Do these negative elements scar you?  

Hi vijayanths, when you know what is right and which brings peace to your home, but are unable to do so because your loved one would not hear of it, what do you do? What would this inability be termed, fear, lack of intelligence, poor health, poor personality, lack of self confidence? The negatives of my entire life is emanate from that one sentence.

Lack of finances and associated discomforts have always been my problems which have helped creating negative outlook towards things and events.As for one need to be comfortably settled in life if at all negative thoughts are to be effaced.

i think that i has lack of self confidence.it have affect my life.why did i say like this.because i find that i have intellegent and quickly finish anything.but i am very since grief.i always think that my friend and colleagues look down on me and make me not have confidence to face the reality and my life and close my heart in my case.i dont be willing to make friends and alwayse live alone.what i do only let me alone.this character make me shame.i make an attempt to change my character and improve confidence to face life.i think that it is important for me.someone said:the character decide the person's fate.

My list will be as follows/
Poor health--Without health nothing can be achieved.[Recently my sisinlaw's daughter passed away[she suffered from ill health for almost 32 years since she was born]
Lack of intelligence-Without inteeligence nothing can be achieved.THis is God given .

Fear-we can overcome this with proper prayers and faith-it is self made.
Lack of confidence-can overcome this if we have the others and are given the right encouragement.
Poor personality-if many other qualities are there the personality shines irrespective of outward beauty [people respect skills in this world--however , this does not mean wanting to be ugly.
Lack of enthusiasm--can be overcome with proper attitude .
So, essentially what I mean is that natural gifts are health and intelligence.Of course if by personality you mean this refers to physical attributes then this is also important and it would come up to 3rd in the list.

This is a hard one, as I would never want any of these in my life but if i had to rank them in order. it would go as follows in order of greatest fear:

My personal fears
Poor Health
Lack of intelligence
lack of enthusiasm
poor personality
lack of self confidence

My personal fears would top the list. My personal fear is death of a loved one. I have never experience it, but iy has been a fear of mines since I was about 4 years old. I can't imagine losing someone close to me and I am scared to death of that more than anything else, but i try not to think about it, since our thoughts can attract what we do not want into our life

Poor Health - Another one of my fears, I do everything to stay in good health. I am even germophobic, I don't want to get sick or contract some terrible illness, so I am always mindful to take care of myself so that I can be in the best health possible


Lack of Intelligence - In order to survive you need your sense of intelligence or someone much wiser than you could trick you out of your life - quite literally.


Lack of Enthusiasm - I always want to have sense of enthusiasm about life and myself - without it one can easily sink into depression and feeling purposeless.

Poor Personality - is lower on this list because it is easy to adjust ones personality and learn how to better ones self.

Lack of Confidence -Is easy to overcome, I think we all lack confidence in some way. We are not perfect people, so we are always feeling a lack in confidence in certain areas, but it is easy to overcome.

For me there are many things that can Scar me, but thru the yrs I have learned that in a lot of ways, it is really up to me what I do with the things I have been given that help to determine who I am and will become as well. Here is my list:

A) Lack of Self Confidence - Because it can Stop me from being able to achieve
B) Fear - One of my Big ones that can Stop me from wanting to reach out and go higher... Career wise, etc.
C) Poor Health - This used to be number one, but since I have a lot of Health issues I have since learned to work around them and as long as I keep in control they cannot deter me too bad.
D) Lack of Intellegence - This is what helps keep me motivated and pursue something when dealing with my Health issues ... When I ever loose this I am in trouble.

Health is the most important requirement for anyone. In Tamil language we say, without wall no picture. First your body should be healthy, they only you can achieve anything well. So my list is
1. Health 2. intelligence 3. wealth 4. enthusiasm 5. fear

First in ranking - poor health (no doubt)
second - Lack of self confidence (I feel when this is missing then everything is missing)
third - Fear (When we overcome this we can find many ways to come up in life)
fourth - Lack of intelligence (I have put this in the fourth place because when we have confidence and we overcome fear it's for sure that we have got intelligence.
There is no man without intelligence.It is only us who have to bring it to existence)
fifth - Poor personality
sixth - Lack of enthusiasm

I don't to have a poor health and poor intelligence too, I don't want to suffer from health problems. I am very fortunate of having a healthy mind and body. About poor intelligence, I am sure I am not intelligent kind of person but I can use my brain and I can decide. I admit I have lack of confidence sometimes, but that is not a problem to me, I will gain it when I badly needed it. That two negatives, are what I don't want to have. And hopefully some people will not have too.

Hi Vijay, I scare of the Poor Health only. That is it, the rest I can give fight but when it comes to health I just have to follow all the instructions of my Doctor......