Friends Request Rejected...
@froggieslover (3069)
United States
December 21, 2009 9:10pm CST
I have become a member of both facebook and myspace and have been able to get in touch with some old friends from both elementary and high school and it has been a nice way to keep in touch with some especially the ones that have moved far away but I have had a few people that have sent me request that are from my school but they are either ones that I have no idea who they are or ones that I know of but have never talked to then or now and at times I do accept their request but times that I don't only because well I don't think I want them as a "friend" and I often think to myself I would never send a request to a person if I never had a previous friendship or acquaintance with them whether they went to the same school I did or not....
Do you sent request to anyone just to get a lot of friends knowing them or not or do you only accept request from people that you have or had a friendship with and same for when you send them out do you send to people just because they went to the same school or job and you have seen them around or do you have to make sure that they will remember you???
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9 responses
@celticeagle (189825)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Dec 09
I put out friend requests to people for many reasons. I think doing this is one way of getting to know people at some point. I wonder if these people that befirend you that you have these things incommon with are seeking to get to know you and feel they perhaps can take advantage of this new forum to get to know you now where they didn't for whatever reason before. Have you thought of that?
@celticeagle (189825)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jan 10
Well, this is true. But I meant people you knew in reality like in school or something. I just go with the gut. You have to have friends on here to get the email discussion thing going on. Enjoy!
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
31 Dec 09
I think with mylot it is different because you more or less have to be friend people that you don;t know and then slowly get to know them as where with sites like facebook and myspace you have the choice of adding and denying friends based on already knowing or not knowing them. I deny people on facebook and myspace because I either don't know them or do not want them knowing my personal information. When I am deciding friends with mylot it is more based on their discussions or responses, how long they have been a memeber and sometime consistency. Thanks a bunch for your response celticeagle
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Dec 09
For me, I don't like to request to be friends with just anyone. I try to stick to the people that I was either very close to while we are in school or the people that are currently a part of my life. Other than that, I try not to make friends with too many people simply because I don't think either of these sites are meant to be a contest of who has the most friends. Besides that, there is some personal stuff that I do share about myself that I'd rather the entire world not know.
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I too am the same way Dorann, like I mentioned above I have kids pictures and information about my personal life on there that I would rather not share with just anyone. I have seen on friends facebook pages where they have their phone numbers, address and email addresses on their and I think to myself that is crazy because while they are set to private there are some things that other members can still see especially lately with all the privacy changes there are times when friends of your friends can view your pages so I make sure I don't have that information on there. Thanks a bunch for your response dorann
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I just think it is a little weird to send a request to a person you went to school with or worked at a job with but never had conversation with....
Thanks a bunch for you response gabs
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
22 Dec 09
I have a lot of friends of facebook, and I like to look up old friends, but I find they accept and then we really do not have that much to say to each other after that. Too many years have gone by and we don't even know each other anymore.
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Hehehe..I have had the same with a few of my old school friends or we will accept, say a few lines about what we are doing with our lives and then that is it and you think hmm..well that was interesting LOL I believe it is because so many years have passed by..Thanks a bunch for your response winterose
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
23 Dec 09
i'M ON FB BUT HAVE NEVER RECEIVED A REQUEST FROM SOMEONE I DIDN'T KNOW. Of course om mylot i accept them all the time & not know them. I usually check & see who their friends are & where they are from & go from there.
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
29 Dec 09
With myspace or facebook i only add people that I know personally, even if they claim to know me and I don't know them i don't accept them..I like my privacy. As with mylot I do much like you by checking their friends, what they have responded to or started and how long they have been a member.....I know everyone needs a starting point that is why I will wait a few days and see how much the progress and then decide. Thanks a bunch for your response antique
@kaylachan (84742)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Dec 09
I don't send friend requests. I recieve them. Half the time I don't pay attention to who sent them. If I get a message claiming they went to my school who am I to judge? I've been out of high school since 2002. I don't remember hardly anyone I went to school with, but I don't see any reason not to believe they knew me. I wasn't very popular, so I never paid that much attention.
I have lots of friends, lots of friend requests, but I rarely reject anyone. I see no reason.
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
30 Dec 09
See I am different I am careful with who I accept as a friend in both myspace and facebook. I have pictures of my kids and family in there as well as some personal information that I don't want just anyone getting a hold of. There are of course some people that went to my school that I don't remember but I still wouldn't accept them, you jut never know when someone is lying It is easy enough I am sure for someone to get your high school name...
Thanks a bunch for your response kaylachan
@BarBaraPrz (51817)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
22 Dec 09
I just request friends if I like what they've been posting.
As an aside, about a year ago, I started getting email forwards from a guy I supposedly went to high school with (grade 9, anyway) but I have no recollection of him. He remembers me, though.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Dec 09
Sort of depends on the site and the "culture" of the site. For example, Yuwie has a culture of add anybody and everybody. I was doing that at the beginning, but then I started only adding people if I saw them around a lot and they looked interesting. Here I add people if I encounter them in discussions often. On Facebook, I've only added people if I know them from somewhere.
@Tbarker1010 (96)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I used to do that with myspace, get all the friends I can get for my profile, but then when i grew up more and joined facebook, I was more selective of my friends, and I only accepted people that I know and have a relationship with.
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Hehe...I think it is best just to have people that you know in your profile because you just never know what somebody may be looking at on your profile or able to do once they are friends with you. I don't even have any bands in my profile just because that is still sketchy because you never know who is actually running that profile...Thanks a bunch for your response tbarker
