Is He the One for me? I am Totally Lost!!  

I can only speak for myself, but I was in a relationship where I really loved somebody, but his criticism was really cutting down my self esteem. He wasn't criticizing kindly and he mostly wasn't criticizing things that I could change. My heart was saying stay, my head was saying go. I ended up leaving. Passion fades but if you don't have a good friend ship and mutual respect and understanding you are eventually going to be miserable.

Hi, substance. I would simply tell him that if he can't love me for who I really am that he should not love me at all. You can only be you, not an imaginary image that he is designed in his mind for you to be. You are already doing enough by measuring up to his standards. He will either have to accept you as you are, or have nothing at all. Tell him to take you as you are, or have nothing at all. Quoted from The Queen of R&B herself, Miss Mary. J. Blige.

In my opinion, in the long run you might be better off taking a break from this relationship especially if your self esteem is at risk. It's great that he still gives you butterflies after 3 years, but if being with him makes you continuously doubt yourself, judge yourself and fret, it is not a healthy situation for you. And if he's from such a strict family, marrying into that family might put you under their microscope as well. Speaking of families, have you ever thought of what kind of father your boyfriend would be to your kids if you got married? Would you two have the same philosophy as parents?

this is a strong story hmm, have to think a bit before i can answer on this one.
first of, i hope you spoke with him about this multiple times and at a serious way.
i wonder what he replys when you tell him.

i dont doubt about the fact that he loves you, i'm pretty sure it's just his character that makes him tell those things to you.
i find some things on myself that match with him, i also try to change some parts of my girlfriend, but i want that becouse of her changing and i don't want this proces.

i also don't know what to do but i want to give her time and so. well, i hope time will also be your answer. think about it good enough and try speeking with him again.

Well dear friend, this is really surprising me! What you have narrated is my story!!!
Well i got married at age of 29 with same man i loved. He is the same person like you mentioned and each words of it are TRUE and cent percent applies to my love. Friend loving is also waiting and holding it at any cost. I understand i am the same like you, when i was 26, i was started to worry and emotions are natural. But you know the real happiest person is proudly ME!! Living with him is ..i cant express in words. Loosing a love is easy, but living and making the love is ultimate gift. You will be rewarded with unlimited happiness for your waiting, so dont think of cut or adjust..just wait for your great life. Happy loving!!

Tell your bf again that if he truly loves you, he must accept you for what you are. A good relationship is a two way traffic or there must be a give and take in all aspects for the relationship to grow. You are not married yet to him but you have already a very low self-esteem. If I were you, he is not the right one for you.

Wooahhh, i can feel pressure in this one. If he is such a perfectionist, then I might say that your in-laws (to be, if you decide) would be giving the same pressure to you.

I don't know but it is still your decision to balance. If he loves you, then he must accept you as you are. What if you don't have a job, he would also bid adios to you?? try to test him also, and tell him a scenario like "WHAT IF"..... and see what you can hear from your perfectionist guy.

Improving the status of a person does not mean his having good intentions. What if you gave all of what you have and still is not enough for him. Women really needs to be pampered and being appreciated by their men. But what if your guy does not give it to you because he thinks too much already of himself? can you go by the flow every time? do you have to compete with him every now and then to prove something worthy? your 27, I guess you can now make up your mind with the situation. It does not matter even if you have been 7 or 8 years in a relationship, but if you are not going to be happy, then what is next?

Have you tried talking about this and how it is affecting you as a person if he is trying to dictate everything he wants in you. I think there can be some kind of a compromise on this things. If he truly loves you then "both" of you are to make sacrifices and adjustments in life to accommodate each others whims and desires. I think that is to be understood.

you really cant tell if the guy is the right one for you til you start to live with him in the same roof. thats the only time you will know the real attitude or characteristic of the guy as some of them they tend to hide it afraid of losing the other half. but then no one is perfect so if you think his responsible and both of you love each other and happy to be with each other then why not. its in the matter of love, understanding and acceptance.

have you realized what kind of relation do you have with your boyfriend. does he really love you as you and not the one that he wants you to be. tell to him that you are not a perfect person that he wants you to be. tell to him all the things that was in your mind and in your heart. dont think of your time and emotions if the outcome would be pains for you.