i am really feeling so cold now.. what will i do??

ohh...poor boyfriend..

i know where this type of feeling will end, eventually you will end up separated. I am not jumping to conclusions, but If I am not mistaken, since he left, you don't think of him anymore and most probably you don't miss him and maybe wishing that he will never return. If you have been feeling like this even before he left, probably you really don't love him, but if you felt like this after he left, then you are not suitable for a long distance relationship.

Think, think and think..analyze your feelings very well and decide which is the best thing for you to do..If you ask me, there are only 2 things: either you break up with him before your problem has never gotten too deep and make things worse and everybody else hurt, or keep the relationship and try to love him more and understand both your situation as a mature person.

Hey, Jane, you said maybe you don't love him anymore? How do you know?
I guess you don't feel well right now, am I right? But why? If you can date with him, I means meet him these days, is that better? If yes, I think you still love him.
In my opinion, if you feel nothing even if you don't meet him, that may mean your love is fading.

But as per your talk, I think maybe your bad feeling right now is becoz you don't meet for two weeks. - It's not a good thing for lovers!
So I suggest you may try to date him.

Hi jane!
Do you mean to say out of side out of mind..........LOL!.
It is not fair. I think if you bonded well with him, you should not feel indifferent about him. It would be better if you communicate often and you may tell him about feeling, he may come out with some solutions. All the best.

He is far away and working so hard.

With this statement, I think it is unfair for him for you to feel bad and say that you probably not in love with him, anymore.

I know it is hard to both of you to be far away from each other, but what he is doing is not for himself alone.

I guess, you should think again, more times, about your feelings. If he loves you, he will prepare for the future, of you and your family. If he doesn't, he will just stay un-employed, not thinking about your future.

You better think more.

I know you know someone with the same situation as yours. But she keeps her feelings warm with her boyfriend. They keep communicating, even in just chatting. But she never lose the hope that someday, they will still be them.

hello, you must be really tired and probably busy on a lot of things. maybe you two should see each other and talk things out so that you could tell if you still have feelings for him. it would hurt him, if you're not being honest with him. two weeks? that's a long time for me, it's been a months since.....ah, never mind

janebeth,

Your love's security seems to go along with his physical presence, but you never did give him or yourself a chance to love genuinely. And there's too much fantasy-indulgence that you have fed your befuddled soul with, giving rise to all sort of illusion expectations you desire in your relationship.

In my opinion, your loyalty is wavering - citing that he is nothing but normal and normal isn't what you are looking for.

Have you both really communicated about this matter? Seriously, it isn't too huge of a hole to mend if both parties are willing to work things through. Of course, if that's not part of your decision to smooth out the edges in your relationship, then it will naturally degenerate rapidly.

Before you keep looking out of your relationship for answers and hastily decide that that's true love for you, why not you try to understand and love the man you are with? It's kinda sad getting along with a man you hardly even know how to love and know what love really is. Sure, you might have dated for years, but to me, the relationship is hardly anywhere concrete.

Have you even given your relationship a good try? Or do you simply disregard it completely?

The answer would decide your route to take.

Take care and have a nice day.

Hi Janebeth,



It has only been two weeks apart but maybe you are missing him but either way you have to look into your heart and think what it would be like not ever seeing him, would you miss him, long for him? wait till he gets back and see how you feel then, I know we love physical contact so maybe when you do see him all your feelings will come back, so hang in there hun.


Tamara

If u have loved him truly... surly you would have not asked such a suggestion here.. may be it would not been a love... its just lust... if he feel in the same way you feel means no problem,... but if he loves you truly means.. it 'll hurt him... so try 2 make your love true and be with him always..

Hi jane
Oh my goodness girl you sure do have a problem there. When a mate goes away to work it then becomes a challenge to see how your heart feels. I know I was scared the first time that my husband had to work out of town. I was for sure that we would end up seperated. Boy was I wrong. He called everyday and every night. We made arrangements to see each other on the weekends. I could hear the love in his voice and he could mine too.
If you are not sure of your feelings then maybe you don't really have the love for him that you think you have. You can feel,see,hear the true love. If you can't then maybe this isn't the guy for you. You really need to do some soul searching and figure out what you feel on the inside. The heart..
I wish you luck and hope that things work out the way that you want them to. Keep smiling.

Maybe you are feeling like that because he is not around... he is not there beside you. Yes you talk but that is still not enough because there is no real contact that was happening... There is no spark ar excitement that seems to be happening with you. If you continuously feel the same way even if he is there with you already... then that is a different story.