i am new person in a new family.   

ok friend if i say everything to my husband, it will make misunderstanding with his parents. so i am scared.

my mother-in -law only cooks in home. she wont allow me to cook. if i say something to them, they first take in wrong manner only. i have no other sister in law, only one brother in law. but he is so far away. he comes once in a month. i will be with my mother in law for a whole day. i have no freedom.

so sad dear, when I was married i also have no any freedom and now also i have no any freedom. Mother-in-low is the most stupid person in todays society. I have never want to say this word but i think no any wrong as I said.

kirthy dear! I am sorry that you are faced with a tough situation.Are you qualified? If your mother inlaw cooks at home, does she allow you to help her or does she keep finding fault with what you do? Try and occupy your time by doing some reading and writing . Try and keep quiet if motherinlaw is rude.Ask very politely if you can help in some way.If she is rude , do not talk back but keep quiet and finish all your duties meticulously.Keep your room very clean and do not talk too much with mother inlaw. Too much of talking also leads to unnecessary problems. I would also like to share a bit of advice that my mother told me when I got married.SHe told me that I should not talk anything about my parents, siblings or my father's house. I have followed this advice. THere is nothiNG wrong in talking but some people may not take it in the right spirit.
THere is also a possibility that your mother inlaw expects something [I cannot predict what this is] from you and so she behaves oddly.Is there a servant maid or hired help at home to do washing of vessels , clothes, cleaning up of the house etc?

yes i am helping her to cook. but she is always telling any mistakes about me. but it is correct, once i said about my family. these people are taking in a wrong manner. they are telling their family is only good, and others are bad. if i tell my problems to my husband . he advised me to not think about that. really friend i can not say even to my parents also. if my family members are coming to here. they are not respecting my people. i want to go to a private house.is it right?

Kirthy! It is a period of adjustment for all of you.Just give it time.Once you get a child, then things would get better.Now, don't get tense on account of this because unless your mind is relaxed and at ease , this is also difficult[conceiving].
Secondly, you must not think of a separate establishment because that will antagonise your husband forever.You have married the guy and in our Indian scenario we take parentsinaw along with the boy.I can understand how you cannot confess your difficulties to your parents too. But your husband would ger irritated if you tell him too much.Your motherinlaw may be lacking in patience and understanding.I would suggest you just stoop to conquer.You must please your husband and thta should be your priority.Are you going out to work or are you working from home?

yes friend, before marriage i was un a teaching job. but after marriage, my husband asked me to stay in home. if i talk about that he get tensed.my mom also advised me to not get tensed for get pregnancy , what you say.
some times i am in confusion. because, the girl have to leave her parent. but boys are not like that. i am getting anger, for the culture. girl s parents are also grew up with care, but the boy s parents are always in higher level. girls and their parents have to be like this only. why the society is in this bad level?

good. dear friend.