Travel without the kids

Hi Binthu,

Thanks for your response. i am going to travel to a nearby country with one of my dear friend. We both will leave our kids and hubs away and go relax! LOl. I don't know I am too self fish or what, perhaps I need some Me Time in order for me to get some rest and relax. Sometimes, it is so tired look after the kids . Of course, we do have the Us time with the kids. My hub and I plan to bring the kid for a short trip after I come back from my holidays.

Hi Shia,

I hope all my worries are too much . I hope with my hub is there, he manage to help out a bit. Some times, leave the kids for the in laws should be no problems, but I will worry the kids will be spoiling by the old folks. This is what I concern. LOl. So you will be leaving Malaysia very soon? Hope you have a wonderful holidays!

Climber, how do you know she is going on a personal fun trip? She might have to go to make arrangements to care for a sick parent or on some necessary assignment from her work. She could be employed in health care and have special skills and have to go to save a life. She may have and illness herself and have to travel to see a specialist for necessary care. It could be anything, so even if you were right, don't you think we should withhold judgment until we find out?

I would like to think the father loves the kids as much as the mother, but for some reason society often makes the claim that the father's work is more important than is caring for children. And for some reason a lot of fathers seem to agree. I wonder what THAT teaches the kid!

How do you know she isn't? Regardless, what makes you think anything else should more important then your kids? Such that its okay to have to leave them behind? If has any doubts they will be ok then she should take them with her or change plans. God forbid something happens to her they will end up being without her.

Hi climber,

Yeah, I know some people will think that it is selfish to leave the kids away and go for a personal fun trip. Yes, indeed it is a self fish of me, going to travel without the kids. I hope I am not going to show them the way a mother abandon the kids. I hope they don't think this way. Some times, being a mother we have no choice but look after the kids for 24 hours a day. We sacrifice all our time to the kids and family. Can't we have a few days of ME TIME for my self after a long time or tiredness motherhood. Normally We could not hang out with friends freedomly, we could not go where we want to go. So I am going for few days break, I hope my kids are okay with it, who knows they also want a break so they can enjoy more their own time with the grand parents.

Hi drahhh,

Thanks for your response. In fact, I am just away for a personal trip with my dear friend. I hope my kids will be alright with the care of the grand parents and my hub. I will only go for a very very short trip.

I am agree with you, the hub also need to be there with the kids, and not only mother. Just look at the society and most culture will have the same thinking, man work and woman take care the kids. For me, I always want my hub involve with my kids especially during his off day on weekend. I let the daddy to bath the kids, play with kids more.

Hello there, after sometime of replying to your posts I guess I read you right. Well you know its selfish to think of oneself and specially before your own children. There is no more realistic and truthful way to describe that action. While we agree its true we also must agree on your statement, after all a mother's job is never done. Fairness and reality of life also states that its healthy to be this selfish and correct to think on oneself too. See, I personally will want to just be with my kids if I had any. Come to find out, that devotion and dedication tends to also back fire. My sister has done just that always thought of my nephew first and gave him everything. She would only make decisions around his life and to be with him and provide for him as a single mother. Well what do you know, my ungrateful nephew grew up to be 17 and one day lift up and decided he did not want to live with my sister and scheme swindle his tail to live with his father, who had not but scattered times in his life had been there for him. Now he does not even call his mother o checks on her, let alone me that I also was there for him. So the moral of the story and discussion is that sometimes it is also good and healthy to be selfish and selfishness translates into rational consideration for oneself. At the end if you don't think about yourself, no one else does. so yes GO AND HAVE FUN live life cause it does go by too quickly and one day your loved one too leave you behind.

Hi Cubsfan,

Thanks for your response. Your response indeed cheer me up a lot. Yes, it is true, I got to trust my in laws and with this way only I can get less worry. Sometimes I just can't stop thinking and thinking, worry this and that. MAybe this could be the first time I leave my 2 babies .

Hi Edu,

You and your wife went to Singapore for vacation without bringing your kids? If my kids is 18 years old, I will bring her along for travel. Your wife is so thoughtful, I think she must be missing the kids when you were in Singapore until she keeps calling them.

We are planning to go back in singapore this december abut this time we will bring all the kids with us, seven in all.

see you some time in kuala lumpur

Hi Jonjee,

Thanks for your response. In fact, my hub also said the same like you, he asked me to relax and go for the trip as happy as I can. He is so happy I am not around for this few days, LOl. Then no one will going to ask him sleep early.

I will do all the preparation before I leave my kids. I wish they will be all fine and I will miss them. I will phone them when I reach my destination.