Cupid strikes - across the borders  

I would have preferred Sania seated besides Irfan Pathan. :) And definitely our Irfan is far better looking and well mannered and sophisticated and honest guy than Shoaib Malik. :)

This creepy looking guy married a girl and then denied his marriage. And our Sania seems to be too much in love to face reality. :( Why this seems to catch our attention is that Sania is a Wimbledon player, and we all are very proud of her. Salim Malik belongs to a country that is our sworn enemy. Of course, this gives Sania a chance to be an embassador for our country. But I would prefer a better guy than this fellow who denied his previous marriage.

Is this what people call blind love, or LOVE IS BLIND? How could she do it?
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Yes - I am ok if it makes her happy, but if it makes her happy, I would feel so bad as my hands would be tied down. :( We cant possibly sue Shoaib on his soil! I too pray that everything goes well for the girl. :)

Hi Bamrahkirti, men who are like that never really settle down. :( He is a casanova, and he will remain one. He might at the most show a temporary retreat, but once the child is in the picture, he will again start galavanting as then it is the woman who gets torn between giving child a stable family by adjusting to such things, or walking out. Will Sania have the guts to move out? Even if she has, will the Pakistanis - who are so obsessed with murdering their own kith and kin for the sake of prestige, let her survive? Though I too hope she would be fine, and my fears could be baseless, my heart says she has just set herself up for a big heart break in future. God give her strength when things go bad. :)

Hi Preethaanju, childhood friend is not essentially childhood sweetheart. To date nobody has been able to clearly differentiate between when a friendship is just that and when it crosses over to love. So why do we expect Sania to be perfectly clear about her emotions. Think of it like this, had she continued knowing fully well what she felt for another man, then there is every likelihood that they would have more differences and more heart break. It is better to break before, when the boy still has some scope to recover. But as far as Shoaib Malik is concerned - I fully agree that man is certainly not worth a penny.

Hi Udayrao, I feel to some extent most people are innocent. Nobody knows for certain when or why a particular relationship crosses the friendship level to love and why other friendships remain only friendships. So a good friendship may seem like you care for the person a lot, which is true, but not necessarily love. If the person does come across the difference between the two types of relationship, then it is only honest to break this one. After all, you cant marry somebody for honor, and pine for somebody else! That would be surest way to hurt everybody involved. To that extent, Sania did her childhood friend a favor. And I grant her the benefit of her immaturity. I am sure her childhood friend will see it as it is, and move on.

Abirsinha, honestly my first choice would have been an Indian. I would have got her married to Omar Abdulla, even if it meant she would be second or third wife But Salim Malik - the guy is a conman inside out! Known one at that! How could she have fallen for that guy. I would be ok with many Pakistanis, and feel the same way as you do. But Salim Malik!!!! The girl has to be blind not to see the drawbacks of the guy! I dont think it is kiddish folly! Cricketers come across plenty of fans! I think he must have assiduously pursued her! She is herself quite rich! So she would hardly have run behind a guy like that leaving our own handsome guys like Irfan Pathan, and others. No - definitely he changed his mind later after marrying her.

Hi msfrancisco, we do feel protective, isn't it? :) I'd feel that way even for my neighbor's child, or distant relative! If you know the guy is wrong, you feel like saving the girl. :)

What's so poor about a man who can pay afford to 61 lakhs as mehr! That too outside his country!

Why do you men clan up together?

Never mind.

I hope Sania remembers to use her racquet, and is able to hit Shoaib hard enough like a tennis ball everytime he errs. This guy needs to be tamed.

Aha.....Cunning eh..? She is married to the money...luxurious ladies...foxes

You make me sick wit! Sania has ample monies of her own! Tennis pays her better than cricket could ever do, you know. :)

Hi Cupid, how are you doing? :)

Actually, Jehangir Khan, and Waseem Akram were just some people I selected to give an idea about the kind of guy I would have found for my daughter. Of course, I would have looked for younger versions of these two. :) They are so polite, rational, educated and polished. Pity they belong to your country.

Now Salim Malik leaves much to be desired! :(

I give you all a responsibility Cupid. Look after our Sania. I think Malik would have to transform into a sterling character to gain my confidence. She is too cute to be troubled, isn't she? :) We all love her very dearly. It is her personal affair of course. Just wish she would have found a better Pakistani to love. I do believe good people exist on both sides of the border.

And yes, I think such marriages might bring us nearer. Love will win the war may be :)

While on it, I dont think my government tells me hundred percent of what is the real problem. Do you believe your government does? I also do not understand many things to take a firm stand on any issues. As a grown up, I believe there can be different view points, and both can be right in their context. The reports that I read in the newspapers are based on personal prejudices. I feel my rational mind questioning many of them, but no way to get answers to my questions. Much as I love my country, I dont think we always did right thing. I am basically a mind your own business type of person. So I feel Bangladesh was a mistake. Generations are paying price for it. But couldnt we just talk this over instead of losing lives! How many families must lose sons and husbands, and become families without bread winners before we come to our senses? Our economies are not exactly going great guns to pour in these fights. Cant we negotiate instead of you slapped me so I will slap back attitude? What do you think cupid? Does love have a chance? Does peace have a chance? Havent we got enough earthquakes, droughts, and cyclones to tackle that we add war to the list? I do want to know how modern Pakistanis think and feel. Sorry it is straying from topic, but it interests me. If you dont feel like answering this, I will understand. :)

...My goodness Vandana.........you are protecting Sania like a mother hen....Imagine asking Cupid here to protect her and to take up responsibility for her......Its sad that you are also taking this marriage between two souls as an Indo Pak thing....We Indians tend to get too emotionally involved when we come to personal lives of public people..and always give a prejudiced verdict.....
I really felt sorry for Sohaib and Sania the way the media had set up a watch in front of Sania's house hoping and waitng for titbits which they could flare up to big proportions ...And I am feeling sorry for Cupid too for having to act as a spokesman for his country....Vandana ,both of us know that this Indo-Pak war thing is something that is politically motivated and there are foreign hands with vested interests who are keen that the two countries should remain enemies for ever.....I dont think we should blame the citizens of either countries for the current state of affairs......sigh.....

Yeah rose, I too think there are vested interests. Countries whose economies are highly dependent on sale of arms would definitely like the issues to continue to simmer. It is up to us to become wiser.

Of course, I feel like a mother hen about Sania! But cupid dear, it has nothing to do with nationality of Salim Malik. If she'd found some casanova like that in India also I would have felt like that. Hope you are wise enough to understand that concern. :)

And I am asking cupid a favor as he is my friend. :) Hope he wont let me down. :)

Hi Vandana

Thanks for Detailed Reply. About Sania and Shoaib and about Indo Pak relation.

Rose has already replied it to u in detail

Ok here come point to point.
1) Marriage, its success is depend on both boy and girl and their families. so in this case its entirely on them. And in this case where cross border and cross cultural activities are involved, they have to be veery careful and broad minded, Both have their circles of fans.

Regarding INDo Pak Relations, i only that if we dont have Issue of Kashmir or sia cheen, how politician of coth sides get votes and power???
politician on our areas do politics on Dead Bodies. we create issue. let common people fight then we play on them for yrs.

trust me people dont think like that here. they never want fight

if we dont have such Huge budgets for defence, i am sure situation of common public would be more better, we might not be poor nations.

Cupid,

By looking after my girl, I meant if you feel something unfair is being done to her, do express - even if it is not heard. Do not be silent. Hamari amanat samajh kar khayal kijiyega. :)

And I am so glad to know that educated Pakistani feel the same way about politicians as we Indians do. And that it is their vested interested as well that makes them keep the war on. I dont know how far it is true, but in arms deal, there are ample kickbacks, which the politicians share along with senior army officials. Makes me feel sick!

Of course, Kashmir and Siachen are non issues if they can be discussed on the table. One negotiation party after another till the issue is resolved. I give some you give some together we stop this massacre of our own countrymen. We've lost so many! Not a single one of our politician has a son in Army! Do you have any politician whose son is in the army?

As long as we are not fooled, and you and me are able to be friends, knowing that we are not fooled by our politicians, we have chance for peace. Lets hope some honest guys reach there.

Have a nice day.

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Shukriya. :) You are cunning cupid. :) Sirf dua? :)

Hi Dear

Well sure yaar we can pray for their succesful marriage

Resat they have to solve it them selves, itstheir personal life and we cant and shouldnot inrterfere. what u think???

Why do I feel meri bachchi wahan akeli pad jaayegi, kuch problems aayi to. :( Really like that kid a lot, watched every match of hers, (and ate a lot of snacks while I watched those matches). It feels like my own kid is out there in the woods - the sort of pity you'd feel for Hansel and Gratel. :) I too pray that she succeeds, and may be brings the two countries closer. :)

wish u all the best