me right sunny... take care.

voldrox

Hello Drsunny,

She's not confused i guess,she holds you like a spare tire,that,when the other one get's flat,she can have you as substitute.

True love should not be taken for granted,i had once run from my supposedly wedding,becoz,i found the right guy/true love..so i choose to run away from my engagement(an arrange marriage) becoz simply i don't love the guy(my parents choice)and i can't bear to cheat him.
So, less than a month before our wedding,i run away with the man i choose and whom i felt the real/true love.

If she really loves you,she should make up her mind and won't hurt you by lieing.

I admire your sincerity and devotion to her...i just hope you are doing the right thing.If she cheated and lied to you ...she can repeatedly do it even if you get married(i hope and i wish i am wrong)
I am not judging her...but your stories shows her real character.

Think aloud...never trust your heart..coz,"HEART IS THE MOST DECEITFUL OF ALL DECEIVERS"