I feel I am betrayed
@allknowing (153544)
India
January 10, 2010 1:33am CST
These two cousins (brothers' children) were showing signs of being in love which disturbed the boy's mother immensely and so I as an aunt was requested to butt in. I always call a spade a spade and so told them in no certain words that this was an unhealthy relationship and that they should terminate it as soon as possible. They did not take this involvement in the right spirit and both stopped talking to me but did till the mother that they had stopped 'seeing' each other. That was not true. Now they are married. The entire family uncles and aunts were all against it but what do you know everyone attended their wedding including this mother. And I am the only one has been kept out. What do you have to say to this?
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
10 Jan 10
You know, for the first time in my life, i am actually at a loss of words. We all know, that there can come nothing good of this. You really did try your best to put a stop to this. To tell you to ignore all of this, will be rude, as i can see that family values are important to you. It is just a shame that you were the one to be asked to put a stop to this, but the parents did not move a finger to put into this ugly pie. The only advice i can give you, love both of them, as you always did. I hope that in time, before there are any children, that they will come to understand that they made a mistake.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
10 Jan 10
They have a boy who seems normal but there is so much of information on this that it will affect future generations. We all have had our cousins and we all have had that beat missing when we interacted but we need to control ourselves and be a bit above animals which they were not. I do not hate them and that would be wrong but I just cannot get back with them. And in today's world when all of us lead our own lives interacting very little with others such a situation can be easily contained but if everyone was with me in the earlier stages this thing would have been averted!
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
10 Jan 10
Really, sweatie, i have to admire you. You do not want to know what i would have done, if i were in your shoes. But let them be. I hope that you can go on with yuor life and try to ignore the situation, as there is now absolutely nothing you or anyone, for that matter, can do to solve this one. If you still need to talk, i a always here and will try my utmost best to comfort you and give you advice as you need, but i think you should go and talk to your priest about it, if it gets to much. Good Luck.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
16 Feb 12
No matter the circumstances whether the cousins were in love with each other or someone else. The mother should not have asked you to put a stop to it. She should have done that. You were just being a good aunt giving the best advice you could think of for the situation as cousins should not marry each other. Continue to be the aunt that you are and someday they will understand their error and make amends.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
10 Jan 10
You did exactly what you thought is right. Do not bother about how people behave. It shows their immaturity. Let it not affect you. Now your conscious is clear.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
10 Jan 10
I take it the boy's mother did not have the courage to say that she asked you to do this. What a shame, and so unhealthy, putting the babies at risk, and here in the US it is illegal.
Since everyone was so against this, why were you the only one picked on?
@allknowing (153544)
• India
10 Jan 10
No one can be in favour of this but since they went ahead regardless of what anyone felt these people had no courage to go the way I did. I did not attend the wedding though I was invited - just a card was sent to me by post. And it was the duty of the mother to explain that it was at her instance that I took the initiative.
