what's wrong with falling in love with a prisoner?

Hello. If you don't mind I would like to know where did the two of you meet. Your situation is really hard for everyone especially for you. You know your parents won't be happy with your relationship with the one you love in prison that's why you choose to leave him right? It will also be very hard for your boyfriend because for sure he had found love and hope in life from you. But you're still young. Time is the best healer in this situation. I do hope someday you'll get over your boyfriend. Again, you're very young and you'll experience love or great love again sometime in your life. I think what you did was the best for your future.

shadow41

There is nothing wrong with this. Love is not made only for free guys. Yes, i also surprised with your this episode. But life is a peculiar place. Many things happen here which does not have any explanation and cannot be explained logically.

Your sacrificing part is great. I am saluting you for this.
Have a great day.

It is not right at all...I don't know the law but I think nobody is allowed to share a prisoners bed in the jail...so there is no point in having a relation with a guy who is restricted from all the good things in life....

You have not shared much of your background with him. How did you meet? Did you know him before he went to prison? Has your only contact with him been via the Internet?

If the only contact you have with him has been the Internet then you truly do not know him. He may indeed be all he seems but you do not know that you only know what he tells you. Another thing is that when a man is kept away from women they can become very loving indeed if they have any kind of contact with one. How he would be when you are actually together makes all the difference.

You have a legitimate concern about your family. And they do too. The stigma of having been a prisoner will be with him the rest of his life and may indeed restrict him as to what he can do. Another thing to consider is...why is he there? What was his crime? That is sooooo important to know. There are many in prison that are truly good and decent men that got caught up in something and let it happen. They now know it was wrong and will never do it again. Determining if he is one of those is paramount for you to know what to do. And you can't just go by what he tells you because there are many men who will never be any good but can put on a great show.

You have many questions to ask yourself before you ever commit to this, if you do. It could be the best thing that ever happened to you or the very worst.

You are very young yet. I remember so well being your age and how many times I made a decision that I would never make now. None were major mistakes, thank God, but this could be for you. DO NOT let your heart be your guide on this. You must know beyond a doubt what this man is like before you even consider making this jump. You may have heartbreak now but your whole future happiness will depend on you making the right move here.

If you have a very close friend...talk it out with them. Get a different perspective. If that will not work you may want to consider talking to your parents. If they have been good and loving parents to you they will only have your best interest at heart. Sooner or later you must face them anyway. You may be very surprised.

It doesn't matter how you met! It means nothing that you were happy before he was locked up. The point is he knew he was breaking the law, and he knew he would be leaving you alone if and when he was incarcerated. The total blame for this situation rests on his shoulders, and there is an old saying that is Very true it says, " Once a con, always a con! You can look forward to more of the same as long as you remain with him.
Be smart and save the rest of your life! Forget this Jailbird, and get out there, and meet a decent man who can be with you and make you happy for the rest of your life.

Nothing is impossible. I mean there is nothing wrong with falling in love with a prisoner.

As long as you really love him, it is unnecessary to pay much attention to the opinions of other people. As you have said above, you are so full of love, joy and all with him. So, although your parents will be angry with it, your friends may be get shocked. But if you have fallen in love with him and try your best to persuade others not to stop you loving him. Then, I believe all the voice of the opposition will be down sooner or later.

Wish you success. Happy everyday!

waiting him or give up . that is very simple

I believe that there is nothing wrong personally to fall in love with a prisoner. Love conquers all and as you said, when you feel the love, it's unconditional. Truly love is unconditional whether the object of that love is a bondman or a freeman. If there is a way for your love to get out of prison, then it might be worth the wait. But if not, with all considerations, then make your own decision. I just hope that you will be happy with any decision you would come up with.

Your story reminds me of the Prison Break,in which sara and scofield 's experence impress us. But we all live in the real world.Of course,you have two chiose,waiting him or give up.It is you not others to choose.Once you choose waiting,you should withstand your decision?

There is nothing wrong in loving a prisoner. Although you should know that we have a law which must be implemented. I guess you both just have to wait for the right time. For the mean time, I believe, you must live your life to the fullest and enjoy. You're still young and you should not sacrifice yourself.. You may enjoy even he's not with you, right? You may still visit him though. Think of the positive things this may be for both of you, like when he's out, he may have been better than before, or he is already more responsible. You will also find happiness with him if you really are destined for each other... So stay happy friend!:)