do you think people know the meaning of family still ?
By syankee525
@syankee525 (6249)
United States
April 6, 2010 9:16am CST
here's the thing.
my daughter is the one who is always left out of get together with her brother and her cousins. they all will get together and leave her out. but they will hang out with the person sexal assulted her last year. and they say that he's going and why she's invited. to her she feels they picked him over her.
but when i get upset i will run that boy in the dirt and tell them how i see him, but my son and nephew will defend him but wont defend her
then the other two neices will treat her bad unless they need something from her, or my one neice will tried of the other and then other will make up with the other neice and my daughter and in due time it will go right back to being meaning to my daughter and treating her bad.
now the rest of the cousins will not say anything about my daughter hanging out with them to the others or they want my daugter to there.
none of the cousins never stick up for her, because they belive its not thier place to say anything and even some of grown up say they cant get into it my daughter need to learn to deal with it on her own, my wife say the same. to me she have no one standing up for her until just the other day one aunt and her grandma
but she also heard she shouldnt get upset and want to fight punch the one female cousin for running her mouth to my daughter and rubbing it in her face about the guy hanging out with the rest of the cousins, and how none of the other cousins like her. i dont agree we should fight to settle things.
but i did tell my wife maybe the other cousin should have gotten her butt whip then she will learn to keep her mouth shut
but i told my wife and her family i will stand up for my daughter no matter if she's 25 or not, no one else does. and i will pick my daughter over her brother and her cousins. i am told i am wrong. i cant pretend things are ok and it hard for me to be nice or talk to anyone when they treat my daughter bad.
i am also told the parents need to say out of it, but to me these kids are in thier 20's the youngest is 17, and if the kids arent handling this then the parents should step and tell them they arent handling this right
how do you stand on this ? to me no one knows the meaning of family anymore specaily kids,
3 responses
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
6 Apr 10
i think some people know who are still with their families. and some also know who miss their family.
i think there are number of things which could be considered as family are a way which make a person on right path and put people generally far from bad things.
they just support in bad times. share good times.
i love my family and know the meaning.
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
6 Apr 10
yeah when i look at my family (wife side) to me the kids have no idea about family and what it really mean to be a family specailyl if they pick a friend who tried to rape my daughter. to me that is so sad.
@caydensmom (149)
• United States
8 Apr 10
i think familes these days are so caught up in so much stuff they don't have time for each other. tell your daughter to go find some friends of her own, i know that sounded mean saying it like that. but if they dont want to hang around her there is no need to push them to hang out with her. because when they do it will be because the HAVE to not want to. when i was 19 i was living with my sister who was 23 at the time. she had her friends i would hang out with them. but i felt so out of place. so when i started to work i found my own people to hang out with. your daughter needs to be around people that want to hang out with her. not have to. and my brother well he doesnt like his family. its his girlfriend and friends that all he cares about. it hurts no doubt. but i live with the fact that he wont like his family unless we hand him everything he wants.
@umabharti (3972)
• India
6 Apr 10
ofcourse no person want to be alone or cant be alone in the world.so family is something a bound an attachment with the members of it.Might come many fights and quarrles but it is only for a time.After divorce also people get remarried to hav a life again.
