Loyal or Faithful?

Loyalty and faithfulness goes together. I don't believe in people who says they are loyal yet unfaithful or vice versa. In your choices, it doesn't work that way. How can a person be loyal yet unfaithful, or how can he be faithful and not loyal? Those two words must go hand in hand or it doesn't work at all. Faithful partners are loyal partners, and loyal partners are faithful partners.

Hi eurekafemme, I agree with what learn2earn wrote in response to you. For me, loyalty and faithfulness do co-exist together not apart. But going with your discussion, I would take neither, for I have to have all the wonderful qualities you described and that partner would have to be faithful. I would rather be alone than suffer all the inattention to just be with one person who is faithful so my choice is neither. But like I wrote early, faithfulness and loyalty do not exist without the other in my mind for partners.

Hi eureka!
It is a difficult choice to make. Ideally, I would expect both loyalty and faithfulness from my partner. To my mind both the traits in a particular partner cannot run concurrently i.e. s/he is very caring, but s/he has an affair with someone else, other than his/her life partner. If a partner is loyal to you, s/he cannot be loyal to someone else, because you are his/her life partner. Hypothetically, if I have to choose between the two choices, I would go for the first one, because in that case, my partner would 'care' for me and I can always lean on her shoulder. However, in the second case, if she does not care about me but on the surface is loyal to me, that would not serve any purpose. In the first case, I would probe my partner and would like to know what led her to get into an affair with a third person and what are my shortcomings and how I can improve those. I would see what went wrong from my side.
Have a great evening!

If it came down to having to choose, it would have to be faithful. My soon to be ex-wife stood by me but was never faithful. it hurts a lot more to have your significant other shacking up with other people than not always being there for you.

This is gamble.Being loyal and faithful are 2 sides of a coin which make meaning when they are together. So being loyal to someone means being faithful. Its just being together and to have feeling that if am drowning, there is someone out there to hold my hand and make me safe. Loyalty and faithfulness are essential part of any relation, being that of a family, community, state, country etc.
Being loyal and faithful is the art of living a happy and lively life.

i don't find your situation to be hypothetical as i had seen one of my friends do it. i had always found it to be strange but its true. in fact those guys happened to be my close friends within the circle. one of them wouldn't have enough to profess his love for my best friend but at the same time had his long time girl friend too.whom he told was very special to him. he was caring to both of them and happened to be there for them ( i always wondered how he managed that but he did satisfy both of them emotionally and both were aware of eachother's presence in his life).it was kind of weird for he said he truely loved both of them and i couldn't make head and tail out of it as i do not know how a person can be truly in love with two people simultaneously.so i think i would go for first one seeing that he had managed to keep both happy while i think inattention or rejection by one's lover however faithful he might be is more of a torture..

I would want both.
loyality, faithfullness, someone who can be dependable, count on, there for me, gives me his attention, and listens when I need some help solving a problem. Plus I would do the same for him. Give him the same things he gives me, make it equal so that no one in the relationship feels unappreciated.

I believe that loyalty and faithfulness is the same thing. You can't have one with out the other. But I guess it depends on the situation with the two different people. Your heart chooses who you want to be with so if you love the first person then you should go with them but if you love the second person then you should stick it out and see where things lead.

I have been there already and would like to tell you that one needs to take chances with life. As one goes along life's journey there are so many situations that can change a person's attitude, perceptions, priorities, etc. What you know of a person before marriage will be totally different from what that person will project after the 'I do' is said. One starts a new life leaving behind all one knows about each other as the situations would have changed drastically. For happiness one needs to expect nothing but just give, give, give. If both believe in this norm that would be the happiest couple on earth. So take a risk and keep God in your life.

I honestly think they go together, you cant have a loyal partner if he isnt faithful. I wouldnt be able to choose either. I would rather be alone if my husband was like that. Thankfully he isnt, he is both!