Would you leave your child alone with the maid?  

Hi mawong, my daughter is 15 years old now and we dont have a maid in the house because i have lots of bad experiences with the maids or nanny when my daughter is still a baby and i cannot do anything but to entrust her to her nanny. If i only had a way i would not really have my child be taken cared of by a nanny. But i have to go to work for the two of us. She had 3 nannies who were very good and caring to her but the rest were abusive. Only my daughter and the nanny are left in the house five days a week and i dont know what happens to my daughter when i am away. I can only sense when there is something wrong because a mother can easily notice the changes in her child when something is wrong. Sometimes i goes home early than usual to surprise them and see what is really happening. One time I arrived home seeing my daughter locked inside her room crying because the nanny is sleeping in the living room and does not want to be disturbed. My daughter also suffered infectious diarrhea for one month and every saturday i would bring her to her pediatrician for check up. One day i discovered that her nanny does not clean and sterilize her feeding bottle before using, she just mix the formula on the unwashed bottle. My neighbor would tell me that the nanny would shout at my daughter and verbally abuse her when she cries because she cannot clean her anus when she moves her bowel. That time i leave the house for work at 5 in the morning while my daughter is still sleeping and arrive home at 8 in the evening, when my daughter is already asleep. That was very painful for a mother, sometimes i woke her up. I kept on changing nannies but i am not very fortunate until i found the last one, but she got married. Good thing, my daughter was already 12 years old when she left.

HI mawong

I like to tell You One famouse proved i.e It is very easy to believe some one, it is very very very easy to break it but difficlt is only to make it.Now a days so many case come out in sight which are about child abusing by maid which break trust of all.Our baby is very precious i am sure after seening all this no one parent is ready to take any risk to give their baby to anyone. probably! It denpends on them but after listen all this horriable news i dont give my baby to any one at any cost i like to take his/her care own.
have a nice day

I am bless to have a wonderful maid who takes care of my 1year & 8 months old baby since 2mos old. I just left them both at the house I trusted my Nanny because she's been taking care of kids for all her life. She's 50years old now & she previously work at the same job with my cousin. Only she prefer to work near with her family since her husband died. Its so hard to look for reliable nannies now a days especially the one who loves kids & takes good care of them both.

I still think it would be better if there's somebody like our parents to be around with the maid and children.This is why living with parents is a great thing but I don't have such luck. Hence, I can only do things myself cos finance is tight when it's only one person earning, so can't have a maid to help around.

In my childhood days I treat the maid as my second mother. As I grow older she's always been there for me. If I have problems I can tell to her all the things that's bothering me. When I am already in my right age. The maid that I used to know was my Aunt in my mother side.

I suggest that if ever you hired a maid. I suggest people who are in your own bloodline. So that abuse will surely minimal.

Well if she is the maid then she must ahve been through some screening process to determine your elligibilty for that post so I would leave my child with her .Granted some maids are nice to the kids when you are there and nasty behind your back but I guess its a risk that you may have to take dependin on the circumstance but i would trust my child with the maid rather than teh neighbour

My cousin has a two year old baby and they have a maid in the house. She used to take care of her kid and the maid is just their to do household jobs and can be asked to do some things for the baby. She will not leave her baby on her maid alone.
But things change when she goes abroad. She has her husband to take care of the baby, but since, he is working too, the baby is left with the maid. I find it good because the maid has been there for almost 2 years now. So probably they trust their maid already, and they can leave their baby on her.

As far as I am concerned, I think if the maid is so familiar with my family, I will leave alone my child to the maid.I just want the maid can take good care of our child. But if the maid is not so familiar, I will not leave the cild to the maid. Happy mylot.

We've all had good and bad experiences with maids, and to be honest, it's really hard to decide whether to trust them or not.

We've had really trustworthy maids, our "yaya" when we were little was so devoted to us that until now, years and years later she still calls us up on our birthdays to greet us, and even sends us presents. She is now with another family we know, and she's also really trusted, and they even brought her along when they would go on family vacations.

On the other hand, we had another maid when we were small who would scare my sister with match dolls that my sister developed a phobia. A banker friend of mine also told me how he found out how their maid used to hit their toddler son.

I guess you have to consider very carefully whether to leave your child with the maid. You have to take into account how long and how well you've known this person, etc. etc. As for me though, I don't think I will. Of course, I can't really say for sure since I am not married, but if I do have kids, I would rather be hands-on with them, even if I have a maid or "yaya" in my employ. However, not because I don't trust the maid, but because I would want to play a primary role in raising my child.

A good friend of mine sort of has a solution for this though. She is hands on with her son herself, but she also has a maid to help her out. They are a techno-savvy couple, she and her husband, and so what they did is install a surveillance system in their house. Of course, the "yaya" is aware of this as well, and so she knows not to try anything when my friend entrusts her baby boy to her.

What is a maid? hahaha The only people I actually know who could afford a maid were military families stationed in certain overseas countries. As soon as they got back to the US, that luxury was over.