bedroom doors and friendship  

Was it in your pre-agreement that you will not be sharing that particular room you're in? And if your rent is exactly divided by 2 and she has her own room, then your reason for locking is a valid one. BUT if there's a particular thing inside your room that you two agreed to share, then you have to compromise or find a solution to the problem. Try to ask her first what is it that bother her about you locking the door. And then talk to her about how you feel about it too. Hope this helps.

..hi.. well, you have all the right to lock your bedroom since that is your own room.. and if she needs something, then she has to knock.. I think your friend is being unreasonable.. why would she want your room to be unlocked? So that she can enter everytime she wants? that's already abusing your privacy.. If I were you, I would talk to her and explain things.. It's not that you don't want her entering your bedroom.. Its just having your own privacy that she needs to respect.. Unless she has other motives.. hehe.. don't get me wrong.. .. your friend really needs enlightenment.. she has to understand what privacy means.. you're already sharing the house, why would she still want to share your bedroom? Its just an opinion..

hi abitcurious,

you are not being unreasonable at all but your friend is. You have every right to close and to lock your bedroom door at night when you sleep. My daughter closes her bedroom door each night and for all I know she might lock it. She is 16 and I respect her privacy. I knock before entering and i would not get offended if she locked her door. She also locks it during the day when she is at school. I do have a key in case of an emergency but I don't use it. She locks it because she has an older sister who has in the past helped herself to borrowing clothes from her. It is her room....her place to go for peace and privacy. If she wants to lock the door then that is her right. Your's too. It's really too bad your friend feels this way. Why does she care if you lock your door? Does she have any reason to want to go into your room while you are sleeping? I don't understand why it would matter to her one way or another.

I think that you do nothing wrong~
It's your right to do anything you like except illegal things in your room~
Everyone has oneself's privacy,if my friend like to do that I won't say anything about it~coz I need to respect her/his habits,If I don't like the way she/he is I think I won't live with her/him together~

You are correct.You have all the rights to maintain your privacy.Even thick friends should have a space left for each other and they should respect that space.Only then a relationship can exist smoothly.As you are not willing to loose her friendship,talk to her kindly to explain your views.If she can't understand,quit the place.

Wow, could it be that the privacy you need she doesn't see as I found that being open and living together may mean at times she'll hop into your bedroom and you into hers. As the level of intimacy as friends may be more professional than she thinks and that she may want to sleep in your bed at times. I know roommates who are close enough to do that and it seems like dorming as well but if that's not in your agenda, you should have specified in the beginning when you both started living together. If on the other hand, you're finding out about it now, it's good that you brought up the discussion to clearly be in the open with the issue. As of now, it may be a bit irritating but as all frustrations go, a conclusion will come eventually for the better.

Hi, abitcurious. You have the right to your privacy. No matter what! Is this friend of yours homosexual? I mean she wants to be around you a lot.. I don't blame you for locking your door as you would go to sleep. Your friend needs to let you have your privacy because you are entitled to it.

I had a similar situation with my roomate in college, I guess everyone living together has a bad period once in a while - it's normal.
From my experience the best way to resolve any problems or doubts is to talk. Most of the arguements start because of a misunderstanding and a simple, open talk gets everything out in the open. It might be uncomfortable or awkward at first, but that one talk is much easier than going on for days without communicating, or keeping something inside and feeling bad, angry, sad ... and then in the end you have to have that talk anyway! So the best thing is to do it right away.
Most of the arguements are some silly little things that get blown out of proportion as time passes ... and the more time passes the problem gets bigger.

Everyone has their own privacy.I will not interfere in other 's privacy,of course, there are some things I do mot let others know. I am surprised why She would be unhappy? Dosen't she lock the door? And why her reason for? Try a good communication , and explain.She will understand you if she is your good friend.Ture friends will not care about such thing.

Hi! well, it is good that you lock up your door when you go to sleep, because anything can happen and it is better to lock it up