When ethics clash  

It sounds like you and your husband are a team that helps each other and understands each others' like and dislikes. My hat goes off to you! : )

I also agree that a person should lead by example. Yes, there is a degree of give and take in life, but how do you handle a person who is only interested in taking? Like a boss who expects more than what is humanly possible for one person?

Thank you for your response. It is always nice to hear of a marriage that is shared.

Thank you for the compliment. Yes, I think that my husband and I make a really good team, and we work well together.

I have been on both sides of the situation - worker and boss. If my boss expected more of me than I was able to give, then I would explain it to him or her. I would let him or her know why what they were asking was not possible and offer an alternative suggestion that might work better. When I was in charge, I did not ask anything of my employees that I was not willing or able to do. Unfortunately, sometimes I would forget that I was better at certain things than other people, which in turn lead me to sometimes being the boss that asked more than some people were able to give. When that happened, though, I not only listened to them but also tried to come up with a plan that would work better, such as having somebody help them with what they weren't as good at and allowing them to do more of something that they could finish quicker.

Sounds like you have a great attitude and understanding of working together for the goal. Want to be my boss? : )

I had some really good teachers that "lead by example". They also took the time to explain to me what made them so good as leaders. All I really had to do was think of how they would handle the situation, and I usually came up with the right answer. If I still had a problem, then I could always call and ask for their advice. It really helps have a good role model that will take you under their wing and teach you the ropes.

If I were in a supervisory position again, I would love to be your boss.

That is what I try to do to. I'm just having trouble dealing with someone who expects help, but refuses to help others. I have tried talking about it, explaining situations as they arise, but can't get through to them that some tasks are not as simple as quick to accomplish as they think. When I do ask for help, I'm given a "pep talk" on how to do something instead of the helping hand to do it. Grrrrr.... : )