Do you see in your wife or husband, your mother or father?

in my case, definitely not. if my husband was anything like my father, we'd never have had a relationship at all.

Hi icesmile: I have heard about this old story so many times and it is actually true in so many cases but at least not in me. I mean I will not want to marry with my mom. I love my mom but her character is not the kind of temperament i am looking on a girl, I want the ones that makes me smile and you simply don't know what are they going to do, my mother on the other hand is very serious just like me so this is not the case. Even with that I beleive this theory applies to many persons. Thanks for asking me this. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy Holidays. take Care. -Alvaro.

I made it a point to marry a guy who was the total opposite of my father. The only time Dad has come through him was when he flipped out about something and started yelling. I explained to him that that reminded me of something traumatic from childhood, much in the same way as fireworks sound like combat noises to him, and he hasn't done it since.

I never thought about this until I got married, but yes I do see a lot of my father in my husband. There are things that he does that makes me sit back and think oh my gosh my dad does the exact same thing. I am very close to my dad so I am wondering if that is why I married someone like him.

I think it is somewhat true. As we mature and begin looking for that person to marry, we try to find someone trustworthy and responsible (among other things). The standard we have is our parents, as they are who raised us and that is from whom we learned what trustworthy and responsible are. That is a very deep question, I can't wait to see the other responses and learn what everyone else's point of view is!