Is it alright for guys to carry bags for the ladies?  

Yes, I think it's kind of the guy to do that especially when the person is really in need of it. It just didn't sound right when I heard criticism from my guys friends. Thank you for sharing the same thoughts as me. Cheers

Yes, I would think it's very kind of you to be helping me with my bag. But I will only asked and allow my boyfriend to help me carry my bag though. So in a way, when the lady allows you to carry her bag for her, she must have put some trust in you as well.

Hi, definitely it is very kind of you to be helping out people who is in need. If it's my mom, I will definitely help her out regardless of the weight of her shopping bags. Thanks for sharing! It's really a nice example that you quote.

thank you too! i am glad that you agree with me

yes, totally agree with you.

But if do you think it's perfectly fine to carry not just the shopping bags but also the lady's hand bag?

Sorry for not making myself very clear in my discussion post cos when I mentioned that people criticize the guy, its cos the guy is not just carrying the shopping bags, but as well as the lady's hand bag. They find that the guy over-pamper the gal.

Do you think the same as well? Or you think it's perfectly alright to be carrying her hand bag as well regardless of the weight of her hand bag?

Oh, yes. Definitely if you lend a helping hand to your partner, be it guy or gal, it will definitely makes a good impression for him/her. It's good that you pointed out about the purse example. I do see guys taking the ladies' purse for the ladies and that's when I will also have doubts over the need for him to carry the purse as it's definitely is light any easy to carry. But of course if the lady appears to be unwell etc, that's perfectly fine. Do you agree?

I see, thanks for sharing. I think I won't be able to accept if the guy is carrying something that's light and easy to carry for the ladies such as purse (as mentioned earlier by another mylotter reply). It's nice of you to offer your helping hands when they are really in need.

Hi, thanks for sharing. I think it's very gentleman act of the guy to carry the bags for ladies. And I think it also shows that the lady trust the guy if she is willing to let him carry her bag.

Hi, it's very nice of your partner to help you with you bags. Because not everyone will do that for their partners. Now that I think of it, my boyfriend always offers to help me with my bags as well! Thank you for sharing because what you mentioned brought back those moments which seems so insignificant and I almost treated it for granted!

Yes, indeed it is a very gentleman thing to do. I don't really see it as a must because I might take it for granted.

In the earlier response to another mylotter, I recalled those moments when I am out on a shopping trip with my boyfriend, he always helps me with my bags. And I didn't realize his acts of love for me till now. However, as we don't have a car, so my boyfriend have to carry the bags throughout the shopping trips and thus, I will take half of those bags from him because I can't bear to see him struggle with the bags.

But definitely it will take trust for one to allow another person to carry their bags for them. I mean I won't think I will trust someone to take my bag for me if he is a complete stranger although he might have meant well.

Hi, it's very kind of you to help when one is in need.

Yes, some people I know of criticize the guy for carrying all the bags for the ladies, not just those shopping bags but as well as the bag that the lady carries with her. They find it weird. They are perfectly okay with the guy for carrying the shopping bags, but why can't the lady carry her own bag and is there a need to pamper her that way?

Thus, do you think there is a limit on being gentleman or you are fine with carrying all the bags for the lady including her handbag as well?

Of course there is a border.The handbags aren't so heavy,are they?On the whole I meant that I would help if the supposed girl really needed.

Yes, that was exactly why some people I know of criticize the guy for taking everything for the lady including her handbag. Because they find the guy over-pampering the lady.

Hi, thanks for your response. I hope to point out that when I mentioned about people who criticize, it's not because they criticize the guy who offer the help to the lady, but rather being over-pampering the lady because he carry all the bags, including her hand bag. Do you think it's alright or do you agree that the guy over-pampered the lady?

I would carry as much as I could handle.

I see, thanks for sharing. For me, I do think it's over-pampering the lady though. Because unless my handbag is very heavy (and looks like a unisex bag design), else I would just carry my bag on my own because I don't see the need for my boyfriend to be helping me out with it.