So....she's gone leaving four kids...goodbye to my dear friend :)
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39140)
Philippines
November 17, 2009 1:25pm CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters,
To all friends and dear mylotters who responded to my previous topics related to this one...my friend's gone forever.
She died 10pm of November 17,09 (Philippine time)
The moment she was admitted and till her last breath i was there.
Tuesday night around 8pm i went to the hospital to visit her again,and to pay for her respirator/oxygen.
Some friends are there too,some friends are saying she looks like dead already.
One friend say's,she feels cold...one is saying,she doesn't have pulse anymore.
I also check her status,feel her pulse...yes,she really feels cold and i can' feel her pulse...not on her arms,not on her feet...not on her neck.
Was she dead?...or still alive?...i had this sudden panicky feeling.
I went to the nurses station and ask the nurse.."pls check our friend's condition"
The nurse followed and check my friend...then the nurse gone,and she returns with another nurse,and another nurse.
Then,one nurse says.."we will call her doctor"...
The doctor came and connect the ECG apparatus...and then went out.
Then the nurse called out..."the doctor want's to talk the patient's husband pls"
So,her husband followed to the nurse's station...
Then the sad moment of truth..."my/our friend died".
Yah,she died silently...we are there...she didn't made any movement or sound...she passed away in peace.
She passed away before our every eyes...
And again...like a movie scene in a directed and scripted manner...
There are the nurses,clearing her ...removing all the apparatus and dextrose and respirator.
I can't cry...i don't know why,but i was there staring blankly,no one wants to speak.
Everyone is just eyeing,till the nurse covered her with white blanket.
That time,i found myself holding her hand and said "goodbye".
I was standing there,i don't know how long,some friends also come near...i can hear them talking but i don't understand what they are talking about.
My mind is busy,...goodbye my friend,rest in peace...you choose to leave so,we have to let you go.
Then some hospital staff came to take her body taking her to the morgue.
We are left,standing till she was out of sight.
Then like one person,we all walk to the elevator...to the exit door.
Some friends leave,some stay while waiting for the death certificate.
Till her papers get cleared...then,we and other friends adjourn...it's exactly 1:35am.
I can't sleep,i decided to open my laptop and wrote my feelings here.
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9 responses
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
hi jaiho...
sorry to hear about your friend and my deep condolences...
its really sad that she left her husband and four children, but life is really like that...its time for her to go and we must accept it... moral support is all that we can offer to their family and i hope that they will stay strong...
again my condolences...
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
we already accepted the truth that she might leave us.
but when reality comes right before our eyes...it's not that easy to accept.(it really aches)
we had to let her go,it's her choice thu we know and see how much she struggle to live.
maybe God has another plan for her family and it's her time already.
thanks for always being here amiga...again,thank you so much.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
hi jaiho...
yeah, i understand how you feel for i have been in such situation also...usually losing our loved ones is never easy to accept, but i think its better for them to leave than to see them in pain and struggling...
yeah, maybe God has better plan for them...
i hope for time to come to heal all those wounds, and erase the pain that you and her family is feeling now...
God bless amiga...
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Nov 09
that had to be a very sad time for you,but you know she
has gone to a better place now, and is no longer suffering
it was great that all of her closest friends were there
and maybe that gave her the peace she needed to leave
to meet God.To me it always seems like such a shock even when we
expect it, we really don't I think. I know it was like that with
my own husband. I knew he was not going to make yet a part of
me refused to believe it. I did not cry then but much later.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
If river run dries how much more with our eyes...eat lots of malunggay if you want to more tears again...cheer up!
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
you are right,she's going for a better place where she can no longer feel the pain and sufferings.
And,we her friends and her family and loved ones were left with the sadness and her memories.
We were prepared for the worst,but,it's not like when facing the reality that she's gone forever.
Thanks for your response dear.
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@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
18 Nov 09
Well it must be a sad day, I hope you would be able to give some comfort to the husband and her children. I might not be able to comprehend the loss of a wife and mother, however the loss must be very great. I hope time would heal the wound and the would go on with meaning things in life.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
thanks friend,she is now at peace...but it is natural that we,her friends and loved ones will be hurt by this unexpected event.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
sorry doesn't always mean sad...and your sorry is very much appreciated my friend.
it really hurt to lost a friend..but,there's nothing to do now but to face the truth that she's gone.
thanks for your response dear.
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
18 Nov 09
This is so sad. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It was nice of you to be there though until the end. I'm sure she would have appreciated that. It is hard but instead of mourning the loss, I think it is now a good time to remember her life as something that was wonderful and to celebrate her life as she was still here with you and her family. I don't know if this will help but when I lost my grandpa, we did this and I felt better.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
yah,she might feel how much we care and how much we let her feel she is being loved by many people.
she tried to fight for 5 days,but,she did not make it.
maybe God want her to rest in peace ,and that her time has really come.
we accepted her fate thu it pains.
thanks for your response dear.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
My deepest condolence my bonita...I guess her life would just be there...all I can say is let's try to accept it and face tomorrow...we must move on and help the family of the deceased to move on...encourage them and give moral and spiritual support..a hope and strength they need to face another chapter of their lives without their mother...if possible don't show them your too much weariness so they could accept the fact...
Good luck my bonita...you're such a real good friend of the family I admire that..
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
thanks again dear amigo.
I can't cry anymore,maybe my tears stopped...for many days that i cried everytime i see her condition.
And now that she's gone,my tears gone with her.
I can only express my saddest emotions here in my discussion.
This really helps me a lot...
And i am thankful for friends in here that shares my sentiments.
thanks again and again dear amigo.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Hello friend,
Really sad,coz,she's still young and four kids she orphaned.
Life's is never certain...we never knew what tomorrow may brings.
It is God's will...
Thanks for your response and have a great day always 
@erlinda_0107 (92)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
i'm sorry for what happened to your friend..i feel your pain but maybe its really her time dying with all of you there...her dearly beloved friends. she is in peace now. and she is lucky having a friend like you, having you beside her in times she needed you most...
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
we already accepted her fate,maybe she had finished her mission now and maybe God has another plan for her family and kids,that we never knew.
Or maybe God want's to send any message to her family and this is God's way of letting them know.
being a friend is also like being a sister to someone who we share things about us.
she is a good friend that is why we loved her.
thanks for your response dear.
