Would you walk away form a marriage emtpy handed or fight in the courts ?

@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
November 8, 2009 8:35am CST
I mean in the instance that the marriage was not working out and you suddenly find it next to impossible to be together despite numerous counselling sessions and other interventions. What would you do if the other partnesr wanted more than half of your estate and you were the one who worked for most of what you have accumulated .Would you take it to the courts and an let them decide or just accept your partners terms and walk away?
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• United States
8 Nov 09
I will never marry because if I did,it would be for life. There wouldn't be a time when I would divorce. That's me . To answer your question,I think a partner should stand and fight for what is truly theirs.no one deserves More than half.I can see the spouse who had been there when the other mad the fortune getting half but not more than half.
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
9 Nov 09
Dont say that Sarah ,you are nice enough to be married someday .I would fight but it depends on the circumstances like for example if she took the children (even though I would want my children) then I may just give her more than half .Also I may give her more that half if I think I can make more than she can or if she was a good woman to me before things went sour.One thing is certain though I would nevr take more from her than I worked for.Thank you so much Sarah and irrespective of what you say I am keeping my fingers crossed that you will one day have a fairy tale marriage and live happily ever after
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• United States
9 Nov 09
I want to find the right guy but I don't want to marry him. For me, that would end to love, not inhance it. Thanks for keeping your fingers crossed for me. My happy ending wouldn't end in a marraige.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
9 Nov 09
Ok Sarah as long as you are happy ,who say it has to end in marriage ,just happiness
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@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
8 Nov 09
This is where the importance of pre-nups come in. I would never get married without one because you can be so in love today and you can easily hate eachother's guts tomorrow. I doubt that I would ever be put in this situation as you described. In case I was, it really depends. If I felt sorry for the guy, I probably would give it to him if I knew I could easily make much better money than he can. If he can take care of himself, I don't see any reason why he should get it.
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
8 Nov 09
Yes prenups ar very useful in todays world because love is as fickle as the weather but I really like your views ,most women today usually have no concern for men and would seek to get as much as they can .As a result to hear you speak so fairly is a departure from what usually obtains.
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@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
8 Nov 09
I just think that in spite of whatever has happened, it is not what HE can do for me but it is also what I can do. I have a conscience just as it takes two to start a relationship, it also takes two to contribute to its failure. I understand your point and appreciate it very much. Thanks and happy mylotting.
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• United States
8 Nov 09
I would fight to the end to get what is rightfully mine.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
8 Nov 09
Well, if I had anything worth fighting for, I would fight in court. If I deserve it then I feel it's worth fighting for. When I left my marriage I had nothing except clothes and a few personal items. We didn't have anything worth fighting for so I left. and didn't look back.
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
9 Nov 09
Ok I see the point you are making ,I guess if you have nothing to fight for then you dont have to fight then but if you did you would fight ..fair enough
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@juliamae (127)
• United States
8 Nov 09
If I worked for it and earned, you better believe that I would take it to court. If that didn't work, I would get it some way or another. If there were children involved, it would be a little more delicate.
@benny128 (3615)
8 Nov 09
well anything accumilated while you were together ie home cars money etc etc should be split 50/50. Where as anything that existed before the marriage ie say the wife had 40k pounds before she met the husband or vice versa then that should belong to the person who made it initially. But as I said before anything got while together should be split, as when you get married etc etc you are effectively one person and share good and bad so yeah I would go to court for my rightful 50%.
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@benny128 (3615)
8 Nov 09
now that is a different scenario you have got to go with what you think is right if it was just a normal break down I would want half of anything we made as a couple. In your situation then I would of walked away prob the 1st time it happened. regards
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@trixyteddy (1070)
• India
9 Nov 09
First try a mutual settlement. If it does not work out, then we have no other choice but fight it out in the court. It would be lousy though.
@rsa101 (40976)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
That is something that the courts will have to decide on that. I am not familiar with the laws in there but definitely if you think it being unfair then you should consult a lawyer about that and they are the ones that can really help you with the problem.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
9 Nov 09
It would depend on the situation and the circumstances behind the divorce but I doubt that I would go to extremes to fight for possessions unless it was my pets or special mementos. I don’t think ordinary stuff is worth the stress of a legal battle on top of the emotional pain of a marriage ending. I have been divorced and fortunately ours was an amicable split and he was quite happy to leave me everything, not that we had much. He left me in the house we were renting at the time and all the furniture in it along with my car; he just took his personal belongings and his vehicle. I offered to split what little there was with him but he refused because he was moving in with his brother and did not need any household goods so I was lucky I guess, although it was such a painful experience I am thankful I did not have to deal with legalities as well.
• India
13 Dec 09
Hello my friend ronnyb Ji, I would walk away andfind some other suitable match for me, as I think marriage is not a legal contract. It is a traditional Family and social binding between husband and wife to keep human race marching ahead. Where is the question of Estate and other things. NO!. I would never think of such relations in my life. May God bless You and have great time.
@audrey7 (232)
• Jamaica
12 Nov 09
It is wise to allow the courts to help/ intervine in asituation of this nature. With violence on the increase it would be good to have an outsider(who is objective) to help. Sometimes it s worth it to walk away and most times you can accumulate much more than what you had. Remember, all these things are time bound.
@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Sorry to say but I'd take it to the courts. To be honest if there was a fair settlement and this person wanted more, i'd try to see if could reverse the attornies fees too because they are being unreasonable.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
I would try to do it the legal way. There are laws that govern these cases and I am sure the other party knows about this. I am sure the other party would like to do it legally, too. The partition of properties should be fair and equitable in the premises. It should not be done to unjustly enrich the other.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Hello Ronnyb. I have walked away from several marriages with nothing but the clothing on my back. I did this cause I couldn't see taking anything that would remind me of that ex. If I did keep anything and found pictures, love letters, and paper stuff I would burn it all. After each divorce I would write down what I thought and read it after I was done then I would burn that and it seemed to make things better for me anyway. I worked for over half of the money spent on my last home with my ex, I did take that to court cause I worked as many hours and more for that place and my partner got upset with me one night and put something real heavy in front of the door so I couldn't get in, that really upset me to think that my ex thought that I would walk away after I worked so hard. Landed up costing my ex 3 times as more then we had paid for the property originally because I had God on my side and a good lawyer too! I don't want anything from someone I don't love anymore, but I am not going to work so hard for something and then someone just think they can take it from me! Do what you think is right and stand by your decisions! Good luck and hope you have a great day!
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
9 Nov 09
Thank you for your response and I guess that there are somethings that you can walk away from adn then there aer others that you cant
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
Well I hope I will not be faced with that problem and happy to note that it seems I really will not. I've been married for 25 years and never did I and my husband quarreled about money or any money matters. At any rate for the sake of argument, given that kind of circumstance I think I will just settle the matter out of court. I mean I will not spend money to pay lawyer for that matter. If my my husband would want more than half then I'd give way for the sake of peace. Anyway, it is just material things and we can't bring that when we departed from the world. I can always work and have enough for my living anyway and things that have been lost can always be recovered if only one is diligent and hardworking enough. Fighting in court over properties is the last thing I would ever do. I don't really care so much about the material things of this world. What matters most to me is peaceful living and good relationship.