Do you always give in to your children?

I always think if you have promised the kids on something, you'd better do it, otherwise the kids will not trust you anymore, and you are teaching them a lesson - being irresponsible or break your own promise. My son is just one year old, and I have been buying some toys for him. I am quite picky on toys, I always choose those toys which are good at helping him to develop his various skills, I seldom buy toys which are purely for fun only. Perhaps girls may need some dolls, but I do think that they do not need too many dolls, perhaps one or two is enough? Also, I personally do not agree to buy toys or anything for kids as a reward. Otherwise, the kids may think that doing good is to get something in return, and this may lead them to become more materialistic. I always remember my parents told me that doing good in school or at home is our own duty or responsibility, we shouldn't need to be rewarded. Though I think we need to praise our kids by doing good, by words but not by any materials. This is only my personal opinion.

Hi Raja, i do not always give in to my kids request. everytime i say no to them, i always explain the reason behind why the answer is NO. they are smart enough to understand and they never force me to give in. they are nice kids. sometimes i challenge them to do things where i can give them rewards so that they will work for it, take on responsiblity and will certainly enjoy the reward afterwards.

I dont buy my children anything unless it's a birthday or a holiday. I dont believe in buying them toys through out the year. If I did that I would be very broke as I have 4 children. To top it off I have always been against it. I was not brought up that way nor will I bring up my children that way. It just shows they can have what they want when they want. When my children used to ask for things all the time I simply told them no or I cant afford it or it's not a special day and I left it at that. They would always whine and cry about it. Eventually I was not bringing them to the store with me and they sure missed that. They now understand that they will not get everything and anything and they dont ask for anything when we go out now and they are 4, 6 and 6 1/2. The best thing you can do is be presitant.

The last time my son got a new toy was from a happy meal, and that was because mom didnt want to cook that night, and craving a whooper..lol Beside that the last time my son got a new toy a was Christmas... Would love to just shower him with everything he wants; one can not afford it, two he has a hard enough time taking care of the toys he has, why add more... not sure if you have that problem with your girls or not... When do I get him new toy? When I do have a little extra money I will think about a new toy, it depends on his behavior... I have been having problems with him getting into stuff and wrecking things... If he didnt have those messes for the week and I have the money, its likely I would get him one... a small toy.. I save the big things for the holidays, or some special reason... There was something that I started when he was old enough to want...lol I would be in the store but we could not afford the toy, so I would let him play with it while I was there but when it came time to go to the check out I would put it back... and I was honest with him; I told him that mommy didnt have enough money to buy the toy... granted at the time my son had no idea what money was..and people looked at me funny... but now he knows the routine... havent had the "big scene" at the store yet.. but he is 4... have a long way to go yet...lol

I used to be the mother that was constantly giving in to my children. However, that has changed in the past year because we've found ourselves in a different financial situation than we once were in. My daughter is constantly asking for something and when I tell her no, I do see her throwing a fit because she doesn't get what she is asking for. However, I think that it is best as a parent to not always give our children the things that they are asking for.

I am more lenient to my children as a father. My wife always disagree on how to raise our kids. She's stricter when it comes to raising kids. It is good but only to a certain extent. Kids will always be kids. Let them have fun once in a while.

My son is very good in getting what he wants. He seem to have mastered the art of persuasion. At first, i am firm with not giving in with his usual material request like a toy. But when he whines and whines, that the sound irritates me. i can't help but give in. I really need to teach my child about money.

My daughter is the same way. But she's a good girl. We were young once. We remember what it was like to want something. The other ones are old. I remember it like it was yesterday. When she came to you, you told her that if she did all these things you would buy it for her. You made a promise mom. Dads are boys, cheap and dont see the big picture. They dont know what its like to live without the latest mermaid doll. I remember my mom bought taylor tuesday she had the top of her head could be turned so she could have blond hair or if you turned it, you could have black hair with bangs. I liked that one the best! This doll thing is something special between you and your baby girl. I would buy the doll. Also tell her that this is it for a while. Let her know you bought it because she has been behaving so good. Make it a reward. Good Luck dl