Mother’s day and the sons  

Hi prof!

Pretty sad. In the USA there are many "homes" for older people. I am hoping that most of them are ok, but from experience they are not because of lack of funds for an adequate staff.

A lot of Americans feel it is ok to leave their parents alone in these places and come on occasion to say hello. I guess I am also guilty to a degree as when my mother got to a point in her Alzheimer's when I could not take care of her, my brother and I had little choice to put her in a facility. Sad, but it had to happen.

Here in Thailand, I am very impressed at the family tradition and values. When your parents get to that point of age the kids will take care of them.

As far as there are some medical ailments, they can be given excuse for it depends on their personal lives whether they can afford or not...but the ones who leave them just like that for the sake of their wives or children or because of some other reason, i sincerely feel God will defntly teach them good lessons and make them repent for the things they did

dear professor,

the thought of a home for the elderly is very sad. but without those, what will happen to this poor old people abandoned by their own flesh and blood?
i cannot allow my mother to stay in one. all of us, her siblings thinks this way. she has been the best person anyone can have.. her children are very lucky. we will take care of her until the very end.
ann

hi friends
It is very bad feeling that you shared with us. But it is true it happen all over world. I have feeling to help out these old people but unable to help them. Because I am help less I am trying to perform my duty only to look after my parents. Thanks buddy. Wish u a happy and nice day.

Hi Professor, Good day to you!
I met in an OLDAGE HOME a different couple! Their children want to have them at their homes! But this couple is bent upon staying in the old age home: the reason they say:
Both my sons & daugter-in-laws go to work and we are finding it difficult to manage the house and grand children. Plus we are contributing to the old age home my entire pension amount, hence I am an asset to the institution..We are having enough friends of same age group and are more happy & comfortable here. A coin always has two sides..Old people at home can take only certain possible responsibility. Expecting more leads to confusion also!
Keep Smiling!

Pretty sad!!A son can be a bad son,but a mother can never be a bad mother. We,as children of our parents and parents of our children,we should do better,and make our parents live happy and give children a good sample.

There are old age homes in my country, but mostly people keep their old people in their home. A middle class family can afford to appoint a nurse or maid to take care of the old father or mother. Not many people will leave their parents in old age homes. Most of the people who work abroad keep their prents in the same home with servants.

I feel the same way with you. I feel so sad for these old people who are left behind by their children. Money or any material things cannot make them happy. At this stage, they need love and care. That's what matters most. We have also some home for the aged here in my country but not so common. Traditionally, we take care of our parents when they get old and we do love them so much. We are strong family oriented. We never let each other separated.

So, i really pity those old people who are stuck in a boring homes.

My parents would complain about this when we was younger; Don't leave me in no nursing home, etc etc. Well, I kept my promise to my father; No lie. My mom, she had to go into one for three weeks just to get her therapy from her stroke. And though it seems as though we forever getting into it and butting heads, I STILL wont put her in one if she don't need to be there. plain and simple.

yes we doing we have old folks homes and assistant living homes.
My mom wanted to go to assistant living home and that is where she is altho I wanted her to come live with me she refused.
My brother and his wife go every other day to visit and get her clothes to wash.
My brother calls me so I can talk to mom and we visit sometimes along time but mostly short times and she might not remeber that she has talked to me till days later.
I will get to see her wehn I go up there in June for family reunion I and grand daughter go up every year they live over 500 miles from me so takes about 10 hours to drive it.
And I think that we pay way to much for no more than they do for her.
AS differnt people come in to take vitals and bath her and get her dressed for the day pay for that ourselfs. all they do for mom there is a room with a bed in it she has her own chair little fridge and a tv she dont watch to often and they cook and bring her to the dinning room thats it.
BUt a grand kids go visit her to and ya can go anytime of the day to see her which is good.
They had a 90th birthday party there last month and she said that she did enjoy all of the kids and her party.
She also sleeps most of teh time